I'm 16 and transitioning to become a man.

It already hard enough that it seems that my sister and mom don't really understand or support me in doing this. I'm trying to use the men's restroom/changing room at school b/c being in the women's room doesn't feel right to me; not that they're mean or anything.

But they are worried about the safety risks and I get that, but I rather feel comfortable being in the right gender-ed bathroom for me. And when I say that my mom said does it really matter and I'm making this a big deal b/c since we all share a bathroom at our house with our stepdad and we don't have separate bathrooms for that.

Which has nothing to do with the topic so I ignored it until she brought up about my dad finding out b/c he was the one that wanted me to act more like a 'girl'. I'm more afraid of his reaction b/c he lives w/my sister and what if he lashes out his anger out on her?
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Now, everything is settled. My sister doesn't make a fuss about it, only if I bring the topic up like about packing/binding. My mom is getting in terms with it, but I don't think she's fully there yet.

I really would just like to me called 'he'. B/c after I found out I was ftm I called myself that and I felt really happy! But no that's deminishing and I don't know why? I now am mis-pronoun-ing myself and it sucks b/c sometimes I don't know it.

It just feels weird when I openly say to myself that 'i am a man' not that I don't believe it but it's weird if a man does say that to himself; same with women too.

But when I do call or if someone calls me 'he/him' I'm elated.

I still have problems with bathrooms but I still trying to nudge myself to use men's bathrooms in public but the times I am outside is I'm with my sister or mom which I know their gonna drag me down for it.

I just have questions for those who have transition or have any advice:

1. How do you deal with bathroom situation
2. How do you feel when you mis-pronoun yourself and how do you not do it?
3. How do you deal with family problems/situations with transitioning?
4. (FOR FTM ONLY) Should I do packing? Where's a good place to shop for prosthetic that aren't too expensive? I found a place where they sell for $550!

Yo~. Fellow ftm here, thought I'd drop in a reply since... well nobody seemed to do so yet orz.
Just for some bg-info, I'm around your age, though I'm european soooo It might be a different situation.

1.
When with friends/in public, I go to the men's. At school I only go to the women's and at times that it's quiet and nobody's there. When with family in public it depends on with whom.

2.
I tend to go refer to myself in 3rd person when I'm around people whom misgender me. otherwise I've pretty much gotten used to saying 'he' about myself. It took me about 6 months to get it so naturally though.


3.My mom is the only one making a deal out of it. and she tends to just state her uncomfortable-ness. so I tend to try and ease her more into it, and since we have professional counseling, she's more at ease. People are often afraid of the unknown, so you light that up bit by bit. You should take it easy though. Allow for processing time.

4.Pack if it makes you comfortable, some easy way to start is to get a pair of socks --sounds weird i know-- and shove those near your junk. You can't really get a real packer easily until you're 18, because they are prosthetic penises. But you can make your own easily. ((I myself used a youtube tutorial to make mine))

1. How do you deal with bathroom situation

I just go in the men's bathroom... Even if i'm not having a hormonal threatment no one has never notice that I was trans

2. How do you feel when you mis-pronoun yourself and how do you not do it?

It doesn't happen...why would it happen ?

3. How do you deal with family problems/situations with transitioning?

My familly doesn't have problems with it

4. (FOR FTM ONLY) Should I do packing? Where's a good place to shop for prosthetic that aren't too expensive? I found a place where they sell for $550!

You should just use a sock :3 (but if you wanna stand to pee or have sex, cool and not exppensive prosthetics : http://www.freetomprosthetics.com/ )

I have no say in what you are going through, but I knew someone in high school that was doing the opposite (mtf). He/she was having troubles at school b/c of it. I myself am gay and proud of it, so my advice for you is to do what ever feels comfortable for you until you get used to being who you truly are. My parents don't know who I truly am, but yours do, so don't forget that your family supports you (a little) and remember that no matter who you think you are or you actually are, people should love/like for you being you and I support you all the way.

Another 16 year old FTM here!

1. How do you deal with the bathroom situation?

I generally just use unisex toilets when in public or at school and if that's not an option I hold it until I'm at home but I know that I'm good at holding it in and I don't know how it is for you.

2. How do you feel when you mis-pronoun yourself and how do you not do it?

This is an odd one because after figuring out who I am I didn't misgender myself at all (nope it's just certain transphobic arseholes doing that) so my advice on this situation may not be the best. What I'd suggest is don't think so much about calling yourself by the right pronouns, just flow freely. If you really are a guy it won't take long for you to treat yourself like a guy so don't worry about it.

3. How do you deal with family problems/situations with transitioning?

Apart from my extremely open-minded older sister, my family are quite old-fashioned so they don't understand and refuse to treat me like a guy and constantly, knowingly, misgender me. It sucks. All I can say is, move out ASAP. When you get to 18 they can't stop you from properly transitioning because you'll be an adult who can make your own decisions. Go to trans support groups as well. You'll meet people going through the same thing and will be able to get advice from each other.

4. (FOR FTM ONLY) Should I do packing? Where's a good place to shop for prosthetic that aren't too expensive? I found a place where they sell for $550!

Well you could do sock packing which is pretty easy and definitely makes me feel more comfortable. If not, all I can offer is the internet. I haven't looked into it enough yet so I'm really sorry I can't help a lot with that.


Good luck, mate. Hope everything goes smoothly for you!

Hello! I'm another teenage trans guy!

1. It depends, for me. If I think there's no one in the men's bathroom, then I go into a stall. If I hear someone come in, I wait until they leave. If I'm feeling too nervous, then I'll just go into the girl's bathroom. Usually I just try to avoid it altogether by using the bathroom before I go to school, but with my stomach issues, that doesn't usually work for me ^^;

2. It's sad, but I still do this in my head, but not out loud. This is something that comes with time, so try to build up your self-esteem and surround yourself with friends who do not misgender you. If you don't have friends who don't misgender you, go online and introduce yourself as male to someone in a chatroom or something. You're not lying, so there's no reason to be nervous about it. It can feel really reassuring.

3. My mom is super transphobic and my dad is one of those fake, smiley-faced allies (I'm sure you've seen the type). I haven't gotten them to use my name or pronouns, and unfortunately, I don't plan on keeping in touch with them once I have the means to move out. However, when I was with my dad in the car, I gently asked him if I could have a binder. I said it like:

"Well, as a transgender boy, I want to flatten my chest. There's these things called chest binders that can be bought online, and they don't cost much more than bras, anyways. It would really make me feel so much better if I got one, and I was wondering if you would buy me one."

He then answered that he would discuss it with my mom, which I thought meant "no," but he told me that he influenced her to say yes. tldr: if one parent says no then ask the other parent to pressure the stubborn one

As for physical transitioning, like hormones and stuff, I haven't really given it much thought. I'm more concerned about changing the name and gender on my birth certificate.

4. Packing is really overrated, hate to break it to you. It's not necessary for passing. Nobody looks at a guy's crotch, and if they do, then it's not noticeable, anyways. Packing is mostly for your own physical and mental comfort. Like others have said, socks work like a charm.

Look up how to do it properly, though- it might make people around you uncomfortable if it looks too much like a boner.

I really want to know why you do this FTM thing

>>7 I really want to know why you copied and pasted this exact same message to a similar thread.

If you're questioning the existence of trans boys, then you need to make a thread for that. Don't derail this one! Thank you!