well this is my personal view. i have a girl in school that shuts out people because she´s in a bad time right now. well, we used to be friends until she kinda got mean and ignored me. i guess the only thing i could do was to let her be, since she did not want to talk to me... and it pains me to have to leave a person that is in a bad shape but.. i guess that the only way to be nice to someone is to let go and realize that you might not be the one who can help her, and therefore let someone take your place... i´m still hoping that she will get better and when she does. i will be there for her. but whats bothering me the most.. is the reason she feel that way. she hates herself. and she does have an anger management problem. but why is that? we are not perfect, we was not born perfect. so she might as well accept her flaws and open her eyes and see that she has awesome abilities that she should not take or granted. i understand that she has been picked on. but time has gone by. there is always room for a change, it might be a though one, but it will be worth it! why can´t she see that the scars that she gotten is beautiful because it shows that she had a past that she is strong enough to get over? why can´t she see that she has a personality. why is she so afraid of life? when she never even tried to live? why is she so lonely, when there is no need for her to be lonely. i guess i´ll never get the answer to that... maybe she is just a person that goes with the flow.. but what if she decided to be herself? that, my friend. would be my wish. i wish for her to let herself be strong. to stop living in the dark and let the sun shine over her so that she can grow into the beautiful flower she is. i hope her the best. i hope the best for all of you. don´t be afraid to accept yourself. i accept you. please, i know that i´m not the only person why wishes for you to be happy and cries when seeing you all alone. take a step forward. there are people that will love you just as much as i love my dear friend who i sadly had to let go, in order to save her...

I agree with your philosophy, and if you want to help your friend, I would just recommend smiling to them when you see them, or small subtle things that can help them know they are cared for. Try leaving anonymous notes or something letting them know someone out there cares for them. I am not much of a social person, so I haven't come by many of these cases, and none were this extreme. I've tried this in my small short term cases, and it has helped them a lot.