Hey, I'm bisexual. I've told my class and they're totally fine with it. But I've also told my mom and she doesn't believe me! I'm too afraid to tell my dad because he's kinda homophobic... I also get comments from other people I don't even know telling me I'm an attention whore and that I'm lying about it. Some have even gotten my number (I have no clue how) and have started to harass me on WhatsApp. Also I've been feeling really depressed and suicidal lately. I would appreciate some tips or just someone to talk to... Also, I'm just new here so tbh I'm not entirely sure how everything works here. Thanks already.

>>2 What the actual hell autocorrect. I think I'll have to turn it off now. It's just completely lost its mind.

Anyway, what I meant to say was, "Whether your mother or father are homophobic or not, someone's bullying their kid, and they will (or at least SHOULD) do something about it.

Remember to screencap every message you get. That's evidence of cyber bullying, and if you don't change your phone number, I believe it can be traced back to the original sender.

It would also help to find out where LGBT in your community hang out, and find individuals like yourself for support.

Don't become another one of those kids who kill themselves and have the LGBT mourn you and the bastards who bullied you get away with it. The dead don't have voices; let your voice be heard. Bullying doesn't last forever; suicide does."

I agree 200% with >>2. Don't die and be depressed about soomthing that's apart of YOU! This is who you and if they can't acceot it, then they're just assholes. You simply wanted to come out of the closet and that's what you did. So be happy about that! And don't worry about those assholes, just be you and the buzz will die. And as for your mom you DO have to tell her about the cyber-bullyig and tell hr that this is a serious matter. You're parents HAVE to comprehend this at some point because you're they're daug
daughter. This is something personal to you so they gotta understand that

So many typos o.e

>>5>>6 Ha! I don't feel as bad anymore.

>>7 Glad I helped (ㄒoㄒ)

>> lol~

Also totally agree with >>2, that's cyberbullying, and if your parents won't do anything about it then you could try to get the school involved, maybe. And finding LGBT people in the school is an awesome idea! That way you have a support group to fall back on in case the bullying is too bad or you need someone to talk to when you're feeling really down. (Basically, listen to Mag, they're 1000% right :D )

On the topic of your mom not believing you, maybe you could try to talk to her about it again? Bringing it up again in the first place will help convince her it's real and it isn't "just a phase". And then show her an informative page on the internet about it or something? I'm gay and I had to do that with my parents in order for them to really get it (for some reason), so that's just my own personal experience.

But don't kill yourself! We need you here in the Dollars and we want you around for a long time c: As they say, it's a permanent solution to temporary problems, so please don't die, because you'll be missed and you have people here who support you and want to see you smiling and happy and living a long life <3

>>4 >>5 >>10

Thank you all so much! Don't worry, you're not getting rid of me that easily! I'll try talking to my mom again and I might tell my dad. I've decided to take the incident with the bullies to my mentor at school because I asked around and I found out who they are. Hopefully that will be the end of it. Once again, thank you so much for your help :)

>>11 Fuck yeah.

Sounds good.

Except for the part with your Dad. Talk with your mother first and convince her, because she's the key to communicating with your possibly homophobic father.

I have to agree with Mag here, kind of... Your mother may be the way to reach your dad, but it is still an odd ball to play.

In any case, eventually you will want to be able to say it out loud with a clear conscience because, that's what you are, and you sure deserve to be loved the way you are.

Good luck in your life, sexuality should not be a judgment factor. You are not hurting any one, you are just being yourself.

>>12 >>13

Thank you! I'll do just that!

>>11 Yay! Glad to be of help, and you should try finding LBGT+ people at your school. I don't know about your area but it's school policy to have a GSA (Gay Straight Alliance) in my school, and it's really cool there!

>>15

Our school doesn't have that...

Cyberbullying is serious, and I highly suggest you go to cybersmile.org for help addressing that. Keep copies of evidence of the bullying, and limit your exposure to it by not using the social networking stuff often. Anonymity makes monsters of some people, it's not about you it's about them feeling powerless in their own lives and taking it out on someone else.

Depending on where you live, there may be a support group or network you can find locally if not at your school. I never saw LGBT groups on campus until I got to college. So maybe try a college campus near where you live. Google is your friend in this case.

