So... I have been dating with the guy I love for 2 years.... and we plan on getting married and all.... and I really love him more than anyhing.
What I'm going to tell has nothing to do with my love for my boyfriend. I still love him the same and more than anything even though we are in a long distance relationship.

So basically there is another guy I find attractive and hot; he isnt hot or attractive. No one finds him attractive handsome or any of those. And well... he isnt my type or anything... but whenever I see him (mostly in gym classes I am in physics and I can see the gym class from the window) I see him... really passionate and trying hard. and he looks so hot in my eyes when he is sweaty or.. yeah...

He looks at me all the time... I catch him looking at me and shyly look away... its like im really attracted to him... But my love for my boyfriend is nothing compared to him.

How do I stop feeling guilty? Im scared I will have feelings for him and I'd rather kill myself than leave my boyfriend. He is everything and anything for me.... What I have for him is pure love. Even though we are log distance... I saw him the past years in holidays sometimes and we skype everyday.

Am I into him maybe I'm long distance with my boyfriend? Can someone help? I feel like throwing up... I feel super guilty... I even saw the guy in my dream hugging me and kissing me... I feel so sick... Please help me guys... I dont want to be depressed just because of this...
Thanks...

Have you ever met this person in rl the long distance relationship one? You have to see him if anything to know what you feel truly for him. I can tell you're young so all I have to say is don't rush into anything. That guy, just b/c you find his attractive shouldn't be your reason to fall for someone but you do need a certain attraction that does make you like them the most beyond everything else it just doesn't matter. My opinion you're just not ready to date, you can hurt yourself and miss out so much in life if you keep at this.

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We met a lot of times in the holidays. Im 18... I dated with a lot of people but... my boyfriend is different. Also depression doesnt only mean cutting yourself. Why would I want to die just because of this?
P.S. I'm at home so my ID changed

Finding someone attractive is natural and doesn't mean you're in love with them. It's like when you think a celebrity is attractive and you like him. It doesn't mean you're in love with him, so don't feel guilty!

Sounds like you need to have a talk with your current boyfriend. If you're having these sort of feelings about someone else, you should post-pone marriage until you truly know what you want. If you don't want to get involved with this other man, stay away from him, or avoid looking at him.

so what you have a crush on the guy nothing wrong with that its not like your cheating on your boyfriend.

But I really feel guilty guys like... I heard its normal to find someone else attractive but it feels like I'm cheating on my boyfriend. His name is Matt and our friends called me Mattsexual as a joke. I never found anyone attractive other than him. What I have for the other guy is like a celebrity crush, but still... it bothers me. It's hard to avoid looking at him. Ad I feel guilty. I find my boyfriend more attractive than him but its like... oh he is good looking too. So I feel so bad. What should I do to stop this feeling?

I personally believe that if you really love your boyfriend that you wouldn't be having attractions to other people. I don't want to be harsh, but your boyfriend deserves all of your attention. I don't think you'd like it if he stayed with you while looking at a busty "hot" female. Either break up or stop it, it's a matter of love.

oi katherine if he's everything and anything for you don't you dare betray him

I wont. I wil never leave him. Or cheat on him.

very good katherine that just i want to know i hope your boyfriend have the same feeling for you

Although I'm a guy, I know exactly how you feel.

Currently, I'm in a long distance relationship with a girl that, I swear to God and all that is holy, is one of THE most special people to me. Problem being, she lives quite far away.

I'm not going to give you our story; just that we're only able to be together one week a year and talk on skype every time we have the chance.
In my daily life, I'm around plenty of women. It's nothing personal or anything, we're just classmates. I just hang around them because I find them easier to talk to and be around than most other guys (don't get me wrong, I have guy friends :P).

Anyways, I will admit I get those urges that you do. The difference between us is that guys tend to have a more active romantic brain (which leads men to be the one who "chases". If I come across as sexist, I apologize)

So, if I'm going to be blunt here, I know you're suffering, probably far more than I am since your brain is subconsciously saying "that's him!" If you truly want to stay with your boyfriend, you HAVE to resist him. No matter what, don't let him into your life! That's all I can say.

Oh, and here's a quick piece of advice from a girl who's your age:

"It's alright to think of someone as attractive, because human minds and hearts are like that. You have no reason to be guilty, as long as you don't act on it."