I posted before about not being sure how to handle my boyfriend of 3 years transferring to university and questioning what i was going to do in his absence. Well i dont need to worry any more because he finally broke up with me yesterday. He decided that it would be better for him to go up north to uni without any "obligations" and so he decided it was time for us to part ways. At first i was a horrible mess, as i am the emotional type, but after a few long hours, i calmed down and we discussed it like civilized individuals. I understand his need to be free from me, and he understands that i still need him as my support system. Because of this we have decided to remain friends for as long as he sees fit. He told me that perhaps down the road, after hes has graduated and done what he needs to that there may be a possibility of us getting together again, just like my dad and stepmom who had dated for 3 years in the 80s until she left him. For now i am going to focus on trying to find out who exactly i am, because without him i have no clue who i am. When we were together, i only ever saw a future with him, but now that has been taken away. Now i have to find out what my future will hold on my own. I have no plans of dating again until i become something to be proud of. It's only me now, and i need to learn to stand on my own two feet. It'll be difficult, but i will learn.

Hello Ness, I understand alot of what you are going through. I met this girl my freshman year of college, and we dated for two years, things got so good between us, she became my fiance. Alas, we both have decided it would be in our mutual benefit to part ways from each other.

We wanted different things out of life.

alas, me and her have been seperated for almost a month now, and we decided to remain friends. I still love her, i wanted to marry her for crying out loud, but we werent right for each other, and every sweet memory and good dream i have of her kills me with sadness.

Part of me feels free though, i have my whole life ahead of me and i amm just so excited!!!

anyway, if you ever need anyone to talk to, I know from experience that long term break ups have long term side-effects, and i am glad you and him have decided to remain friends, and i am also glad that you are going to have a chance to be your own support system. I had a similar issue where i tend to rely on others to be my support system.

My beest wishes extend to you Ness!

"i need to learn to stand on my own two feet. It'll be difficult, but i will learn."

Don't overdo. That's surely sad, you've been laid down by your boyfriend, but that's something that happens.

If you want to stand up on your two feet, just stand up and live your life.