All my mom says is that I suck at talking to people, and I'm idiotic, and that I will never have friends. While saying this she pushes two people my age across the street to go "play" with on me, and I do not want to AT ALL! I tell her why and she tells me I am anti-social and it's stupid that I think so. I always explain to her why I don't want to go and "play" with them but she doesn't care what I say as long as she can have her way. She says I can't hold normal conversations with people, and she just LOVES to put words in my mouth, and perceive me as something and someone I am not. And I can't try to protest or correct her because she snaps and yells at me, and soon diseplines me for trying to be myself. SHe also says all I do is interrupt her. You know how people do that like, "Yah, I know" thing when someone is talking? Well, when I do that I am just frustrated with something that I am doing, for example, i was playing basketball the other day, and she was instructing me because she noticed how many baskets I missed, I interrupted her out of frustration with that, "Yah, I know" thing, and she got mad again. I mean, I admit that I am not the best at getting along with EVERYONE IN THE WORLD, but that;s just who I am, and for some reason I, MYSELF, am not acceptable, and I am just the WORST of the WORST.
I apologize for going on like that, but I just had to let off some steam. Anyways, what I am asking for here, is some help on how to make her stop treating me like this, maybe something to prove to her that I am indeed social, or maybe advice on making some more friends or something.

Man, my mom did the same things to me when I was younger. Still does, sometimes. I didn't have friends for a good chunk of my childhood, and she thought I was antisocial, but I was actually really, really shy. She ended up putting me into a bunch of social situations I wasn't ready for, to the point that I would have to hide in the bathroom to get away from people (and maybe cry while I was there). Back then I didn't know how to make her stop, other than try to make friends on my own terms. That got her off my back, sort of.

I'm not so great at making friends either (social situations with strangers scare me), but I've been told that the best bet would be meeting people with common interests. Like a club or something I guess? They say you've got to put yourself out there if you want to make friends, just try talking to people. About anything, seriously. If you see someone wearing a shirt for a band or show you like or something, you can use that to try to talk them. It's not foolproof, but it's worked for me before.
((Also I read somewhere that if you let someone talk about themselves, they'll think you're a good conversationalist. Maybe that could help with talking to people.))

As for getting her to stop treating you like this–

Lack of communication leads to misunderstandings and pent-up resentment. (I speak from experience, since I'm shit at communicating my feelings.) So I'd say the best thing to do would be to have a heart-to-heart conversation with your mom. Let her know how you feel when she criticizes you like that. I know it could be difficult, but it could also lead to something good. (If she doesn't hear you out even after you've laid yourself bare, then honestly, she must have a poor character.)

Sorry if my advice isn't too helpful... I hope things go well for you though.

>>1 I feel your pain brother.
I am generally a very antisocial person, with my mom often trying to "give me a slight nudge" (more like a high speed falcon punch) to encourage me to be social. I honestly despise this, but sometimes it works out for the better....
jk it never does and i hate it

>>2 has very good points that I agree with, and would probably help you. Though I myself do not have the ability to lend personal experience to the matter, surely a clean dialogue with your mother would be in both of your best interests, and if possible, it would probably make things better for both of your relationships. If she doesn't, then it's probably as was said, your mother isn't being very good at her job; there is also always the consideration one must make that external pressures are acting upon her that are pushing her to act this way; that doesn't justify the way she's been treating you, but it would make things make more sense if you knew why.

In any case, yeah, making friends is not the easiest. For me, I've never really had trouble making friends because I don't really bother...? Not to say I'm friends with everybody easily, because that's not what I mean; some of my friends have taken effort to attain either because of differences between us that make initial contact bumpy or because of drama between mutual friends that makes being friends controversial or impossible within the context of the situation, which would lead to awkwardness and unnecessary hostility, etc. (some people are just unreasonable, that's all I'm going to say about that). I can tell you though, that people you truly connect with will be easier to make friends with, and it helps when they want to be friends with you. Sometimes friendships are hard to maintain, other times it goes flawlessly; I daresay that in terms of friendship, this is part compatibility of the two people as friends but it's also partially a function of their personal approach towards social settings. Not everybody will have tons of friends, but I don't see anything wrong with that. Everybody needs friends, and everybody needs family, and on a fundamental level I think that one's closest friends blends together with their family to give them their social support structure and the people they care about, and that care about them. But you can't force it, really. Friendships are bonds forged through both mutual connection and sharing experiences; in the process of making a friend, whichever comes first will lead to the other, and will oftentimes work out if things go well in either respect. People do say making friends is about going out there, and half the time it is. But that doesn't necessarily mean throwing yourself into social scenarios you aren't comfortable with, and while of course you aren't doing that your mother is, which is obviously the issue to begin with. So if you could talk it our with her and make things clear, that'd help ease your struggle significantly.

In any case, your friends should be able to be comfortable with all you are, and will accept you for you, and will actually become your friends on that basis; superficial friendships don't really amount to anything in that respect and fall apart, so what your mother doing won't particularly work anyways. As >>2 said, finding people with common interests is a good starting point. It's not always that simple, but sometimes that common thread is the foot in the door, and psychologically sometimes that's the hardest part about forging a friendship is just getting a foot in the door. Once you make friends that accept you for you, cherish them as they cherish you, and you'll be fine. I know that you can find people that will mesh with you, and you'll be okay in that respect; if you are able to talk to your mother and explain that to her, maybe she'll give you space. And I feel that the space will give you the room to grow on your own and reach out to the people you want to.

"Yah, I know". Parents generally don't like that sort of thing, especially when interrupted by it, so generally one would like to avoid that, but it's not necessarily your fault either. It seems to be a common parent-child dynamic at some times, so don't worry about that in particular too much, I've done things like that too, heh.

Friends come from strange places too sometimes. Just keep an eye out and don't force it, try to come to an understanding with your mother; and I'm sure even here you'll be able to find friends. I wish you the best~

i think you are an introvert person. people who has an introvert behaviour need more space and does not feel comftable around too many people. A person can also become an introvert becouse of certain life experiences as well. So there is a logical explanation for this situation and i think your mom should just accept it.

well, just listen to your mother for once, and try to do what she says. I dont think a mother would try to harm their child for no reason, am i right?

>>6 Okay but the thing is, a mother shouldn't be trying to harm their kid in the first place. There are better ways to encourage your kid to be more social without calling them idiotic and making them feel like there's something wrong with them, or that they're not good enough. >>1 doesn't need or deserve that extra negativity in their life, especially not from their mom. Which is why they should maybe try talking it out, instead of just putting up with the verbal onslaughts. I think you're right about how maybe they should listen to what their mom says, but their mom should definitely be nicer about saying it.

what good mother you have

mate your mother is complicated,i don t think you can do something about your mother ,this is simply the She is.i know it is a pain in the ass to listen but we cant donothing until you can get 18.about getting friends ,it is anothe complicated matter.there is a lot of type of friends,you just need to choose the rigth one to hangout it.