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How to get over? (9)

1 Name: Neukki : 2015-10-11 09:43 ID:eJ1Zja+P [Del]

I think my problem is a pretty common thing but still so far I haven't found a solution.
During my first year at high school, I have met a guy who we became good friends with.
Second year, I fell in love with him, while, the same year he had a girlfriend.
Now he still has his girlfriend who is a very-very lovely girl and we get along very well, but the boy has graduated while I'm in my third year ( I actually have two more years to go because of the class I have chosen ) but even if I don't meet him everyday, I'm still in love with that guy and I can't get over it.
I haven't seen him since spring, I have only talked to him when I texted him 'Happy Birthday' a few weeks before.
And still.
I have talked to a lot of guys since then but nobody is good enough after I have met that one special boy.
How to let it go? I don't even want to hope there's something that could happen, I want to forget so I could stop crying and being sad everytime I hear his name.
Thank you for your help and sorry for wasting your time.

2 Name: AEvAKt : 2015-10-11 11:06 ID:zm/dPpnP [Del]

You're not wasting anyone's time.

3 Name: Neukki : 2015-10-11 11:12 ID:eJ1Zja+P [Del]

I feel like I do... Most people I know ( I don't feel comfortable calling them friends, sorry ) are kind of bored since I'm not interested in anyone and I just keep dreaming about things that are never going to happen.
But thanks :)

4 Name: Lidov-Kozai : 2015-10-11 11:58 ID:PCId2my9 [Del]

I know how you feel. Honestly though, I've never truly let go of anyone I've been in love with. Not being able to be with them doesn't mean you can't still be find of them. It's hard to accept that things aren't going to happen, but the main thing to remember is that you should want the best for them, even if it isn't you. You can still have feelings for someone and be okay with not being together, it just takes a lot of time to get over loneliness's sting. The main thing to keep in mind is that you have a life to live as well. You have to at some point come to terms with the fact that you are still responsible for your own happiness, and that there are still things you can do with your time and energy that will benefit and fulfill you. Take up or get further into a hobby, explore your interests. Maybe then you'll be able to find someone with similar sensibilities while pursuing those things. You will find someone someday, but the more time you spend looking or longing is time that could be spent on your own personal development.

Hope this helps, I realize my answers may not be for everyone though.

5 Name: Hadou : 2015-10-11 12:08 ID:dWuUg7rI [Del]

Going through the same (but with a girl, and its kinda worse for...less moral reasons)

But reading Kozai's post, I'd for sure try and go that course. Moving on will take time - not even sure if I have yet, but it will happen. Life also happens, though. I think we should all keep that in mind and try to keep moving forward!

6 Name: mons : 2015-10-11 13:21 ID:Tnp8KE3V [Del]

Have you talked to him? And have you let him know how you feel? You never know unless you try and even if you get rejected hey you tried.

Just a piece of advice though, when you like someone don't just like them but actually go out (Even as friends) and have fun around town. Do things with the people you like so they know you. A lot of people have a tendency to like people and ask them out the blue with no prior hello.

7 Name: Neukki : 2015-10-11 15:14 ID:eJ1Zja+P [Del]

Thank you all :)
Yes I have talked to him a lot but I never really told him how I felt. I tried my best to make him notice in a non-awkward way because I was very shy but I failed, so here I am now.
Anyway, thank you again and I'll try my best. That hobby thingie sounds pretty good, I think I'll try it, and let's hope I won't be isolated from people...:D
Love you guys<3

8 Name: Mika~ : 2015-10-12 04:57 ID:ct53yGDH [Del]

You'll never get over him ... he is the first person you've truly loved. He'll always be in your heart, all you need to do is find someone that made you feel the same way and you will move on slowly but surely!

9 Name: Neukki : 2015-10-12 08:26 ID:eJ1Zja+P [Del]

I can't even think about being over 100000 years old and still having him in my mind all the time.
I'm actually afraid of that.