I am really confused right now. I never log into facebook on my laptop anymore due to the fact that almost everything I see, I don't want to. Just a moment ago, I sent a link to some friends through facebook. Lo and behold, the first post on the front page is about my recent ex-girlfriend and one of my best friends in a relationship.

Man, that's just a bad feeling...

They are both still my friends, but I just don't know how to feel right now. I just sorta feel sad, for no real reason I can think of. I am a pretty carefree person. My usual disposition is pretty happy, and I am pretty good at cheering myself up. Today though, I just don't really know how to do that.

So, I'm sure some of you out there have had a similar experience or something. If you have advice, throw it out, I'll consider it. If that's not you, I still appreciate your thoughts.

Well, I have not been in a situation like that before, but if you need advice on what to do for that kind of feeling, my advice, although not completely solving, is just drown yourself in anime, or music, or anything to drag you away from reality. The weird feeling of being sad for no good reason will just wear off at one point, but cannot be taken care of immediately, so the best message is just to not think about it in hopes that you will subconsciously forget what made you sad. Hope this helps!

NO ! Languishing by reading mangas is NOT a long term solution !

You're not wrong if you don't log on Facebook, that's actually a pity to have to bear everyone just to get in touch with a few people.

Take your shoes, call some friends to go to town, find a hobby, turn the page AND LIVE YOUR LIFE.

>>2>>3 Both of those things just tell him to do whatever he would anyways, be it socializing or escapism.
This seems to be a pretty transient problem though. I understand that you are bothered by their relationship, but I think you just need some time to get used to it. As irritating as it may seem, the problem will disappear in time, though it might just be better to not meet up with both of them at the same time. Seeing them live out their relationship must hurt, so it's probably better to avoid them when they're together. Finally, let me ask: Do you feel betrayed?

Thank you all for your replies. If you are wondering, in these situations, I s usually look for someone to talk to, but a ton of people weren't available at half past midnight, so I drowned myself in YouTube and video games per usual.

I realized a little better what my feeling was later; I would actually feel sick when I thought about it. To expand though, I actually think they are really good people for each other. I know it will hurt a lot if I see them together, but it's likely that I won't anyway. Onto that last question from >>4, do I feel betrayed? This is really hard to answer definitively, but I think some part of me does. I always felt like there were things toward the end that she didn't tell me, but I also don't know if she really knew what they were. The worst is just knowing that we mainly broke up over lack of time together (I was mostly free, but she was in school and had two jobs), just to see her now with someone else. I very much don't want to think that was an objective purpose; I want to see it as coincidence. Sorry for rambling on. In summary, I do feel a bit betrayed, but I don't have any specific reasons or persons behind any blame for it.

It happens. Drowning yourself in other people and your passions isn't a bad thing to do if you approach it as something you do for yourself rather than as a solution to the issue, because this is the kind of thing you need to grow into. That being said, the best way in my opinion to go about dealing with those feelings is not to ignore it, and not to be obsessed with it, but to acknowledge it as an annoying thing you'll have to deal with and then deal.

Consult yourself over a long period of time and you'll come to a satisfactory resolution given the nature of the problem. Your ex is no longer relevant to you (unless you somehow managed to stay friends, which is apparently difficult to do) and as such eventually the bothered feelings will probably dissipate as well. I can't completely empathize because I avoid most social media like the plague and as such I don't have to put up with people I don't want to, and I don't think stepping away from facebook is such a bad thing. It's a maze of people covered in their facades and misconceptions and preconceived notions of others and it just seems to me that interaction in that avenue is...superficial. Of course I don't use it, so I can't relay say any of that view stems from personal experience, and of course people are complicated and there's no end-all cure-all definition of anything when it comes to people.

So, yeah, I feel you, man, I know how that feels, and it'll plague you for a little while but you should get used to it eventually; all you can do is enjoy the things worth enjoying in your life and look into yourself and the people supporting you for solace.

>>5 It's sensible to feel that little bit of betrayal somewhere inside of you, but as long as it does not turn into wrath, I think you will be fine. As for her not having time for you and now being with another person... that sounds suspicious, but iI am not here to plant the seeds of doubt. You think of both of them to be good people who make a good couple, and since both of them are your friends, I think you should also feel happy for them.
Just remember that you were able to make at least some good memories with her and that now, you still have two great friends who get along well with each other.

*I hope I didn't misunderstand your relationship

>>8 I think you understand it just fine. I think it's funny though now that I think back. I was warned from the very start about her for this specific reason. I never thought much of it until just now. That's not to comment on personality, I know not her intentions.

>>6 >>7 It's going to take some time to leave everything in the past, but already, in the whole three months, I am feeling more confident from the past day. At the time, I was in the middle of a semester, I had a lot to think about already, and I didn't really know how to process everything. Now that I'm taking time to look back, I'm going to leave my regrets where they were. I'll learn from those, and I'll cherish the good memories.