I grew up without receiving much interest from guys. Throughout the time I attended school, I only had a boyfriend or two. However, we would never even get to the point of holding hands. So when it comes to relationships, I basically have zero helpful experience and not much knowledge on what I should do sometimes. I'm 18 and recently graduated high school. I am preparing for my second year of college. But it seems this is the year guys older than me want to take interest.

Late last year, I moved to another state to live with my other parent. I'm a gamer along with lots of my family so I bought games on the pc as a way to be able to connect with them. Mainly I would play with my older brother. Soon his friend, who is 29, began playing with us. It took a while for me to get comfortable playing the game and talking on skype with his friend when my brother wasn't on. But the two of us ended up becoming good friends too. There are times where he and I would stay up late at night just talking while not really paying attention to the game. Soon, he explained that he liked me. He told me first how he liked my voice but it wasn't until he got to know me a little,noticing that I made him feel calm by just talking, that he realized he felt like a kid in middle school with a crush. My brother is aware and understands my lack of relationships but believes the two of us are good for the other and explained that we should just take everything slow.

One day when we were talking, he asked if whether him being with another man before bothered me and also asked if his age did. I told him no. Truthfully, the first part doesn't bother me at all but the age does a bit. He has a wonderful personality, but I'm not attracted to him physically. I know looks aren't everything but I would like a little attraction, you know? Anyway, he understands I don't feel exactly the same way at the moment but we're still talking and playing games as we did before. The only difference is that he likes to buy me stuff. All I have to say is I like something and he will buy it. I hate it because I feel like I'm using him. He says he does it because he has the money to and it makes him happy that I'm happy when I get it. But I still express that I don't like the fact that I feel I'm just using him.

Recently, I've gotten a job. It's minimum wage and my first one. About a month working there, I was invited to hang out at the only other female worker's house. I agreed. It was fun. I hung out with her, another coworker (22), and her husband. However, the other co-worker asks me days later if I want to hang out. I said sure. When he picks me up, he explains that he couldn't stop thinking about me since then. Feeling awkward, I didn't make eye contact. We continued to hang out and had fun. Eventually, we went back to the female co-worker's house and hung out again with them. This guy is slightly cute and seems nice and funny but I still hardly know him. Recently, he texted me "good morning beautiful" to which I didn't reply, due to no idea of what to say. He wants to hang out again but I just say I don't know when I will be free. Today, he texted me that he has a gift for me but I haven't texted back.

Both of my coworkers have seen me online playing an mmo a lot so they decided they wanted to buy it and try. Normally I'm fine with this but I don't know what to do because I mainly play that game with the other guy. In the game, we are married. If I remember correctly, I agreed before I knew he liked me. But I did it for the benefits of the mount and the fact that we can teleport to each other which is helpful since we're always in a party together.

Neither guy knows about the other, which I feel bad about. I've also been avoiding the game because I'm not sure what to do. With the second guy, I was only asked by the female coworker if I thought he was cute, to which I replied "A little." Never have I said to him I felt the way he does. I just thought that little information might be helpful to know.

Forgot to add this, sorry.

Any help or feedback is greatly appreciated. If I need to explain something better, I'm happy to do so.

=/ Just let your heart decide. It'll all work out in the end. I don't think you should NOT reply to the other guy, I'm guessing you feel weird about it, but just kind of forget the romantic aspect of it. If you let things go the way they want to, it'll work out. I know it's not very good advice, minimal even, but I hope this helped out a little.

Oh, geez, that certainly sounds troublesome...

As for the first guy, I feel like it's not a crime to need to be attracted to your partner's appearance. In fact, it's very important and can make or break a relationship. It may sound shallow, but it's already clear you like his personality. However, I've dealt with situations before where people's appearance seems to change (not literally) when you get close enough to them. Also, there's the age problem. If his age is bothering you, I would suggest waiting until you're at least 20, maybe even 21. Sure, he will still be older than you, but that you'll be able to look at him as more of a college than now where you're just the young high school graduate.

With him buying you things, I think a great way to counter balance the gifts is to ask to pay for some of it. If you want to buy him gifts as well, that's your choice. If you don't have the money and you can't deal with feeling like you use him anymore, try telling him that gifts are for holidays and giving him a big hug..? Now, if you want to find out if you're willing to step into a relationship with him, I would definitely try a date to three. Little known fact among current middle schoolers:
dating is/was a no-string-attached situation. Dating simply means that you go on dates and asking for another is not out of the question. However, you can be dating as many people as you want. Dating is the testing phase. Go steady is what you call it when you're specifically dating one person. That's when dating someone else is considered cheating. If you want to try dating this guy, I'd make it clear to him that it is just a date, not a boyfriend/girlfriend thing Then you can figure out if you actually want to try a relationship with him without having to feel guilty.
Now, for the other one, you said he was pretty nice looking, and he was entertaining, but you don't know him. This one seems easier: get to know him! Now, I'm going to say that that text he sent was a little weird, but that's my opinion. If you're interested in him, I'd try to make it clear that you want to get to know him. Try getting to know him as a friend, then try a date or something if you're still interested after you know him really well.

Don't be afraid to show interest in multiple people! It's not a crime to go out on dates with multiple people so long as you're doing it to figure out who you like. That is, unless you and your dates are ployamorous (you all like each other and are in a relationship with each other). That's perfectly fine, too!

Good luck, and I hope I helped at least a little!

Have you been with him, close to him, in person? That'd probably make it pretty easy to tell if you're actually physically compatible, sometimes it's hard to know otherwise... I had a gal-pal that i thought was awesome, and then just COULD NOT get comfortable with irl. Meeting up offline will make it way easier to tell if you really wanna be with him, and if it doesn't feel right, then just let him down easy, no big deal.

As for the gift thing, I would insist he stop until you can actually make up your mind about all this. The last thing you want is to realize you don't like him that way at all and feel OBLIGATED to hang out because of the things he gave you, or guilty to say that it's not working, which you shouldn't have to feel bad about at all.

But again, i wouldn't make a final decision until you can meet irl, and if you CAN'T meet irl, i'd drop him, because if you do end up falling hard, the distance is just gonna beat the shit out of both of you.... bluh, seriously, there's nothing worse than that....

Oh and i wouldn't worry about age
(but again, sexual attraction is important)

I appreciate the help. Thank you!