Hi, I have a bit of a personal problem and want this to sorted out. I want to hear what you write after you read my problem. It's a bit long though, hope you don't mind.

So my problem is...
I met this guy about one month ago. I met him through an anime site. We texted each other and were getting along. So we decided we should meet up to get to know each other better. Cause texting is sometimes a hassle^^
So the day we met was amazing :D it was nice. Of course were nervous and stuff so it was a bit awkward in the beginning.
Afterwards we began to meet each other much more. But usually in the weekends because of work and school.
While texting we sometimes flirt and like one week ago we kissed and it was an amazing feeling for me because my heart was beating for him. So I have guess I have a crush on him and I don't know how he thinks about me. Which I hope that the feelings are mutual but I don't know :/.
So the last 2 times of our meeting or you can almost say date, was really short. Because he had an emergency and needed to go. Which I don't have a problem with. He later always apologized and said that he will make up to it. Which I was very happy. But lately he doesn't write back to me when I write something to him. So we text each other through whatsapp(and ever since the new feature exists with the blue check mark, it drives me crazy). He sees that I wrote to him but doesn't write back. Which makes me feel fustrated, anxious, confused...and it's not some couple minutes, it's been days that he wrote me. I get that he is busy with work and other private stuff. But is this like a sign that he got bored with me? Or he doesn't have time, like being busy and is tired from work or something...

My idea was that I will wait till Wednesday or Thursday, till he writes me back...and I don't want to annoy or distract him or anything...I just really like him and it's been a very long time since I liked someone and I never dated before.

Can someone help please? Thank you for reading.

In all honesty you just need to ask him. Ask if he is ok, if his family is ok. Make sure he is ok and then if there is no real reason that this is happening you need to define the relationship. Maybe he is confused himself. He may have a lot going on in his heart and in his head. Maybe he isnt ready, maybe he has another girl in his life and things are complicated there and he dosent want to lead you on. You never know just talk to him.

>>2 is right. Communication is very important in keeping a relationship. Be honest with him and tell him what you've been feeling. Make him be honest to you too, encourage him to tell his part of the story. You have to prepare yourself for whatever he might tell you though, but remember this, truth is always better than lies, no matter how painful it is. It'll be better if you can talk face to face with him, than writing to each other because it'll be less awkward to meet each other again if you do that.

>>2 >>3
Thank you so much! I wrote to him if everything is alright. He wrote back to me and it seems he has problems with his phone and he is busy lately. I got a relieved and without thinking too much I told him that I like him. Now, I don't know if he took it seriously when I said it to him. He did tell me that he will write to me back today about it. I hope everything will work out. I will be prepare myself for the outcome.
Thanks to you guys I realized how important it is to have a communication. I really appreciate it!

>>4 You're welcome, glad we could help! ^^
I hope everything goes well for you two :D

hey there
this is kinda hard.
people don't get bored so easily. when you are starting a relationship, you don't just "get bored" and ignore someone. don't be paranoic about it. i know it's hard, but try to be positive. if he was with you, he likes you.
now, why he is on "hiatus"? maybe he is busy. it can happen. and much people, like myself for example, don't like to text when they are with many things in their heads.
or maybe he is confused. it was your first date. maybe was his too. or maybe he don't know what he thinks and feel about you. it can be hard for him. give him some time, or, if you can't, ask him. i know that you already did it, but still, tell him how you feel, and that you want to hear what he have to say. this is probably the problem. he doesn't know how to react.
talk to him about how he feels. it's the best idea.
good luck =D

Ask about his situation. Also, make it clear to him just how you really feel. Whether he's serious about caring about you or not, you'll find out once you tell him how you feel and that you get really anxious when he ignores you, that even the smallest bit of an answer would help you calm down.

Then again, the people I talk to already know this, yet they still don't give a damn about answering me. I guess virtual communication isn't seen as something as important as the vocal one? Or maybe some people think not answering if it's nothing serious won't hurt anyone.

>>6>>7 thank you, for your replies! i thought so too that someone shouldn't be that 'bored' after a few times meeting. And it was very nice and we had really fun even if the last ones were short. I asked him if anything is alright but he is busy lately and apparently he has some problems with his phonenet, i'm not really sure. So the next day I texted him with "Hi, how are you", cause I really wanted to talk to him, He never replied. So I really don't know what's going on with him...

I don't know why nobody else has said this yet, but I think he's cheating

I guess so...or maybe I'm just clueless. I'm a person who doesn't know when I get taken advantage of. But still thanks for the reply >>9

i really don't think he is cheating. why someone would cheat on you, after just a month or so?

I guess he has something to hide or maybe he's cheating on you. It's better if you two clear the situation

Don't sometimes people have technological problems or lack of time, I doubt it is anything like cheating or ignoring your on purpose. It is a little rude though to not send a quick reply to things if he already read them but it happens don't freak out. What everyone has already said about communication is completely true and you should make sure to let him know just how rhis has made you feel and even a short ok if he doesnt have time for anything else to let you know he is listening and not ignoring you works and that it means a lot to you and it hurts when your ignored. Then listen to what he has to say. Once you guys talk it over and understand each other then if he reads things and doesnt reply to you for weeks on it and ignores you, you may have a problem but right now I think everything is fine and theres not some hidden message. A lot of the time people ignore others text and internet messages when they aren't interested or dont like them anymore but again I don't believe this is the case in this instance, and in regards to him cheating, well your not together yet so he cant really be cheating on you and if he does have someone else or isn't interested like that you'll only know once you talk it over. I'm looking forward to hearing how it went with you confessing your love to him. I hope things turn out great!
( oh and btw I would try and talk this over with him in person although a lot of us here are electronicly oriented a lot of people find texts and such very impersonal and it is harder to get your message across and show how much it really means.)
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Kuronaii~☆

Feel free to keep this thread up. If he didn't make a proper statement until now, I really think he might be avoiding you, that's just the reasonable conclusion.

That guy is suspicious , I think you should clear the situation, don't trust him too much though... But I don't know what kind of guy he is so I won't say bad things about him.. But you should make it clear for once because if you don't ... I think you will have a hard time...

>>13 thank you so much! that makes me feel relieved to read your post. I did hurt a bit when he just read them and didnt replied and afterwards im always thinking negative thoughts like he "is avoiding me?", "im being annoying?" and so on. I plan to write to him again on saturday because where I live, there is an anime meeting and im going there. Originally what he told me, he also said he wanted to go there but can't because of work. So that's when after I went there and tell him how it was and maybe I can have a decent conversation with him and hopefully I can meet him again. Thankfully I’m not too anxious anymore for the need to talk to him but I really want to say how I feel about him.

>>14 will do, so you guys can know how it worked out for me.

im still happy from all of your replies! i really appreciate it

hey, why everybody says he is cheating? calm down
girl, i say you should trust him. if you like him, trust him.
it's better to trust the person you like, or some folks on internet?
well, at least is what i think.

I trust him^^ and everything seems fine now. He is busy and there is nithing to be done and can only wait that he has time again. I also realized that i need to learn not to get so emotionally attached to someone that fast^^ if it doesnt work then it doesnt. And if it works it just works^^ but thanks everyone i feel more confident now!:)

hey,you got it. easier than i expected
you look reaaaally confident, i liked.
keep going girl, you can do it.
i wish you a happy ending =D

You certainly sound more confident now^^
Good luck from now on!