It was night and I was watching anime, when someone came and rang the doorbell. I thought it was someone we know so I just opened it without thinking. When I opened the door, I saw a helpless women asking for a for a blanket. I know we have lots of it and can easily buy one. I asked my sister and mother for permission but they simply rejected the idea of giving someone a blanket to a complete stranger. But I still insist in giving one. She was really thankful and gave me a hug. She explained her situation to me, saying she was living with a abusive person and run away from the city she live in looking for a place to stay. I wanted to invite her in but I know my family would disagree. She might be sleeping outside tonight.So I gave her a number cause I know someone who could her situation and have her a place to stay for a while. Afterwards, my sister asked me where did I get that kind of moral. So I want to ask what did I do wrong?

You did something that has no clear benefit for you or your family, unless you count being satisfied with yourself a benefit, then it would just mean you're being selfish. If you think you are kind giving something to a stranger, it could be a scam, and even if it isn't, she could lose the blanket anyway.

In short, you wasted a blanket.

>>2 Put yourself in her shoes.
You live with an abusive person and you decided you run away from home. Every safe haven you know in your city, is also known by that person and can easily dragged you back. So you decided to leave the city, to a place where that person can't find you. When you arrive to that city, it was nearly midnight. Every building are close and most people are sleeping. You tried sleeping outside, in this winter cold but you can't. You wanted a blanket that will keep you warm. So you went door-to-door, trying to find someone who could give you one. But most people have the same mindset as you, so no one gave you one. You explained your situation to them, yet still no one gave you one. Until you find that particular house who willingly gave you a blanket, which is my home. You didn't know that there was internal strife inside the house on whether they give you a blanket or not. And only one person agree to give it to you. You were so thankful that finally someone have you a blanket and was kind enough to find you a shelter on the next day. But for now, you just have to get through to night, find a nice place to stay, and sleep with this comfy blanket.

>>3
Say that to your sister, dude

You helped someone in need, you did nothing wrong. Not a lot of people would do that for a stranger.

You didn't do anything wrong.
There could have been several possibilities,

She could have been a drug addict making up a lie to get a blanket,
Your mother was probably wondering why she should give away a blanket she bought for her family to a stranger she didn't know,
She was perhaps telling the truth and really did need the help.

So you did nothing wrong in your eyes. You were helping a woman in need

Bleeeehhh. Good man I suppose, but if the same thing happened every day for a year with different women, would you do the same and give each and every one of them a blanket? If you are a very generous person, then be generous, but don't let people use your kindness just because you just 'happened' to feel like helping someone or 'it would make you feel good about yourself'. If you help one stranger with no ties to you whatsoever, it means you are willing to do the same no matter how many times it happens. It's only fair that way.

There's also the problem with scams and conning. You should interrogate suspicious people with no evidence like her before helping them. Bring them into your house with all your family watching. No way would she make a move or lie if you are that intimidating. You can't trust anyone in this world; not even yourself. Don't help people just because you feel like it or on a whim; find valid reasoning which does not contradict anything you believe in.

Oh well. You helped her. If fate decides to let you two meet again, she should know she is indebted to you. Be ready for some pusi.






'Tis a good moon.

>>3 Seriously? You helped her find a shelter? But meh, you did neither good nor wrong, because your action benefits someone and demerits someone at the same time.

But seriously, don't just give out free shit, your family will get angry at some point.