There are 2 main things i seek in life: Love and Strength.

But i wonder, if to achieve one i'd have to give up on the other, which one would i choose? The conditions would be:

- If i chose Love, i wouldn't be able to be strong anymore, i'd have to live with my weaknesses and the impossibility of being strong;
- If i chose Strength, i wouldn't be able to love anything or anyone, but i could still be loved, which basically means i would always hurt the ones that choose to love me because i can't love them the same way.

I know Love seems like the obvious choice, but i can't decide since in my eyes strength is the only way to change, besides if you can love you can hate, stuff like betrayal and selfishness would always be by my side and without the capebility of being strong i'd just fall.

Before i say goodbye, i'd like to point out that i know such choice would never happen but i feel like if i knew the answer i would know more about myself and who i'm supposed to become.

TAHNKS FOR READING!!!!

Why try to be perfect? Why try to be some role-model character? You're not a superhero or an anime protagonist; you're human. Just do what you feel is right since everyone is pathetic.

Also, does true strength not come from love? Does strength not come from wanting to protect something? Is that not love? Or is it that you think being strong means being an emotionless object with no weakness? Wouldn't life be meaningless without love? What is the point in having strength if you don't even love yourself? What then, would the purpose of having strength be? To live a life with less pain? To experience less sadness? Don't be act a spoiled child. Love is strength; strength is love. Love from others gives you strength. That means you appreciate their love. That in itself is also a form of love.

You're right, i'll always be strong as long as i love, had so many mixed feelings abouy this subject that i compleletly forgot the obvious.

Thanks for the help and sorry for wasting your time!

I agree with what Holo said.

However, do beware! Love is a double-edged sword. You may becone stronger, but you may also become weaker.

Why am I saying this? No, this is not to discourage you from loving at all. Just be skeptical with the people you choose to love. Of course, there's an element of obscurity to everything so... luck perhaps plays a role in it too.

Best of luck!

>>1 I don't want to say anything that's been said so let's try this then. Isn't love like completeness? Can you truly be strong without being complete? Now this is where my first thought was to say that love is strength, which has been said already, but I feel like there's more to it.
You see, if you don't ever love then you adjust to not having it or wanting it, but if you do have it then it can be looked at as a weakness because if we lose it then it hurts us more than when you started without it. We can't be sad for something we haven't seen or experienced but if you find something amazing then if you lose it then it really significantly hurts you.
Now is it strength if you don't have something to overcome? Is strength not having a problem or overcoming it? That's hardship or struggles I feel. It might be that you only are able to have things that require true strength when you find something that you love.
And can you truly have strength without being whole? Maybe I'm the only one who thinks of it like that but whatever. You can disagree with that part if you want. I hope I said something new or interesting though.

Also, I feel like you're confusing a few of the factors there, and it also depends on our own definition of what strength and love are. Too many factors! DX But I hope you find the answer you're looking for ^^

To love is to be vulnerable, to be vulnerable is to show your strenght.

My goal was always to not disappoint the people around, sometimes not because i liked them but because i was too scared of what they may think of me. So i created my concept of strength: a fearless sword able to cut not only enemies but friends aswell when needed. Now if i translate this it would mean don'be too selfish but don't be selfless either, because my reason to satisfy their needs was justified with "they make me happy so i'll make them happy aswell".

But i never realized i couldn't do that if i didn't love them care about them at all and i started wondering if love takes place in caring about someone and you might disagree with me but my conclusion was no, it doesn't. When i compared the ones i loved with the ones i cared about, there was such a difference in protecting someone i love with protecting someone i care about that it didn't even seem like love was there at all when it came to caring.

I have no idea what conclusion to take about this or even in what context i just wrote this but i felt like writing it anyway, again thanks for reading!

>>7 ...

Caring for someone is loving them bruh.

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>>9
Not necessarily.
Sometimes you care about someone because your whole life has revolved around them, and they're a big part in shaping your identity, future, etc.
Doesn't mean we automatically love them.
There are also times when it's more of an obligation. 'They helped us a lot, so we have to repay them'. When you keep this in your mind long enough, you might mistake it for love, and yes, sometimes it really is, but sometimes it's not. In these cases, caring about them is a sense of self-fulfilmen rather than lovet.
Sounds morbid, but it's true.

>>10
That's a point. But again, that type of caring is just obligation, isn't it. That's a different type of caring altogether. Truly caring for someone isn't out of obligation; it't out of love. In this context I completely disregarded the type of caring which you are referring to. Sorry for the misunderstanding.

Just to simply answer your question, I would choose love over strength. Without love, we're kind of useless xD Whats the use of strength if there is nothing you love to protect with said strength

Love is in a way a strength, it makes you do a lot that you never would have been able to do (lets think of good things such as getting an awesome job to support your partner). It can be what will break you too... but then if you make it out alive then you become stronger. I don't make sense do I? XD

You do make sense. Dont worry about that xD
What trials that don't break a relationship at all makes them stronger which i can totally agree with.

>>12 i've been bad when it comes to interacting with people all my life, that's why i thought about choosing strength over love at some point

>>15 But is that still you're answer now? I have to say back in high school I would have chosen strength over love, but now I have people I care about, I would never get rid of love for anything.

>>16 I've been thinking about everyone's answers along with the thoughts i already had about this particular subject and casme to the conclusion i would always choose love because even if i don't need it now (i need it now but if i didn't) i'd need it in the future!

That's the key, it's easy to pick one when you only put in consideration the present, but as much as i try, i can't live a lonely life, i'll always need someone to cheer me up, to make sacrifices for me, to yell at me, and i wanna do that aswell, you know what i mean? I want to help someone else even if it hurts me because sometimes the best way to solve our problems is to help others! If to help someone i care for i need to be at the bottom, then i'll gladly do it, and i know that goes against my concept of strength but i didn't choose it anyway so fuck it.

Thanks for reading and sorry for wasting your time!