Ok, so basically I think my girlfriend is pretty crazy... And not in a good way.
To start off, I know I probably have a rather strong bias when writing this but I'd really like to hear everyone's opinions on the matter so be honest ^^
Alright basically she makes me responsible for her life and her actions. It may seem innocent enough if she says she won't do this and that until I help her but trust me on this it goes allot further. The most recent example being as follows: I'm visiting my parents thus week (about a 5 hour journey from where we both live) and she ends up going to the hospital because... She never said... While there she is told that she has an enflamed appendix (which in my knowledge most likely leads to sudden spells of death if not treated). She being unhappy that I'm gone for a week, which in my opinion is not all that long, tries to pressure me into coming back immediately or she won't let herself be treated.
Am I the only one who thinks that's a bit too extreme? It isn't the first time she's tried to pressure me like this but she's gone to far as far as I'm concerned.
Would it be wrong not to give in? And without actually knowing the details would you think it's a good idea to be together with someone who pills this kind of stunt often?
Thanks everyone

Hmmm...No. This is not good. I mean it's all normal that she might act innocent for you, but if it means pulling you down every time you're going to do something. Then I think it's not right. Good luck!

Bruh, 2 points. Keep in mind this is just a segment from your life.

Her view: Why the hell are you going away when she is in the hospital? Your parents aren't gonna die, so wait for some time when she is good then you can go: type of mentality. When you are around her, it makes her happy.

Your view: Ooo, she acting like a child. Can she not take care of herself? You are not cheating on her 2 year old @$$ by leaving for a WEEK. Is she not independent enough to handle stuff herself? So she can be treated yet she doesn't wanna cause you are not there? Life or death situation and she is playing games. Leave her.

In all honesty, judging by your comment, I vote that you leave her. BUT once again, this is just a snippet of your situation. So you decide.
Good luck.

Take her with you in your journey

>>4 Yeah! That could work!

Honestly dude, I think she's scared. She just found out her life might be in jeopardy, and there's no one there to confortable her. She's scared and it's making her clingy and desperate for you to be with her.

Those are just my thoughts.

I dont really see why you cant delay the trip to your parents... I mean, are there expensive tickets involved? If you think she's crazy because she wants support... Then I think you just don't love her enough and you two should break up so she knows and understands this. But for the love of God, don't do that before she receives treatment. Afterwards, just tell her you need space or tell her the truth, that you think she's too dependent. Now if she goes any further and says she'll kill herself if you leave, THAT'S crazy and you should contact her friends and family to support her while you're gone.

I honestly love you guys for being so optimistic ^^
Sadly this isn't the first time something like this has happened. And to be quite honestly... I don't know if she's lying to me or not. When she tells me about this kin do stuff she's always pretty vague and a few times when I did rush to her the problem hat resolved its self before I got there (not even a 20 min ride). The worst part is when I talk to her ability it later she always avoids the subject and gives contradictory excuses. That or she just doesn't answer.
But back to this instance. >>7 I was already at my parent's place when I heard of the whole thing so not leaving wasn't quite an option ^^. And also (much to my detriment) she has threatened to kill herself before if I leave... That's still pretty hard to deal with. She's said she wouldn't do it anymore but there's still that feeling of dread when I think about how I oiled her away from the edge of her balcony once. (7th floor).
If she really does off herself would I be a bad person for not wanting a relationship with her? I mean far be it from me to want to kill her, but if I leave after she's made the threat,no matter how stable she is now, is it my fault in the end?
Damn this got dark... Sad to say it's my life...
Thanks again for all your help!

Well that sucks... I personally know a friend who tells his girlfriend he will kill himself at times so his girlfriend would message me about it. So I rushed out of my house and ran to his house only to find out he was not serious. He does this often. He told me he only says this stuff to send a message to her that she should be more understanding. I personally think that people who do these kind of things are mentally unstable in a way. It could be fear, anxiety, and other emotions. I'd just suggest that you try to support her but at the same time you have a chat with her that she is being quite dependent on you. Tell her this nicely though or it will probably end badly for you.
If you really cannot continue a relationship with her because of how she continually does this, then I too think you should break up but after some time of consideration. If my friend's girlfriend broke up with him because of his ways of threatening to kill himself, I'd be sad but I also understand that she cannot continue to bear that stress. So the same applies to you. Like the previous guy said, get hold of her friends and family to support her regardless if you choose to leave or not because she sure needs some consoling by others.
Seems complicated but I wish you luck and

hope it goes well for you. (accidentally clicked reply b4 I finished sentence)

I think you need to talk to her and tell her that this isn't right. I could understand what other people mean by saying that you could delay your trip, but your girlfriend still shouldn't pressure you about this. An appendicitis can be painful and deadly but I know many people who have gone through this. It is scary, and your girlfriend is scared because this could be a rough experience. You should be by her side, but when she's better you really need to talk to her about this behavior of hers.

She should not be pressuring you to always be by her side. Relationships are about caring for the other. It seems to me that she is making this about herself. If she's threatening to kill herself, then that is horrible. She has absolutely NO right to do that to you. To put that heavy weight on your shoulders. She might not be stable, but that shows that she needs outside help, along with your own support. If she truly loved you and cared about you, she would know better than to say things like that and do things like that to you. She's too dependent on you and that can lead to worse things. Let her know how these behaviors make you feel. She needs to understand that this relationship isn't just about her. It's not her show, it's about the two of you. And if she continues this, it could just worsen the relationship. That's why the sooner you talk to her, the better.

Hope it helps. Keep us updated.

oh yeah you better not breakup with your girlfriend or something bad will happen to you

>>11

Or she could be pretending to be 'dependent'. Just an assumption from my experience. But I'm not fond of girls who bend a person's will like that. Careful if she's two faced.

I admit, I sort of understand this. I'm not saying it's right for her to blackmail you, but you should be there for her. Unless there is something horrible important about this trip, I'd go back to her. She just wants you to be with her when she's scared.

She's either that much of a manipulative person (prejudice, assumption -- I wouldn't know) or she loves you that much.

Either way, I think she shouldn't do that. Make her "deal" with being alone for a week, what is she, a child?