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Overwhelm with driving b/c of dad (3)

1 Name: feelings!8NBuQ4l6uQ : 2015-08-09 23:18 ID:EJpopLmK [Del]

I just want to get some feelings out of my chest.

I was practicing driving today and my dad kept telling me I was driving wrong.

The thing is that I was REALLY tense about driving so I started to get overwhelmed when he kept saying stuff about my driving and I start to panic a little in my head. Only that my eyes began tearing up.

Then my dad goes "OH MY GOD, why are you crying. I'm not even mad at you! GOD! No ones here screaming at you! You have no control of your emotion, you just keep crying all the time!"

The thing was I wasn't mad at him at all. I was just really tense because I haven't practice driving in a long time. But I'm a person who gets easily overwhelm in certain situations such as this which didn't help with anything.

After that I started feeling more overwhelmed but I try to continue driving. I wanted to say something but I felt I would be too emotional about it and not fix anything, so I continued driving until I need to stop and just BREATH to relax myself and than when I asked him I needed to breath to relax he said "OH GOD, COME ON REALLY?"

After that and some time cooling down, I drove better and had a better time turning, but still that whole situation made me tense. My dad is like a on and off switch, as soon as you switch it he becomes a different person.

I don't think he understands how my emotions work differently than him. I have aspergers so I need time to be alone or to breath when I'm too stressed out or overwhelmed. But whenever I try to make sense to him about it he doesn't believe me and says it's tough love.

Too bad I have to be with him for 2 weeks.

2 Name: 155 : 2015-08-10 00:56 ID:rIvi2CVl [Del]

' I wanted to say something but I felt I would be too emotional about it and not fix anything, so I continued driving'

Tell him everything instead of staying quiet because if you let him talk it will just become worse and if you say nothing, he will never understand and nothing will change. It's better to tell him everything. And if you want to cry, then cry.

Everyone cries, not because they are weak, but because they've been strong for too long.

Hope this helped.

3 Name: ShinAttha : 2015-08-10 02:18 ID:KSPAgVQo [Del]

Also, tell him that shouting is really not productive, and unless he wants to provoke an accident, he shouldn't pressure you that much.
As for driving, you'll get used to it pretty soon (I own my license since half a year and am already relaxed while driving)