SO, because of my lack of interest in boys, people are always like, "Are you abnormal?" "You're just kidding. Having a crush is normal". In the end, people got used to it.

However, things don't end with that.
There was this one time when coincidentally, I went with my boy friends. We decided to hang out in our house. Afterwards, our maid was like, "You have no crush and you hang out with boys. Are you lesbian?" Just for that ONE time they saw me with boys. Of course, I was like "WHAT?!?! No way..."

A while ago, my friends were like "Hey, I think you're lesbian. You don't like any boy."

That's where things got a little complicated.

I AM NOT LESBIAN (No offense... I don't have anything against them) BUT IN ORDER TO PROVE MYSELF, they DARED me to present a crush. a BOY crush to them.

How am I supposed to find a crush when no one in the community is worth having a crush on? But me? Lesbian?

WHAT???? NO WAY.

Just tell them you're asexual. Meaning you don't have any sexual feelings towards either gender. You don't have sexual feelings at all or a 'crush'

or otherwise tell them your heart belongs to Justin Bieber or Zayn Malik, they'll stop asking after that. (I'm sorry I had to come back and make a weird joke like that)

I have had the same problem too... My friends, and family keep saying that it's not normal for someone not to have a crush (I've never had crush before, not even once). My friends also wanted me to present a crush, or else they would believe that I'm a lesbian and consider me being one (I don't think there's nothing wrong with being a lesbian though), anyway I ignored them. I just told them that I'm not interested in boys or girls that way and they should just deal with it.
They did stop forcing me to present a crush when they realized that it wouldn't affect me in anyway and I still wouldn't have a crush.

Are you sure that they are your friends?
Sorry that sounded a bit harsh but c'mon, real friends would never force you to have a crush. It's not like you can force yourself to fall in love or have a crush.
The problem is not with you.(:

I agree with neukki and I'm the same way(I don't have crushes on boys nor am I a lesbian)

>>2 Aromatic might work better seeing as asexual people can still get crushes just not in a sexual way. Aromatic people don't experience romantic attraction and won't get crushes.

I also agree with Neukki. I've been in a similar situations as you described; and it made me realize that a real friend wouldn't say that to me. And it's ok to not have a crush, a lot of people don't develop crushes all the time. If they really want you to present a crush, use a celebrity you admire. If they don't except that; then so what? You do you hun.

>>7 ah, that does sound like a better fitting word lol

I wish I didn't have a crush. Tell me your secrets oh wise Animexteria!

I agree with >>5

Also as you said, "How am I supposed to find a crush when no one in the community is worth having a crush on?" That's good. It means you have high standards and even if it means you're breaking the societal expectations of the "elusive crush", you should do what makes you happy. If not crushing on someone makes you happy and you feel fine, then you don't need to have one. If you do get one, great. Whatever makes you happy!

Tell your friends to fuck off and worry about their own lives. Simple as that.

Dont bother, you are not alone, i have 23 and i never had a crush in no one, either girls or boys, and the truth is that i dont know if that is somenthing good or bad, im happy and thats what it matter right?

Why do you even have to prove yourself to them? Well I mean as long as you know to yourself who and what you really, that is enough. If they don't want to believe you, then fine. I think it doesn't matter. You do not have to go troubling yourself to find a crush on someone you don't even like just to prove what you really feel.

I think you have HSDD, its just simply normal for you to have no feelings towards the other gender. So don't really get overwhelm by peer pressure. Tell them that "Is it wrong if I don't like someone?" Or "Mind your own business" Either way works.

don´t care about them. because you can't force yourself to fall in love with someone. i have guy friends, and girl friends to. it does not matter who you hang out with. but i don´t hang out with people that force you to do something you
don´t want to do. such as falling in love with someone..

Thanks for answering guys. You made me feel better about myself...

About my friends, well, I think they just want me to find someone that I can depend on, someone to be proud of, because I think I look reeeeeaaaaaaaaaaalllllly out of place when I am with them and their partners. They just think I'm better off with someone. AND THEY'RE DESPERATE TO FIND ME ONE.

Some of my friends just want to see me contradicting my words and prove me wrong for the sake of finding something interesting (eg. my bestfriend because our friendship is so twisted).

Anyway, what I wanted to say was,... I really thank you. Next month, on the due date, I'll tell them the things you told me.

Being a part of Dollars is great, isn't it? :)
P.S. - the first para is d story of my life.. :P

You have many valid points, of which I agree with not needing a crush if there is no one you see as worth the investment. What I do question is why sexual orientation is such a big deal to society? Who you like should not be offensive or wrong to people not involved. So why did people bring up your sexuality in this instance, I have no idea. You have every right to be upset and confused. Who you like is your business. Tell people just to deal with who you are.

Tumblr is where I post my drawings and paintings; and I have a lot of fun doing it, but sometimes there are haters and that's inevitable. where do they even come from??

My money is that this is one of my so-called "friends"

People like that are one of the many things that are wrong with society these days.
Anyways you might either be asexual or those guys are just really not worth it, you don't have anything to prove anyways.
Do you mind me asking how old are you? I can give you a better answer based on age.

Hmm,... I don't really like to give out my age but judging from my opinions I think it could be guessed. I'm a teenager.

(I have anxiety problems, high pride, hate being misunderstood and socially awkward --> probably the reason I am affected by what my friends said)

If you're still a teenager it is perfectly fine not having a crush yet. I didn't have my first actual crush till I was 20. I just didn't meet someone else who invoked those feelings till then.

You are perfectly normal to not really have a crush on anyone yet. Just do what you want to and don't take the shit from people who pressure you into something. If you fall for peer pressure that easily what else would you do to make them happy?

Just do what you want to do and when the time comes when you find a crush then you could pursue them. It won't work if you force a crush on another.

You shouldn't feel the need to justify your sexuality to anyone. You are what you decide to be, not what other people tell you. Just my 2 cents

Yeah I guessed that much just wanted to make sure, well I know its kind of hard to do this, but screw them, it's your life and they have nothing to do with it,do whatever you want to do, be whoever you want to be, good luck :) you will probably get a crush later, when the time comes and when you find someone worth it :)

I'm not sure my opinion will help on account I am gay but,
Back when I was younger my parents kept asking me who I liked
( on account my sister went threw crushes a few a week).
After a while they just started forcing me to date family friends and such.
Is wasn't till I told them that I didn't like anyone and that when I do find someone it will be someone worth my time, that they stopped bugging me about dating... And procreating.