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I need some advice (4)

1 Name: Ness. : 2015-05-25 00:08 ID:V+vGo+Gs [Del]

So, it's been a while since i logged on here (mostly because someone in the chatroom was mean to me and scared me off), but im back because i really need some advice or rather just someone to talk to. I've been feeling really depressed lately, and i just dont know why. I should be happy because my boyfriend of 3 years just graduated from community college and is transferring to his dream school, but i cant help but feel sad about it. I feel like he's moving on to bigger and better things, while im stuck somewhere i dont want to be. I want to achieve great things, but i dont know how. I want to be someone he and everyone else can be proud of, but i just cant. It feels like nothing i do will be enough to get me out of the slump that i am in. Ive had this lonely feeling, and even though i tell him, it feels like he doesnt understand. He tells me "nothing will change" but i know they will. I know he wont want to be with me, who will always be a failure. I just dont know what to do anymore. My anxiety is through the roof, and ive been curled up in my room for days trying to figure out what im doing with myself and reflecting on how much of a piece of shit ive become. I dont know what to do...

2 Name: Sinningangel : 2015-05-25 00:45 ID:NeXliFeC [Del]

This may sound mean but that is how life goes if you what to you should talk to your boyfriend it may help. Tell him the truth about how you feel but remeber life is always hard it just a matter of how you deal with it! But the world is'nt as bad as you think it is, ok. If you need to talk I'm here...by the way I think your going to do somthing great,

3 Name: ZenithYore : 2015-05-25 18:23 ID:8aVKEuon [Del]

...Chatroom...Ness...Hm.
Anyways. You cannot absolutely be sure that he won't want to be with you anymore. Obviously he was trying to reassure you that nothing will change because he doesn't want you to worry about that, or even because he doesn't want anything to change. As >>2 You can tell him how you're feeling. I'm sure he won't turn you away, and if he does, well then, you guys have some issues to sort out. One thing, please don't try to stop him from going off to him dream college. It's understandable that you would feel sad about it, and who wouldn't? Things are going to change, and if things don't good for you guys, I guess, but that has a 15% chance. Fact is, he is moving on to bigger, and better things, but that doesn't mean he's moving on from you. You may be the biggest, and bestest(not a word...) thing for him, in the relationship category. There's a difference between feeling like a failure, and being one. Figure out which one is true. If you are a failure, then uncurl from that position in your room, and make things bearable. It's a lot easier said than done. A LOT easier, but that's all I can give you now considering I don't know your situation. Try to be something that one step above failure, and begin from there. It won't be easy, and most likely never will be. But, you were given this life/circumstance most likely 'cause you're strong enough to stand it. Sorry I'm blunt, and my 'advice' was 9/10 useless, but this is all I have to say.
This is the first personal thread about someone that I've commented on. I need more experience, I suppose. Hope you get sorted out. Have a nice life.

4 Name: LittleRat : 2015-05-26 07:18 ID:xSRtusu8 [Del]

Depends on the chat room. Some places can get to be a mess and it actually depends on the seasons and times. I usually go to friendly bars in chat rooms.

Other then that I can only tell you to try to prioritize. Get your goal set straight by finding what it is that you need not just what you want. Then work with the motivation to come back with something accomplish or just that you've learn something from the experience.

In my case I never had a relationship in my long life, nor friends for that matter. I just shut myself up for years... Then 10 years later someone talked to me. And since then I did so many foolish things! Things so trivial, but I never expected I would live! I am trying to catch up at my own pace to not be left out.

Remember this. As long as you have the will to move on even if you can't always be right next to that person you can still follow there tracks to meet up later. And if he also has the will it shouldn't be impossible.