3 Name: Law : 2015-11-06 23:04 ID:e2qB0kaI [Del]
I think five years is a bit excessive. My advice is: I presume that the two of you will be in bed tonight... ask her about it. You don't want to marry someone who can't even tell you the truth. This is not all her problem either. You must look at yourself mate. Odds are, if every situation one finds oneself in is problematic, they are the problem.
4 Name: Prototape : 2015-11-06 23:08 ID:pJKQ9Qyl [Del]
I was in this exact position years ago (engaged, together five years, etc). It ended with her seeing another guy while we were on a 'break'. Needless to say we were done, things sucked for a while, I got over it, and I'm happier for it.
What should you do? Whatever I'm going to say, you probably won't take to heart because I probably wouldn't have, but if you feel like it might be over, approach it head-on and get it over with. In my case, I refused to let go and just got burned over and over again, pretty much akin to me putting my hand in the fire refusing to believe it was hot, only to try again a few more times.
That was a really rough experience, but what I gained from it is acceptance that sometimes shit happens and connections we make with people can be temporary despite what our hearts tell us. In this case, you still love her, but maybe she's over you. There's nothing you can do to change that, and even if you were to convince her to stay, I doubt her heart would be in it. You'd just go through the same thing down the road.
Try and have a talk with her and get it over with. A real talk rather than "What's wrong?", be forthcoming about what you feel you know instead of asking open ended questions because you're afraid of what the answer might be. It's better than sitting around here wondering what the hell is going on.
Prepare for the possibility that it's over, start thinking about what to do next, and keep moving forward dude. There's much more out there for us in life, relationships are just a very small fraction of it.
