I started to feel this way when I was 13, I'm already 16 now. I don't know why every little thing that he does pisses me off. When he gave me advice on how I should be living my life I'd think of 'wow yes I'm such a disgrace to you I should die I don't deserve your love like how my other siblings get'. It hurts. I literally do what I like but he always say that I'm wasting my time , I should go study and such. I have my own life too.

I don't want to be thinking that he's not my father. I know myself that if this goes on, I might just abandon him when I have a job one day and I start living with my own family. I don't want that.

What should I do? I don't want to be a bad child to him. Eventhough I have that teeny tiny hatred towards him , I still want to make him proud of me one day. I want him to look at me like he looks at my older sisters .

I really seek for your help, if there's any advicre, I'm willing to hear it.

Thank you

I'm not on good terms with my parents, either of them and the only person I can go to is online, and I can't see him until I move out.

But I know how you feel, ow no matter how hard you try, nothing is ever going to be good enough and you just sit and stare and wonder 'What did I do that was so wrong?'

I always thought that the answer was the simple fact that I was born. But after thinking about it and some serious talking with people, it wasn't me who was the problem. It was them, and the fact that they are parents and that they will always take out the stress and problems on you.

I am the oldest child of four and I wish he would notice me other than when I make a new song or get in trouble. I wish he would hug me, not a one sided, pat on the back hug, but a two armed, bear hug, I love you more than life hug.

I still have a small amount of hatred to my father, but I have the option to direct it on my mother who has done worse to me. I'm not saying you should do that though.

Here is what I am saying.

You need to sit down with him and have an honest to heart talk with him. I'm not saying in the first day unless you want to, that is your choice. But if you don't want to jump that far then talk to him a little everyday, ask him how his day was, can you get something for him, or heck, do what I did and stand in front of the tv and said "Hey, lets what a movie, or play a game."

I really hope this helps you.

I know what you mean. My sister suffers from a pretty bad case of anxiety, and my Mom is so paranoid that she thinks she may turn to suicide one day. I talk to her, and I know it hasn't gone that far, but it's quite clear to both of us that my parents treat her softer than they treat me.

Before I provide any advice, I'd like to say that I appreciate the help you're trying to seek by asking how to get along with your Dad. It is certainly twice the effort I see people put into appreciating their parents.

Now as for the promised advice, I can provide this much:

-Get to know your Dad. I know this can be difficult sometimes, especially when your Dad is a stubborn introvert, like mine. But if there is something that your Dad feels passionate about, and have little conversations with him about it. For example, my Dad is practically in love with basketball. I'm not as into it, but every now and then, I show him a Vine of some crazy trick shot or something.
-Tell him you love him. I know this sounds weird, but if you two are in the car or something and you aren't saying anything, and you hadn't fought that day, just say a quick, "I love you, Dad." These small comments are important, and I'm sure he loves you, too.
-Make jokes with your Dad. Everyone bonds over a good laugh, so if you can mold your sense of humor into something similar to his, you two are sure to bond in one way or another. This can also be difficult if your Dad tries to come off as humorless, but everyone has a sense of humor deep down somewhere, so if you can find how to trigger it, you two are sure to bond.
-Lastly, if you are still bothered by something, you should talk to your Dad about it. This, unfortunately, may end in another fight, but if you play your cards right, you may be able to come to an agreement. When talking to your Dad, don't pull the typical teenager and just sulk every time he says something that upsets you, but try to think more maturely: Don't raise your voice, don't look away from him, and don't let his voice and his temper unnerve you. Please heed my word, and apologize when you have done something wrong. Try not to come up with some bullshit excuse either. Just say you're sorry and fix the problem. This is about having humility. We are not perfect, and we are bound to make mistakes. Granted, that doesn't mean your Dad is always right (even if he seems to claim so), but if you admit your mistakes, with time, he should admit his.

I hope this advice helps and I hope you and your Dad work it out together.