I play a lot of online video games, and i meet all sorts of different types of people online. A few years ago, I got the chance to meet some of these people. One of my friends and I have gotten closer ever since, talking daily from anything to the color of a silly dress to difficulties we have with close ones to consulting each other for advice.

So, it's been nearly 4 years since I've known him and 2 since I've met him in person. I think we hit it off great during our time together, but I resigned myself to avoid any sort of romantic attraction, seeing as how we have our own lives in different countries (continents even). But, I've really been thinking about what he is to me and I may honestly love him. I don't know what to do, considering he's in the start of a great life in his country, and I'm working for one in mine. Also, considering that we've only really interacted through chatting apps and occasionally calls (time zone difference makes timing difficult), it feels somewhat ridiculous to feel this way at all.

And well, i still dont quite understand how we got to this, but I ended up confessing that I do have feelings for him, but I'm not doing anything in pursuit of him due to reasons above. What surprised me was when he told me he reciprocated my feelings, down to the reason to not purse something more.

Thus, we've decided that we'd continue being friends just as before. I'd like to put these feelings behind me and keep this amazing friendship, but I don't know how to "move on". So, what's some advice you'd give?

Thank you.

I always believe that what really helps person from moving on to something is time and also deviating from what may trigger your thoughts of the person you want to forget.

So my advice is you should try avoiding making correspondence with him. Perhaps you can take a break from playing online games because I'm sure it'll remind you of him since that's how you two have met. Try to think of something new to spend your time with. Maybe go out a little often, chat with friends on a coffee shop or anywhere else.

Besides, you're not looking for a relationship notwithstanding your confession of your feelings to him. So I think that there's nothing to ponder in the first place. And having a constant reminder of the disadvantages of being with him, like time zone and geographical constraints, might somehow help you cope up with your present emotional predicament.

Nonetheless, the bottom line is that you should be happy and you should allow yourself to be happy by not contemplating on complicated things. Again, time will mend everything and since there's really no instant cure to "moving on". I wish you all the best, though we're strangers to each other. I don't know if I somewhat be of help but I really wish you more happiness.

I always believe that what really helps person from moving on to something is time and also deviating from what may trigger your thoughts of the person you want to forget.

So my advice is you should try avoiding making correspondence with him. Perhaps you can take a break from playing online games because I'm sure it'll remind you of him since that's how you two have met. Try to think of something new to spend your time with. Maybe go out a little often, chat with friends on a coffee shop or anywhere else.

Besides, you're not looking for a relationship notwithstanding your confession of your feelings to him. So I think that there's nothing to ponder in the first place. And having a constant reminder of the disadvantages of being with him, like time zone and geographical constraints, might somehow help you cope up with your present emotional predicament.

Nonetheless, the bottom line is that you should be happy and you should allow yourself to be happy by not contemplating on complicated things. Again, time will mend everything and since there's really no instant cure to "moving on". I wish you all the best, though we're strangers to each other. I don't know if I somewhat be of help but I really wish you more happiness.

I've been in a very similar situation as yours and I can say from experience that, as akaixtenshi said, time is what's going to help you the most. It's probably going to hurt for a while, there's really no avoiding that, but you just have to keep marching forward. In all honesty, you've gotten past the hard part: you've both confessed how you feel and you've acknowledged that it won't work; you've realized the inevitability of the whole thing. From here on out, it's just a matter of not straying from the path that you want to keep.

There's no foolproof and instant way to leave it all behind, and trying to remain friends while moving on isn't going to be easy, but whenever you're gaming with him or chatting with him you'll just need to remind yourself of what you really want your relationship to be. Enjoy your time with him and enjoy your relationship as it stands. Don't worry about those other feelings, just be happy with what you have. And then, as time flows by, you'll find yourself comfortable being his friend and having him as yours.

I got something similar yet I am a dingus ^.^

A rat always finds a path ;) Its very odd, but if push comes to shove I just finish my school and starts roaming around the world! <.< I hate traveling and get sick and nervous from going to places... But well if I just make my place this life I can take it and chase after illusions.

Russia a Canada aren't that far when you think about it. Just need to use the polar shortcut.