I have a friend that I don't want to be friends with anymore. I've gotten closer to them in the last few months(semester) and seen things about their personality I didn't notice before. Many things have also happen that I don't want to be involved in.

I already knew our friendship had an expiration date from the beginning. It's just coming sooner than I thought. I've discovered we don't really have any of the same interests and things get repetitive with conversation and it's annoying, frustrating, and boring. Whenever there's conversation I end up not saying anything or just turning off listening to them (mostly because I've already heard them say these things before). I can see that our friendship has run it's run.

But so many things have happened that I don't want to be involved in, and don't want our mutual people to be involved in because they're not involved and are distance from this situation. My mentality now changes around them and I don't like it and it's not healthy for me.

They don't like conflict at all. They are really sensitive. I was seeing if I could just distance myself but it's not really working.Or even making myself be unlikable to get the message but their just passive and won't even address things they just become quiet and look at their phone.

I don't know what to do. When to do it or what means it should be by. Face to face, e-mail, message, or writing a letter(!?)

Advice or help would be pleasant and good

In regard to cutting ties of friendship, the keen observation and understanding of the second party is important. Now you seem to be aware of how they respond to various situations.

Distancing yourself is the best failsafe, however you have stated this is proving uneventful correct? I assure you that is a category far wider then you expect. If you are truly dedicated to parting with these people in a comely manner you may have to face the fact a long termed process of separation could be the only option. If you are willing to cooperate in such a task then read on.

The steps of fading away in the eyes of others take the care of both simple and complicated actions. If you are seeking new friends then I suggest blurring the time you spend between them. Im going to go on a educated whim and assume you are in Highschool. . . now try limiting lunch hours with your peers, eating with them only at first then departing to associate with others. You could continue this and gradually cu the time with them during social passing periods all together. Another importance is the ability of communication. If you are constant joining them during the weekends and such it would still portray you for being dedicated to those friendships. in the same way as limiting social eating periods you would follow up to invitation to outings by creating /believable/ excuses then general deny the outing without the given reason.

This is about as much as I can give you, the rest depends on the situation.

Could you explain more what you meant by " in the same way as limiting social eating periods you would follow up to invitation to outings by creating /believable/ excuses then general deny the outing without the given reason."

Also I'm in college and I was acquaintances then became friends with them. I have classes with this person(so I spend two days of my week with them) and now see their personality.

Basically you should avoid needless situations to engage in a social outing with them, but not completely drop their company all together. Try over time to create liable excuses for not engaging with the person socially then after a while. Over time it should result to them becoming less likely to press personal outings, and if they do simply tell them you cannot.

In regard to classes I surest attempting to limit the ,if any, conversation between you to. Attempt to reconstruct a professional relationship as if you were working backwards the course of becoming close with a person.

Of what I've gathered they do not seem to be a rather desperate person, and wouldn't stress upon spending time with you. In their presence you could simply try to look busy or flustered, making it easier to brush them off if they bring up plans.

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Tell them you need space Don't be scared to say what you want i like having a cute stocker girl hmm cute girl follow me around i just Wouldn't give up but im not you do what you feels right i cant live my life an yours lool merry Christmas or happy holidays i hope it works out