ive been with a girl for about a year or so i guess well its almost a year,we currently have a long distance relationship,and i cheated on her,and shes loyal,well i hope she is,but yeah i wanna tell her but idk how to cause she really loves me and so do i and i think this would tear her apart,what should i do or how should i yell her?(sorry if i left out details)

=( Dude, that's so messed up of you.

Well, you need to tell her as soon as possible. Say exactly what you said right here, "I know we've been together for *insert amount of time* and I know you love me very much and you wouldn't do anything to hurt me, but unfortunately, I did something to hurt you. *then explain how and why and who you cheated with*" Something along those lines. It's only fair, dude. =/

thanks that actually helped

Do you plan on staying with the person that you're in a long distance relationship with?

>>4 I think the real question is if the girl wants to stay with him not if he wants to stay with her. He kind of lost his chance, don't you think?

>>5 Not even a little bit. Whether or not he tells about the affair, it isn't good for anyone for him to be in a relationship that he doesn't want to be in. There is some reason behind why he cheated and if the reason is that he's seriously doubting the relationship or wants out, then he should figure out if his long distance relationship is worth continuing at all.

>>6 What I'm saying is he doesn't deserve to be in a relationship with--who I'm assuming is--a very sweet girl. Cheating shows you don't really care much for the other person, so I don't think this loyal girl should be in a relationship with him. If he wants to run back to her, because he realized what he did wrong, then he can, but he's not worthy of her anymore in my eyes.

>>7 Especially when dealing with long distance relationships, there's an insane number of possible factors that would influence his decision to cheat. The idea that any infidelity prima facie makes a person unworthy of his/her relationship screams either oversimplification or naivete.

Considering that he hasn't given any details of what he did, how long the affair lasted, why he did it, or how he feels about continuing a relationship, it's effectively impossible to reach a concrete judgement while maintaining intellectual integrity.

i did it because the girl i had a long distance with barely gave meattention and she wasnt fufilling my sexual needs,it sounds messed up,but the girl that i cheated on with,i felt she cared and she loved me,she actually did,and she knew about my relationship so i told her we cant anymore because i actually love this girl,and i really regret doing anything with her.

"this girl" and "her" aren't specific enough! Do you love the girl you have a long distance relationship with, or the one you cheated with?
If you still love the long distance girl, ask yourself the question "Would I do it again?" and if the answer to that is yes, then tell her that as well. Some people are fine with their partner having other sexual relationships, though they're in the minority. What you absolutely have to understand is that you have to tell her everytzhing about it. That you felt neglected because she wasn't giving you enough attention, that you still love her and that you regret it (considering all of that is true). Tell her what you're feeling now and the negative feelings that led you to doing it.
On a side note, don't mention things like "she made me feel loved" or "she was so nice, erotic" etc. That will only make your long distance girlfriend feel insignificant.
If she decides to break up because of that, you have to respect that. You can beg for a second chance, but it was your fault, so you have no right to force yourself onto her.

Heh, you just didn't have to cheat on her.
If you loved another girl then you would have told your gf that you want to end everything between you two THEN you go to that other girl.

Tbh I deeply despise people like you... I'm not gonna lie, I hope the long distance girl breaks up with you, you probably don't deserve her... In my eyes you're barely anything more than a mere beast.

Sorry to all the others reading this..

it's easy.. if you can't be faithful to her, tell her the truth and break up. The faster you do it, the less pain she'll have to go through. Second, be gentle about the way you're saying it. if she's really in love with you, this will be a extremely hard thing for her to take in. At the very end, whats important is that you're totally honest about the truth.

>>12 never asked for your fucking opinnion about me i asked what should i do fucktard,at least give me a godamn suggestion before insulting me,yeah i was stupid yeah im not perfect,but everyone has flaws,in mine,i cheated,and it was only once,tbh idk what to do,or how to do it,its a bit hypocrtical but do you think insulting me makes anything better??

If you want to keep cheating on her, then break up with the long-distance girl. However, if you sincerely wish to apologize and stay with the long-distance girl, you could very gently break it to her and apologize right after, telling her how much you regret it. If she's on verge of tears, go like, "I could have kept this a secret from you. But I didn't, because I realized again how much I love you, not some other girl." If you do something that's along these lines, I think she'll forgive you.
And guys, you should not go all "I hate you cuz you did this," to a guy who confessed that he messed up and wants to fix it. It's mean, and then you guys become the retarded ones.

That long distance relationship could very well be a dude. If you have proof on the other hand, then do what your heart desires. In my opinion, I would drop both relationships and be single for awhile if I were you. Since you obviously have issues with the concept of faithfulness. I mean, who doesn't? But the reasons you have given for the upcoming split are not good at all.

For future reference, a relationship shouldn't revolve around "needs". As stated in post >>9. It should consist of absolute love and perseverance. Trust me, if I had known this, I would be still in a relationship. Talking also helps.

Next time you're in the same situation like this, don't be. Remove yourself from the equation and move on.

First of all, you're a dirt bag. Second of all, in order to tell her you need the scene to be just the 2 of you. You guys should probably just be chillin' out, maxin', relaxin' all cool, and all shootin' some B-ball outside of the school, when a couple of guys who were up to no good, started makin' trouble in my neighborhood, I got in one little fight and my mom got scared, she said 'You're movin with your auntie and uncle in Bel Air!'