How to get friends in real life? I have many friends online, but..ya know what I mean right? It's good to have a friend who you can see, touch and talk in person.
I am shy around people and Im always overthinking. I think people will start bullying me.
I want to be more social. Please help me!

Just be yourself. Don't pay attention to what others say. Be honest and upfront of who you are.

Socializing comes with practice. Start with small talk. Ask how someone is doing, listen to them, and try to act friendly. It can be difficult at first, but once you get used to it, you'll feel comfortable in most situations.

okay, so ima tell you how it works for me....

walk up to the person you wanna be friends with and say "you will not belive what bae did today" (somehow that always works for me XD)

basically just walk over to the person you wanna be friends with and talk to them like yall were always friends, most people just go along wih it and eventually (like a few hours or a few weeks, depending on the person) yall will be friends...

(or that's how it works for me, try it) ^_^

On the flipside of what >>4 said, be approachable. Be the kind of person others wouldn't mind sharing a bench with.

Listening is always key, but getting good friends in real life is also about having a reciprocated relationship. Friendship should not be one-sided. Approach someone that you know will have something at least minutely in common, such as enjoy the same sport, or you know watch the same TV series, or even had to do the same worksheet in school. Once you find that common ground, it will be less awkward and more natural to talk to them.

If that doesn't work, I highly suggest joining a club or a sports team or something that would put you in an environment that forces you to interact with people.

Don't give up!

You don't, have fun :D

>>7 S A V A G E

>>2 thats what I have always been.
>>4 Im actually really scared to do this. I think they will think Im strange.

There is another problem...
people accept the myth that Im the 'quiet, strange and small girl' and they aren't friendly with me. I guess I have to move to another area to make new friends, because everybody knows my face here and...ya know, Its a big problem,...

>>9

tbh in this day and age strange is the new "normal" if you act normal ppl will call you basic (sometimes) and thats looked down upon sometimes....

dont be afraid to be called atrange because thats kinda a complement

>>9 Quiet and small girls can be pretty cute. Use this to your advantage. Quiet and strange girls can be mysterious which could make people want to find more about you as long as you don't make yourself look like a weirdo. Be a little confident, yeah? You can do it if you put your mind to it! I am also shy and think a lot but that's not necessarily a bad thing; you're just trying not to get in situations that you find uncomfortable. However, staying quiet and not making contact with people for long will get you used to it and you will become antisocial and completely lose all your social skills. Please try to talk to people and surely you will live a happier life with good friends. You might not make friends straight away but as long as your are nice, polite and well-mannered, people will see you in a good light which you will want. This will lead to people wanting to befriend you.

Good luck!

Approach people how you would want to be approached. When you feel lonely and wish someone , anyone would come up and talk to you. Observe that moment. Look at what you're doing. Then when you want to approach someone, you might have a better idea of what their behavior will be like when they wish to be talked to. Not everyone is the same, But i'm sure we all look at our phones when we don't want to talk to someone in the elevator. Or rather have peace when eating than be in company of others (so we find a secluded area to be). Ask questions about them. Casual questions. start with something simple. point out something obvious. I saw a girl once with anime t-shirts and bags. one day I brought one of my anime bags and she approached me pointing it out. Friend made.
Everyone has something they can talk about endlessly without noticing. For me it's my pets. I just go on and on.
be polite. If you accidentally interrupt them. finish the sentence then apologies "oh sorry i interrupted you, go on" or don't finish the sentence and do that cute exchange of "no you go ahead, oh no no you first"
try to remember little things. If the conversation slopes and ends awkwardly, try to remember something they causally said and bring it up again. "you mentioned something about _____ ? "
feel free to let them know you're not very good at social interactions. Most people will encourage you and might even relate. "sorry im not very good at conversations" "oh! haha me neither!"
In class it might be easier to start with people on either side of your seat. people tend to choose a spot and stick with it the rest of the year. So you can start by waving. having extra pencils encase they ask. extra paper. Being in class a little early sometimes offers opportunity too. Or you can do what i do. awkwardly stand in the hall with a classmate and say nothing.

I'll have to say something discouraging here.
It's up to fate. Of course, you can go out and see what happens, but whether you find someone fit for you is up to coincidence.
That being said, try to fit into groups with the same interests. Approach ppeople who talk about topics that interest you, it's really not that hard to join a conversation while you're waiting for something. For example, if you're eating lunch and someone talks about how much they love *insert currently popular series*, then just be brave and ask them: Hey, me too, who's your favourite character?
And that's how it works for every topic, politics, music, art, whatever. Your hobbies are the key to your friends. Of course you'll have to experience some letdowns, but in the worst case scenario, some strangers will think you're weird. That's a small price to pay for possibly finding the friend of a lifetime. Overcome your shyness and leave an impression, it's for your own good.

Just don't be afraid to be yourself. If you've made friends online, you can do it IRL too.

>>13 Lol. There's no such thing as fate and you immediately contradict yourself by saying the word 'coincidence' in the next sentence. That's so oxymoronical. Coincidences don't happen if fate exists.


No one is destined to have no friends for their whole life. That's stupid. Don't believe something like that is your 'fate' just because you couldn't make any friends in the first few days. Using fate as an excuse shows that you're weak and don't have enough will-power to reach your goal.

There are many incredible things that man has done in the past century. No one would have thought that an industrial revolution or reaching the moon would be possible before those events happened. Compared to that, making friends is hella easy. Just follow the tips and you'll be fine. Confidence!

>>15 I have never been good at making friends actually..
Don't worry, I'll try hard
>>13 its a good point, I know a girl who is also a kpopper like me; I can someday start talking to her. thanks for the tip!
>>14 It sounds easy...
and Im not afraid of being my self. No-no.

Thanks for all the tips, guys! :3