I think I have a problem. Like, my granma died a while ago and when I think back to it, we watched the video of her funeral. I didn't shed a single tear, even though my family was crying thieir eyes out. At the actual funeral (I was there watching her getting buried) I still didn't cry. I don't know why. I just didn't feel sad that I lost her. Is this bad?

Should I have felt sad?

Feelings are somewhat surreal in the sense that you don't really dictate what they react to and when, nor do they mean anything if you do or don't feel a certain one at any given time. They just are, and while you have to put up with it, you don't need to understand it, much less attempt to decry meaning others' may try to pin on them.

The point is that nobody should feel anything in particular, and you should never feel like you need to. Grief happens (or doesn't) for a number of reasons, and if it didn't, count yourself lucky - as long as you understand consciously what that loss meant.

It may hit you later, in a year, in 10 years, or never. If it does, it might sting; it might have you double over in turmoil retroactively, or you may feel the same as you do now. But don't feel guilt for lacking a reaction - only, at most, empathy for those who don't.

Thanks for comforting me. I was worried over this for a while. :33

Don't worry I felt the same way when my grandfather died. It was weird because even though me and my sister saw him a lot, we was never really that close to him. Yet when he died she cried her eyes out and I did not shed a tear. I remember I would sometimes try to make myself cry. But just because I didn't cry, that does not mean I didn't care. Sorry, that probably did not help at all I just wrote what I was thinking.

It's fine. I just 1) Didn't feel all that sad about it... Even though maybe deep in my heart, I did. 2) Didn't show those feelings (I'm really strong??) and lastly, I can't fake cry... So I just didn't cry at all...

Same. My grandmother died recently. I didnt cry as much as other members of my family, I felt like I deserve to; I cared for her, I'd help her however I could, but I felt like they cared for her so much more than I did. And that they had more of a right to cry than I did. I'm not really an emotional person though which added to he situation, I'm more of an emotional sponge, when my family cried for my grandpa, its like I felt their pain then, and It made me cry not for my grandpa or grandma, but for them. Just spitting out my thoughts tbh, hope this can help you in some way

Ever read "My Childhood" by Maxim Gorky? In the first chapter, the main character is very much like you, so alike I thought you were trolling. Just read it, you probably won't find your answer though.

I suppose that there's a lot of variables for that:
1. You might not have been very close to your grandmother, hence that's why you don't feel as bad. You might have felt remorse or sadness but not pure grief.
2. To you, her death might not have had such an impact on you. This may sound a bit dark, but your grandmother's death might not have affected you. This can tie back to reason 1.
3. You might just have not felt sad at all. Different things make people cry. An example would be a natural disaster that happened somewhere in the world and everyone is mourning for the lives that were lost, but you might not just care. Deep down, you might feel bad but life goes on and it's none of your business. I know that might sound a bit dark, and I'm not saying that you are shallow or anything (please don't get the wrong idea about this)! But it might be that her death was tragic or sad, but it might not be your top priority, so to speak.
Sorry if I confuse you or make you angry or sad in any way. I'm not a psychologist, but I try to explain my reasoning.

i had done the same thing, my great grandma had died, i was sad but i wasnt crying at the funeral, same goes for a lot of my friends, i wouldnt really worry about it.

There are some people who hardly cry due to biological reasons.
If it's not that, then maybe you can just deal well with loss and can accept the natural circle of life? You are not empty inside, you still find joy, right? Therefore, I think you are just a strong person. On the other hand, it could also be that your subconscience protects your psyche by blocking those emotions, in that case, this issue might haunt you later once you actually mentally realize it.