When I first joined this site back in July, I thought this place was amazing. And it is amazing. This site is an online home to me. I'm usually on the personal board or just reading through random stuff on random boards.
I just kind of thought I would be giving more advice on the personal board than receiving...
I mean, I do try to give advice and help, but I'm bad with putting my thoughts into words sometimes so...
Anyway, if you have read this to here, thank you. I will get to my point now.
Sometimes lately I just feel so useless. You see, there's this boy. He was bullied a few years ago. I don't think he has many friends. And now, he seems so lonely, and so sad. He even said he wanted to commit suicide...twice.
I have tried to help him. I told the school when he was being bullied, I stood up to the bully, I told someone when he said he wanted to commit suicide. I try to smile at him or talk to him sometimes.
It's just so hard for me. I'm really shy, and it's so hard to talk to him. I want to offer him help, I just don't know how, or what to say. I told the counselor at school how sad he looks. They said they would help.
I just hate to see him sad, to see him feeling hurt. It bothers me so much, and it feels like there is nothing I can do about it. And a part of me feels responsible for his pain. I feel like I didn't do enough to help him, and that's why he is still so sad. I feel like he wouldn't be feeling hurt if I had done more.
My counselor at school told me it's not my fault. I tell myself it's not my fault. I just feel so guilty...
Please, if anyone can give me advice on something I can do for this boy, it would really help. How can I help him? How can I talk to him? Should I talk to him? How can I stop feeling so guilty for something I really didn't do?
Thank you for reading this. I'm sorry if it doesn't make sense.
Please, if anyone can, I need advice. Thank you in advance if you took the time to read this. :)

~HFA

Does it seem like what you're doing is having a positive impact on him? It has to be, you've gone out of your way doing something that not many, if any, others have even attempted to do for this person. Continue to be a good influence for him, encourage and show him that life is worth living. The drops highlight the peaks in life.

You're not useless. And, it's only natural to feel guilty for not helping a person enough. But just keep going with what you're doing. Think of that boy as a brother to you and what you'd want to do if he really was your brother. Once you see him smile for real at you, you'd feel accomplished and want to help him more. The next thing you know, not only did you help him, you would have healed him.

Just keep going. Don't think of how pathetic you are. Think of what more you can do with your own two hands. :)

It's really admirable of you to go out of your way to help that guy out, I'm sure he appreciates it one way or another! But I can't stress enough how important it is for you to understand that, if worst case scenario does happen - it is by no means your fault or burden to bear. You've already done as much as your capabilities will allow and I think for that alone you should be proud of yourself. You have to remember that he isn't your responsibility regardless, so you shouldn't give yourself so much pressure in making sure he's happy. Your efforts alone provide company for him and I'm sure he's already aware of your efforts. You said that you're an incredibly shy person right? That's absolutely fine my dear, you don't need to communicate to show compassion to others. Sometimes a simple greeting of 'how are you' or a smile is enough to last someone a day. I think it's also vital to know that you aren't a white knight in shining armour, you aren't obligated to rescue everybody who is sad, sometimes trying to help can even backfire. Though don't get me wrong, helping others is amazing especially in the events of seeing them smile or laugh for the first time or slowly getting better. Those around you haven't put as much effort into him as you have and the fact that you even stood up to his bullies show what a lovely person you are. I hope by being around you that he can find life more colourful and that he'll get the good things he deserves in life, poor guy doesn't deserve any of the misfortunes.

I think that it's plenty helpful that you've been trying your best to help out. Not everyone wants to be approached and sometimes they may shut people out. It's a very fragile and complicated thing, I'm sure you're thinking about taking caution. Even with the best intentions, a little nudge can go bad. Don't force yourself to help out, and don't force the boy to see things your way. I don't really have any advice, but maybe you'll get something out of what I'm saying. It's the only way I can help you out. I don't want to tell you to do something that ends up bad either. Basically, just try to understand what's going on with him, don't rush things, be yourself, and be a buddy. I know you're shy, but that shouldn't stop you. He could use more people like you in his life, I'm sure. Good luck!

Thank you all so much! This really helped me and I am so grateful to you all. This really made me feel better, and I really needed the advice that you gave me. Thank you so much!! :)

Its good there are still people like you Most time mobbing or bulliing or same shit like that is WAY to overlooked why? Well i dont know maybe people care to much about their value laugh even at him/her well in generell the bullied one and Do 0 i hate people like that the Most, anyways good luck for you your a great Person :p

Wow. So noble. We rarely see these kinds of people now days.
You wish to help, you do but what if the person you are trying to help doesn't want it? You tried to help, you did what you could yet it wasn't enough. Obviously the problem isn't because you didn't done more for the boy. But the boy himself. Maybe he doesn't want help? Maybe he refuses happiness? I can only assume possibilities.
You are not responsible for his well-being in general but still you chose to help. Its a rarity. People care too much or none at all. So confusing, really.
You are a wonderful person, you did your best. The rest depends on the boy himself. And whatever bad happens, isn't on your hands.

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Thank you so much for your words, it really helped. :)

I, like you am quite bad at giving advice but wow what a great person it's good to know there are people like you in the Dollars! Keep up trying to help in whatever way you can even if it's just small things. I've never been suicidal but I've been depressed and I know it's people like you that keep people like me going!

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Thank you :)

I just want to say that this is why I love the Dollars, this is why it is an online home to me. Everyone here can help anyone, and it's amazing to see how many people are willing to help people they have never even met. That is why I love the Dollars. Thank you to everyone who has helped me, I really, really appreciate it. :)

We are the Dollars what did you expect maybe we will get big and Do even grouping go around and Change something i mean the World now is Not like it should be look your scenario then you know what i mean. All kooperate and harmony togheter thats yea thats it but will never happen..