Hi, I have an issue.
Today I had a fight with my mom about my fear of needles. When i was six, I had to have this surgery and while they were putting me to sleep, they stuck this needle in my little arm and since that i was afraid of needles and felt uneasy in hospitals. Last week, I had to give some blood for tests and I had something like a panic attack. Hence I was shaking like mad, I have this bruise where the needle was and my mom made a fuss about it leaving such a big mark on my hand. I went there with my dad so he didnt say anything, he saw me when I was in that state. She said that this "fear" is stupid and childish and that I just wanted to look cool in school bec of the bruise I have. I didnt tell her that, when I was asked what happened, I put on a jacket because I felt embarrassed and weak. She doesnt know how weak and vulnerable I feel whenever I talk about what happened last week and what happened when I was six. I am sixteen now, and have zero control of my emotions when I have to give my blood in hospitals. I also have big problems when we have to get vaccines in school. I am aware that my fear is irrational, but i just cant help myself, I cant control myself.

Now, my question is this:
Should I go to the psychologist?
Should I talk to my mother about this?
What should I do to get some control of myself?

Fear of needles isnt all that irrational. If handled improperly, they can be harmful. But that doesn't mean you can't learn to deal with that fear. I used to freak out too, but eventually I just got used to it. For me it helped to focus on other stuff while getting a shot or blood test or whatever. If you want to see a psychologist, its perfectly fine. And I'm sure your mom has a slight phobia herself, so don't think she's right in saying you're "childish".

everyone has their own thing. You don't need to feel weak or ashamed at all. I actually have a friend that also has a phobia of needles. They tense up and make the shot hurt even more. I offer words of support but nothing really helps. I would recommend talking to psychologist, it couldn't hurt. Something that helps me with my fears is breaking everything down. I take a deep breath and think logically what's going on. In this case, needles. You're in a hospital or place with professionals, so worst comes to worst you can easily get help. You have to lose maybe two pints of blood to start feeling nauseous. With such a thin needle, that wont happen any time soon. I hope this helped a little bit.

Thank you

Hey,
Being scared of needles is totally normal. Yeah, not everyone has panic attacks but if you can't acford to see a psychologist about it, don't stress too much. I think your mom took it a little too far by calling it childish. Everyone is scared of something.
I'm 21 and still terrified of needles. Just last month I had to bring my best friend with me when I had to get blood drawn for testing. I promise you if it wasn't for her I would have fainted. I almost faint when I get my flu shot every year. It honestly makes me feel better that there are others that are as afraid as I am.
Something that helps me a lot is having someone talk to you about a distracting topic, something you're really interested in. My friend talked to me about my facorite anime and it worked wonders. If that isn't an option, I always suggest bringing music with you. It helped me handle getting an IV put in for surgery a few years back. Also, make sure the nurse is aware that you have a fear of needles. They'll be more careful with you.
I hope this helled somehow. Good luck. ^^

Actually, I think you should try consulting your doctor first. They often have to deal with that, and probably know how to overcome them. As for your father, his comment was unnecessary, but personally, I'd just accept that he has an entirely different point of view on this and leave him be.
Finally, yes, you should talk to your mother. Mothers tend to be much more understanding in such cases, she should be able to assist you in one way or another.