It's about my friend, Charlie. I've known him since sophmore year in high school and now I'm a freshman in college. Well, he's a really cool guy and all but it's been getting a little too weird lately. He already told me a while back that he liked me and would want to be in a relationship with me. He's told me this more than once since we met. I already told him that I'm not interested in him in that way. And I even told him that I don't want to be in a relationship for a while. I'm perfectly content with just having good friendships with people. Friendships that don't border or even come close to relationship status. I'd say that this has been going on for two years that he has shown that he's interested despite me repeatedly telling him that I'm not interested.

Lately it's just gotten worse and it's making me feel really uncomfortable. He's too touchy, and I've never dealt with this kind of thing so it's a little hard to figure out what to do. It ranges from hugs, tickling, poking, cuddling, and even sometimes biting my neck and ears. This is all one sided, on his part. I've clearly shown my discomfort. I know, what you think, I should shove him off and tell him to back the fuck off. It's easier said than done. I'm an extremely shy person and when I have to stand up for myself, I just lose all confidence. I don't have a license, so he drives me to and from school. Somedays he's asked if I wanted to hang at his house and I've always come up with excuses to not hang out. We used to a lot! And I would be okay with it because it would never be like that! Now I'm terrified of being alone with him because he'll just be able to do whatever he wants and I'll be too scared to tell him to stop. I'm taking driving classes so that I can get my license and no longer have to drive with him.

I've asked for advice and I've been called a whore and I've been told that I'm only leading him on. I'm not! I'm just too scared and I don't know what to do! Everytime I tell him that I'm not interested he just makes me feel guilty because he puts himself down. He says that he's ugly, and depressed and no one will ever love him. It makes me feel horrible and I try to tell him that none of it's true, but I don't know if he's doing that on purpose or if he's serious. It just makes me feel guilty because I'm probably causing it! I don't know what to do and I really need better advice. What should I do?

You are friends, aren't you? Time to break out of your shell then. You need to make a way around this, you may be uncomfortable with it, but you can't let him abuse your shyness any longer.

There is nothing else than being direct and honest in friendship.
I was in a similar situation, so I am not talking "to the air".

Regards,
Hollow

Do you have other friends that can help you? It is always good to ask help from someone. Always hang out with you girlfriends.
Dont know if it helps.

Seli, bro. Dudes like to try and gain pity from chics they like so they can make em fall into a relationship, becuz the girls think they're 'saving' him. If you're shy yeah i guess itd be hard to just say "fuck off" huh. If you can't say anything to ward him off......dont say anything at all! it's called the silent treatment and a guy's worst nightmare when it comes to any relationship. If he has the guts to go and do touchy touchy physical stuff with you then a little lack of speech on your part shouldnt put him in the slumps so easily but rather teach him lesson.

But it's guys like those which are hard to keep as friends. When you've got feelings for someone, you just have em'. Youre asking for the impossible to tell him to repress this emotion and keep being your friend. Time to bring in the curtains one way or another, you decide.

Be honest with him. Like what has been said above, if he is your friend he should understand. Now if he doesnt and continues to do things, then you need to tell him to fuck off.Now if it begins to get really bad you need to contact someone or tell your parents. Now, im hoping it doesnt go that bad and im sure it wont, but voice how you feel! Try your best not to be afraid. If he ever ends up alone with you, just leave and if he attacks you in anyway get away and contact police.

Like i said i hope it doesnt come to that. Something else that helps is having other friends there with you.

IF ever need anything im an email away! theghoul010@gmail.com

And the Dollars are here for you.

Also, i can witness this myself, but ive seen people try to put themselves down in front of other to get attention, or in yourcase to get your attention. Dont let that bug you. He needs to take the hint and move on.