Hello, I'm Andy. Even though I have a guy's name I'm a female. I am 16 years old and I feel really guilty about something...
So... last summer, I dated this guy; he was 18 (Now he is 19). And he was really nice and he never thought about girls in a perverted way or so he was really nice caring and gentle. I nearly slept with him last year (we made out and well... to give detail I gave him a bj). I was hiz first. Like first girlfriend, first kiss and all that. We broke up afterwards and a few days ago we started talking again and he changed a lot. Like... he was thinking about girls non stop and saying really perverted stuff. I feel like I changed him and yeah... i did change him... i feel really guilty. And because of me he swore not to touch a girl until marriage and he was calm again (this happened before we started talking again, he swore because he felt guilty for making me do it) And when he saw me he remembered "stuff" and changed again. I miss the nice guy from last year... I feel like I did something really wrong.How can i fx him..? i feel really bad. Help?

>>1 WHO THE FUCK USES THEIR REAL NAME ON AN ANONYMOUS SITE!!
1.You gave a bj while 15, nice job, probably violated a law.
2.He changed by himself, all you did has nothing to do with it.
3.Fixing him is probably impossible at this point.

>>2 I didnt give my full name. Calm down.
1. I am over the age of those stuff in mycountry legally. so dont worry
2. I have fault too.
3. i am asking for ideas. I just want to do something

>>3 yeah, a first name is bad enough though
1.Wtf is wrong with your county
2.Explain
3.I have no normal idea how you can change a pervert to a normal person. Maybe cut off his balls so he doesn't produce hormones?

>>4 dear Andy is he shortened version of my name
1. Idk?
2. Read what I wrote again, I feel guilty and I dont want to. I feel like its all my fault. I feel like throwing up and I feel like shit...
3. He was normal before so maybe im asking if there is any chance to make him like how he used to be. I am trying to talk with him but its hard... like he is hitting on me every second... i dont know.

>>1 You feel guilty about making a guy horny? He's gonna feel that way with or without you, love.

Do not- and I repeat- DO NOT think of yourself as needing to "fix him".

No. Just no. Wrong mindset entirely. Saying it's your fault or that you feel guilty or that you need to fix him, is all just wrong. You just need to talk to him.

A lot of relationship problems brought up on here are solved with rule number one of salvaging a relationship: communication.

Bring up that you believe he's changed and that you're not comfortable doing pervy stuff (and you shouldn't, you're 15).
You really shouldn't have given him a blowjob either, because as I'm about to point out, whether it's consensual or not any sexual activities with him is considered statutory rape (if you're living in the US). But personally, I don't feel like any 15 year old should be giving out blow jobs.

Anyway, you're not currently dating him, right? Then you don't have to bring this up. There is no "fixing". He's his own person and all you can do is pray about it if you're religious.
What pisses me off is if he's trying to make you feel responsible for it over some bullshit like "he remembered "stuff"". His mind being in the gutter isn't your fault. You should also let him know that isn't his fault. Like I said, he's a teenage boy, as soon as they're sexually active they generally want to do it 5-6 times a week. This is normal. He needs to know that.


If you really wanted to, you could bring up how this change is making you feel uncomfortable, because you miss the nice guy from last year. Then encourage him, he needs you to know, as much as movies, shows, and news media would like you to believe, sex after marriage is not an impossible request. My cousin and her boyfriend have been dating for about five years, going to get married this fall, and they've never had sex.
After that, tell him to look up ways of abstaining from sex if he truly wants to wait till after marriage. Hell, maybe he just needs to jerk off more?

>>2
Giving his real firstname is not prohibited. She's the only responsible.
Where fellatio is a violation of law ? There is only 13 US states to my knowledge that apply this law. That don't mean that fellatio constitute a law violation in her country.

>>1
This guy changed himself. After all, you didn't forced him to have a relationship with you. You did ? Did you forced him to have a sexual intercourse with you ? If no, I think that you don't have reasons to feel yourself guilty.
It's a part of his experience. It seems that he can't handle his libido. Who says that it would have been different if he discovered sex with another girl ?
I don't think that it's sane to think that you have to "fix" someone. On this point, I'm joining Magnolia (>>6).
However, you can tell him that the nice guy you met before is missing to you. Pointing the fact that he changed. Gently.
Lastly : He seems young, and apparently, he discovered sex recently, I think that he need time to organize himself.

OMFF!!! THIS IS FUNNY!!!! XD

Honestly everything that can be said about this issue has been said, so I'll just join their opinnions.
It is by no means your fault, I once had a sexual relationship and it turned me into a person that wants to have his first time with a special someone. In your friend's case, exactly the opposite happened. This developement merely relates to the way an individual wants to tend to their sexual desires. If you hadn't done it, someone else would have triggered him.
And of course you should tell him that you miss the old version, although, you might not hear the answer you want to. It might be that he feels way more comfortable now.