I don't want to pry too much into private things beyond what is absolutely necessary but in an anonymous envoronment it may be easier. Is there serious abuse involved? Such as violent or sexual? A simple yes or no will suffice. I would not have you go into detail.

Violent only if he has Voka, but it was so bad we were forced to move houses the neighbors hated us.

I'm afraid if the situation is violent it may be in yours and your family's best interests to call the authorities on a night when it is happening. I know your concerns about that. That the answer isn't to tear the family apart but to be honest it is the best thing. In the long run it will help. Especially if you're older and will leave soon for education or anything of the sort. Don't rush yourself though. In a volatile situation such as yours, it is best not to overstress yourself.

In addition, I know you probably know this but please do not cut. Calling your friend is the best thing you could have done. Well done. You're doing great.

I would suggest calling the cops next time shit goes down or contacting another supportive adult asap. Your parents are incompetent for letting you be in that kind of environment. The foster care system isn't much better, but hopefully the outside involvement will knock some sense into your mother and father so that you can avoid it. Good luck.

Thank you but we can't get him arrested. Mu mother has PTSD and is unfit to hold a job, I'm too young to be paid full and my father is the only one who can bring money in....

Ah I see. Does your mother get any money from disability benefits? I presume it isn't enough anyway I suppose. It is a difficult position to be in. Is it long until you will be old enough to work? And would you be able to? Do not throw away your chance at education due to this.

No.
I'm 17 now but when I did have a small seasonal job while I went to school it broke me emtionally.
Man all I'm doing is adding more problems.

In a few months I'll be 18 and I'll get my driving license and hopefully a good job.

Well don't overexert yourself. If you get your job and it's too much, don't worry about quiting. Do what you need to. Mental health is extremely important. You might need to endure it for a little longer. I wish I could do more. If you need anything make another thread using the name Purewater100% and I'll see if I can help you more. Sorry again.

Thank you

>>6 He wouldn't get arrested. That's not how it works. The kids would be temporarily removed from the family, or given to other relatives to take care of, and if the mother was hurt at all, she can go to a battered women's shelter until she finds a job she's able to work.

Imo your family is irresponsible for staying with him just because of money. That's nonsense. There are tons of gov't programs to help with exactly this type of situation, and I'm sure it's not exclusive to the US. You know this. You made this thread because you know the situation is not okay and want help.

Waiting until your eighteen will NOT magically fix anything. A few months won't make you any more mentally fit to handle working. You won't just be handed a job that can pay for your mother to move away. Your step-father will continue to drink during that time and after. You need help, outside help, whether it's from the authorities or not.

Good luck, anyway.

All of that depends on your country's laws. And in the case of PTSD you can't work. It's very easy to look from outside and insult but it's different from the inside. Please try to be more sebsitive of other people's situations.

>>12 The majority of modern countries have that standard, but some do vary, unfortunately. However, PTSD in no way implies working is impossible, which is why many with it are not eligible for disability. It all depends on those particular circumstances.

I can be sensitive, but should I be? Sometimes, the walls "inside" are too high to see what other options there are, and you're doing those inside no justice by saying it's okay to not peak over them. I don't see anything wrong with tossing a wake-up call over it and letting them do what they want with it. Tough love.

For the record, this is coming from someone who's been in OP's shoes thrice now. I understand what they're suggesting and I know it's a cozy, self-sacrificial stance to take, one that doesn't help the situation at all.

I feel bad for asking for help now that people are nipping at each other

Mm. How about instead of fighting with each other you actually try to help the person. I may be a lurker on here, but this time I won't sit idly by as someone transforms the situation from the original topic onto themselves, which has been a problem on here from what I've seen. Give them advice. Please.

i think is ready a gift every time they have their moment. I mean like buy a box chocolate or something nice and everytime they get drunk give it to them. :3

....You don't understand that he is a monster when drunk. Violent.... an prick like him doesn't get sweets

I hide, and when I can't hide I become a wall. If you're lucky enough to stay in a room all night and not be bothered too much, that's the best I've come up with. I'm unsure with your specific situation but I've been living with a nonviolent alcoholic for years and I actually came here looking for advice myself. It's truly a case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde... They are not the same person and don't deserve to be treated as such.

Do what you have to do to get by, but think of your dad too. if this continues, it could be worse for him than you. maybe therapy could help a little bit? If he drinks because of emotional problems, sitting down and talking to someone could really help. Just keep that in mind...