Hey, friends. So, I have a few really close friends, and I've known them since the fourth grade. The two of them, I'll just call them Ellen and Kathy, are a bit quick-to-anger. If I say something that annoys them, they get kinda angry. However, when they say things that insult me, they expect me to just take the insults and move on.

I'd been okay with this before, I mean, the worst they did was say that I was dumb, or stupid. But I know that I'm smart, (I like to think so, at least) and I know that they were just joking around. Lately, though, things have been getting a bit more serious. You see, I have no idea what my sexual orientation is, since I'm only in the eighth grade. Despite this, I have the look of what Ellen and Kathy would call, a Lesbian. And I'm not saying that's bad, I wouldn't care if I looked like a Lesbian, however, they also said that they wouldn't be my friend if I was a Lesbian.

I know that they were probably just joking, but this really made me feel bad. I couldn't believe that they would even joke about that. I know that my other friends, who are not as close to me, wouldn't care if I was a Lesbian, and I know that Kathy and Ellen were probably only joking, but it still made me a bit sad. I know that I'm being a little bit dramatic about this entire thing, it's just that if I really did turn out to be a Lesbian, I'm not sure if they would accept me, or not.

Kathy and Ellen are also incredibly annoying. They keep on making me late to my Honors English class, and when I tell my teacher that I couldn't come to class on time because my friends were shutting my locker while I tried to get my stuff, he just scoffs. They also steal my things, constantly. At the beginning of the year, they stole my schedule and got my locker combination, so that they could break into my locker. Once, I caught Ellen digging around, looking for my Social Studies homework, because she forgot to do it! Luckily, I had it in my folder, with me, but the fact that she thought that she could do that is extremely rude! If I did that to either Kathy or Ellen, they would probably hit me.

I don't know, I really do love them, though. I mean, I'm the 'patient,' and 'level-headed' member of the group, but I feel like they are taking advantage of my easygoing personality! And I want to say something, but I'm afraid that I'm being unreasonable. The thing is though, I'm afraid that one day I'm just going to snap, and either break down crying, or start screaming. Like today, Ellen broke my backpack, and I really liked that backpack. It was my Totoro backpack, and I got it for Christmas from my Mother. She didn't even apologize, and I almost cried on the bus, but she just played on her phone the entire time. And, on the bus, Kathy kept on stealing my beanie, so I had to put it in my backpack because she just kept on stealing it! I'm so frustrated, but I can't tell them to stop because they'll just say that I'm overreacting!

I would really appreciate some advice on how to handle this. I know that next year, when I enter high school, things could change, but I don't want to wait. I want things to change now, or at least, I want to start a change. Thanks, friends!

Don't be friends with people you don't like, lol.

Listen, i know that they have been friends with you for a long while, but here is the thing most friends wont cross the line because they care enough about someone to make them uncomfortable or hurt them. Now seems like since you never voiced how you felt when they first started screwing about, they may think there is no line and will just about do what they want with you. The other bit that bugs me is that you should not really have to tell people when they are screwing up because of common sense, not to be rude but even if i am the biggest idiot in my group of friends, i know not to hurt them because i want them to be around since they are a major part of my life.
Anyhow i am bugging off into things aside from the subject. main bit i want you to pay attention to is to talk to them. If you never tell them how you feel then they will never know to stop, and if they keep going or do not care how you feel, then may be best to thing hard about who you really want to be around in life. the last reply from Midsxeph may have seen a bit off but they have a point.

talk to your friends, if they care about you then they will understand and learn to stop being idiots. your friends arent supposed to make your life harder.

First off I have a best friend who is, quite frankly, a dick. He always messes with me, but when it comes down to it he always has my back. If they truly have your back then the annoyances and selfishness will be overlooked, most of the time. If not then those are definite signs to break it off.

Also about the sexuality orientation of yours shouldn't be a problem if they are truly friends. It doesn't really matter if a friend is gay, or not. One might not agree with it, but they would put up with it.

I would say speak up and yell at them or blow up if they piss you off a lot again. I do that with my friend, since he sometimes wonders how much he can mess with me. So yeah I would say express yourself more, and if they don't like it just tell them to f off.

i don't even know how to start, close friends like the ones that you have,aren't supposed to be called friends or close friends,they probably just want a fun time that it,if they cared about you they wouldn't steal you,try to steal,tell if you are lesbian they are going to stop be friends to you etc etc

the only advice i can give is don't talk to them or don't talk too much,friends ins't what they are(for what you told us they just want a fun time)i know it is hard believe me,i have gone through the same thing until i realized they were just piece shit people

they aren't your friends, don't hang out with them. leave them, make the final move, don't let them reel you back, leave them.

you dont need them! leave those mofos, youre better off without them. Those are real friends