it might be sudden for me to ask help when i just joined after5 days but i just want to ask how people cope with their fears and depression or at least get them off your mind..
you see i have fear of men. it started because of my father, who since before i was little, i recieved already mental and physical abuses like punches and cuts. i don't have that fear when we are still living with him (we don't have a choice) but when due to circumstances, he was arrested (but not for long) and that's when my fear develop.
i started screaming when a guy touches me and i cried when they tried to talk to me. there are even times i never go out of the female's bathroom that the teacher had to call my mom just to let me out. i received advices and talks but all of it doesn't make sense like "not all men are like that you know" and i thought .. not all are but they are plenty..
until now i still grieve everytime before i go to sleep because i know a very long and deep scar will not be able to leave my body when i got the cut that day where my father throw me the knives like i'm a practice board

How long have you had your fear of men?

Yes I am male, and yeah not all men are like that but unforchinutly there are a lot, I've never met people afraid of men so I don't have much of an idea how to help, just want u to know there is a man (teen) hoping for your best,

Ps, if u want just a friend u can talk to online, let me know here,

for Aerax. i have had it for almost 5 years now.
for tom1234: that really helps a lot that somehow

i have a guy friend who isn't the same like others, i can fully trust him but he has a habit of bringing his problems to me like love life.. its not like i hate it but i just hope he will hear me out too

>>1 >>3 No, men like that are scarce !

If your reason is able to overtake on your fear (think that's a not justified fear), live normally.

Else, go a to psychologist or a specialist who can help you.

>>7 Or speak a lot about your fear to that guy.

that's kinda like one of the issue .. ''who am i supposed to talked to?" i dont have a lot of trustful friend

I've had a situation inciting similar feelings. I wanted to avoid doing whatever could possibly hurt me. This would mean not doing a lot of things, and keeping myself away from a lot of things. This is hurt lying everywhere. No matter what you do, you can't avoid it. Not everyone will hurt you, but you will get hurt, because that is life. I didn't want to live a cautious, timid life.

People will hurt you, and you can't change that. This does not mean that everyone will hurt you. Be wary of people at first if that is more comfortable, but avoiding all men your whole life will be difficult. You will find people who will help you, and they will help you with this fear you have.

In the meantime, if physical presence of a man is too demanding, just talk to peeps online. Yes, the internet is full of fronts and put on personas, but it's a start if you want to take it.

You could also make a friend online! Don't limit your experiences as a result of your fear. Your fear should not control you.

that's exactly what i'm doing right now but i just realize it until you said it to me... maybe i should start by talking to people online rather than going forward too much.