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I'm so depressed about my Friend. :( (10)

1 Name: Sena : 2015-04-29 05:31 ID:Z9PV21pL [Del]

Ok. So I have a Dollar friend here who thinks she is alone. I always comfort her that I am here and that she's not alone. But she always try to commit suicide.
She don't wanna listen to me.
We joined the Dollars together, and I told her that in the Personal Section, she can post her thoughts about her sadness. But after I told her that, she said she don't wanna visit it and still continue believing that she's alone.
I wanna stop her at my best because I love her. She's my very important friend. My bestfriend.
But she's too much than an Emo that's why she's too sensitive.
So guys, can you recommend me something to do about her? :(

2 Name: NZPIEFACE : 2015-04-29 09:05 ID:yrSx+PYG [Del]

Have you ever thought about why she thinks like that? try to understand what she's thinking, then try to cheer her up using what ever way you can. (Remember the second episode of DRRR?)

3 Name: Alpha : 2015-04-29 09:27 ID:92Zk/Jhk [Del]

Why does she think alone? There must be a reason and tell her that she can talk to any one in the dollars and they would be willing to listen to her and give her advice...

Maybe try going out doing things that interest her like, Events like Comic con, or Fan expo, or Anime Expo. What ever she likes to. If you can't get your friend to these events then go for walks and try to get her to open up to you. Let her know that you are there for her and you want to help.

I can suggest more ideas to help her if you want...

Alpha :)

4 Name: Sena : 2015-04-29 19:06 ID:8uqWbD4z [Del]

Thanks guys.
>>3 I'm trying to do that now. And I don't see much progress.
>>2 She's not the type who wanna be open. But >>3 is right, I still half to continue making her trust me. Thanks. But I still need more Advice guys.

5 Name: SM&A : 2015-04-29 21:57 ID:lm0+H/1r [Del]

Quite an interesting person here.
I deal with cynical nochuckleheads all the time; they're a normal occurence among our lovely generation, and a past couple generations for that matter.
If your ass comes strolling up, asking about the problems of her life that she clearly didn't want to tell you in the first place, then things aren't going to end well even if you two ARE close.
If she seems depressed (which, from what you said, seems to be always), then ask her what's wrong. She'll probably say something like "I'm all alone."
Tell her "You have me!" like you always do.
She'll be like "oh, alright..." or something unconvincing like that.
Try a "You have your parents too, right?" card on her.
Depending on her answer it's likely you'll find out if her family is dysfunctional or otherwise. From there you've established your problem (I'm assuming you're her only friend? If so there's only two parties in her life that you must establish)
Of course this is all what I would do because I know how to dig info out of people. It can be quite easy if you know how, especially with this generation.

6 Name: SM&A : 2015-04-29 21:58 ID:lm0+H/1r [Del]

I hate to comment twice but I missed something out here.
If she utterly avoids any conversation of her parents it's likely that they're dysfunctional, but perhaps you already knew that.

7 Name: Takuto : 2015-04-29 22:00 ID:X2CjaZp2 [Del]

just let her be sometimes she want alone

8 Name: Sena : 2015-04-30 05:31 ID:ykVqdk3V [Del]

>>5 She's just looking to me like I'm just her friend stalker.
We have tried many things before like bonding, playing together, watching anime, and she is even laughing when I tell jokes, but she's really weird. Even though we've done that much, she still feel like she's alone. It's like she's a tsundere or something that doesn't want friendship. She's someone who don't wanna open up. I even tell her my secrets, and there's no problem about sharing personal things to her, but hers,she just wanna keep it on her. When I ask "What's wrong?" She would rather say "Nothing." Or "Leave me alone for awhile"
And after that "Awhile", She pretend that nothing's wrong even it affects her that much.
There was also a time when she confronted bad things to one of our classmate she hates. That mate was a hard girl and a very aggresive girl. That girl tried to pull prank on her like framing something the teachers would hate or just notice. But she, it's nothing to her, all of my classmates think she's dumb and bad, but it's nothing to her. And me, her only friend, I really wanna help her, but she really don't wanna open up.
She isn't bad, I know her, she has a kind side too, it's just that , she thinks no one can be trusted.
So I hope this helps about me having some advice from you guys.
And also an Additional info, about her parents, she's living in an apartment because her family is in the province. I think they are good, but it's really her "trusting side" that has a problem.
BTW , thanks.

9 Name: SM&A : 2015-04-30 10:31 ID:5Lp/JPKa [Del]

If you don't think she doesn't trust anyone then confront her about it.
To me it seems she's hiding herself from everyone deliberately, as if to carry her own weight by herself.
If she truly can't open up because she doesn't trust anyone, then I suggest something: Kokoro Connect.
Watch that. Episode 4 to be exact but just do the whole thing because the MC can be a good example for you to follow.

10 Name: Sena : 2015-04-30 22:30 ID:xBFV5MnV [Del]

>>9 Ok. Arigatou.