If you can't find any of these and the bullying starts IRL, you can always contact the ACLU or GLAAD or a similar organization.

I have to disagree with >>2 (mag) don't screen shot the harassment as proof of bullying. Just try and move from it. You don't need to collect hurtful messages and keep them around. If people don't believe that you're bi you should get a picture of a dude kissing one cheek and a babe kissing the other and your just giving two thumbs up. Then when people say you're not bi you can just show them the picture. I have included an illustration which should give you a rough idea of what the photo should look like.

>>18 ...That's supposed to help stop the bullying....HOW?

Shit, man. I never said to keep the bullying messages and force yourself to look at them everyday. Bullying is a CRIME.

For crimes, you need EVIDENCE.

>>18
I love your illustration.
But you really do need to keep proof of the bullying, otherwise it's hard to take action against it if it escalates. But don't respond to any harassment, and block anyone that harasses you.

>>19 The best way to deal with bullies in my opinion is to not care what they think. This isn't just a problem he will face in highschool. No matter who you are people will always have certain expectations of you. The only way to stop bullies is by taking away their power. And the only way to do that is to not care. You just have to do the things that make you happy, and as long as you're not hurting anyone that's not anyone elses business. You shouldn't care about the opinions of morons.

>>21 Bullying can escalate to a horrible magnitude, not to mention- once again - it's a CRIME. And lastly, it's unlikely that she is the only one being bullied. She needs to do something not just for herself, but possibly for others.

I don't know. I just see it as a victim of sexual assault not actually doing anything. That not only means their assailant will likely do it again, but it also means you can't get closure. But I mean, sure you could just IGNORE the incident, and PRETEND it never happened, but is it the right thing to do?

In my opinion? Hell to the No.

>>22 Well if it ever escalates to violence or serious threat of violence then action definitely needs to be taken in some form or another. Also, bullying isn't a crime in every state. I'm not saying ignore them or pretend it doesn't bother you. I'm saying actually don't let it bother you. If you don't allow yourself to victimized in the first place then there is no crime. I'm not blaming the victim, but it's really simple to just not care what others think of you and once you do that you are impervious to such harassment. I'm pansexual myself, and when people call me a faggot or something like that I just say to myself 'wow what an idiot.' I don't let their words effect me. This has always worked for me and I think it can work for other people.

>>23 She's getting bullied because she's bisexual. That's considered a hate crime. Every state takes hate crimes seriously.

And I'm mainly arguing over what you said here: "I have to disagree with >>2 (mag) don't screen shot the harassment as proof of bullying. Just try and move from it. You don't need to collect hurtful messages and keep them around."

Sure, she shouldn't let it bother her, but by not keeping screen shots and "moving away from it"- I consider that ignoring the problem. We're just gonna have to agree to disagree here.

Also, schools especially take hate crimes seriously! because the media will eat that shit up.

>>25 You're not understanding me. It's not considered a crime in a lot of states. Therefore is also not a hate crime in a lot of states. You shouldn't always rely on the justice system to fix your problems. Because like I said, this isn't the last time OP will be bullied. No matter who you are there will always be people who don't like you or have expectations of you. You need to learn how to actually deal with it.

Funny... Because last I checked, it was in 49 states...

Unless she lives in Montana... She can either find help from her school or police department. If she lives in New Jersey she can ESPECIALLY find help. School administrators can actually be charged if they don't investigate a bullying claim.

And same with the sexual harassment example- sometimes nothing gets done. But it's in the system. And the next time someone makes a report, past reports come up, and then they'll start taking it seriously.

The law is there for a reason.
No, it won't ALWAYS help you, but for goodness sake, at least use it when you can.
For the last time, I get it. Learning to "deal with it" is essential. I'm not arguing this point. I Am Not.

>>26 That is how you actually deal with it. Why do you think the police force and justice system even exist? If someone is following you around at school, harassing you, and won't leave you alone, there is little you can do about it. The stuff you are talking about might work for people that giggle at you in the hallways, but against physical assault and continued harassment it just doesn't anymore.

You need to be able to deal with it emotionally, otherwise the problem doesn't stop when they stop harassing you. But you can't be expected to deal with that kind of shit on your own.

LOL what wrong with you dude