Hello there! I apologise in advance in case this post is going to turn into an awful long mess.

So,I met a guy online last year. Let's call him J. We have tons in common and we pretty much "clicked" and got close eventually.

I must admit,I had a tiny bit of a crush on him in the beginning,but any feelings of that kind have been blown away by the following event which is the reason I am writing this mess right now:

J had an obsession with the concept of "soulmate". Many of our conversations revolved on this topic and how J wanted to find his "special one" asap.

Nothing wrong about that.However,after looking him up on instagram,he apparently has a girlfriend.
Yes,I did have a crush on him BUT I never wanted to pursue a romantic relationship with him.The huge distance would've made a healthy romantic relationship with him impossible and I was always aware of that.

What bugs me is the fact that this guy told me so much personal stuff about his struggle of finding the right person for him while already dating someone.It's so unfair for that person and I just can't trust him anymore after this.

I'm not sure if he was merely adopting a new persona while talking to me(so he was lying to me) or he was telling the truth and he's lying to that chick he's apparently hanging with.

I don't know what to do anymore. We both shared really personal stuff with eachother and I trusted him.I valued my relationship with him as one of the most benefical friendships I ever had and I feel like this event has destroyed everything.

It's true,he once told me that he's a horrible person because he views relationships as practice for when you find your soulmate.

Also,it's true that I kind of stalked him to get his account on the other social media he was on other than the one we were chatting on.

I feel really hurt by this whole situation. I now understand why he was sometimes distant about certain topics and why he didn't want to exchange our accounts on other websites. I feel lied to and I don't know what to do anymore.

J helped me tremendously with alot of personal issues and so did I for him. He really seemed a great guy and I don't really want to give up on our friendship. I'm not sure if I should point out his lies or ask for an explanation. I don't know if I should just ignore this incident and act normally. I don't know if I should just cut any communication with him.

I know this might sounds like an exaggeration,since we're only internet friends,but I really appreciate all the things he's done for me.

What do you think I should do? I honestly don't think I've ever been so confused like I am right now.

Personally, I'd stop communicating, But if you want to know why. Just be direct about it. Do remember your friendship might not mean anything if it were based off in lies on his part.

(I have no idea how to offer good advice on this subject. I'll try.) Ask for an explanation -- maybe it's something he felt was small or not a big deal. Maybe he was putting on a persona. Who knows -- but the nice thing about Internet friends is that they're easier to deal with then talking in person. Don't let it get emotional, just ask for the facts and be prepared to hear anything, including more lies.

One recommendation I have is to not use video chat or anything with voice, because it is really easy to guilt-trip people that way.

And if he does blow up, or says something hurtful, or anything of the like, then there are alway people you can talk to - parents, friends, or the Dollars. ;)

Thank you all for the advice! I really appreciate it! :)