Hey, a while ago I did a thread on my ex gay boyfriend, G-man. I'm finally over G-man, which makes me happy because it cut me up like razors during and after the whole ordeal with him ( see Help, I'm in love! Part 2,if your confused). But during the whole situation with him, only one friend helped me through it, R-man. But R-man is now the problem. Because I've fallen in love with him or I at least have a major crush on him. I think it's just a crush, because I'm mostly obsessed with his appearance. All I can say about the boy is that he's fine lookin. He's skinny but very muscular because he constantly practices martial arts, and he has a cute face to die for. About a week or two ago R-man, couple of guys, and I, went to the state capital for a boy's night out of sorts (all of my friends are straight by the way). It was nice. The guys and I had a great time. While we were their we when swimming. I spent almost the whole time their checking R-man out,lucky for me he didn't notice. G-man was handsome, but in his own way. But R-man is truly beautiful. But I don't want to ruin our friendship by making a move on him, because I know for sure that he's straight. So how do I cope with these feelings? I'm so nervous that I'm hesitating to go to his up coming birthday party.

Hey, whatever you decide to do, I think you should at least go to the party. He's your friend, right? Something like that shouldn't bother him, especially if he's familiar with your sexuality too, something like that would probably be a possibility at least in the corner of his mind. You know him best, so it's your decision whether you want to talk to him or not about it, but I would think clearing the air would help everybody move past it; however, from the sounds of it it probably is indeed an infatuation at this stage, so I wouldn't worry about it too much right now. Just keep your friendship in mind and remember what's important; be careful with your emotions, don't deny them, and don't act too rashly on them either, of course. Things will be easier if what you feel ends up melting away as infatuations tend to do.

In any case, surely you'll be able to find somebody you're compatible with and I hope all goes well~

I had an awkward situation like that where I had a gay crush on my girl friend, I told her my feelings and she was alright with it I guess (just a bit odd around me for a couple weeks, then she got used to it). But if he's really a good friend, I think he should understand if you tell him your feelings in a non-creepy way. Perhaps it may take a little getting used to, but it's better than keeping things from a good friend like that. If it's different with guys, I would never know, though considering it wouldn't be that bad of an idea. If he's not one to be a show-off manly man douche, go on and just ease into it like 'I have a small crush, and I know you probably can't feel the same'. Take this into consideration if you may,and IT'S ALL ABOUT THAT CONFIDENCE, MANG!