It will be a really weird topic and it will be long I'M SORRY FOR THAT, but I just don't feel like talking about it to anyone around myself, that's why I'm here.

I know it sounds crazy, but here are many many many (so actually really a lot of people) who are kind here, understandable, comes up with good advices because they have experience in a subject like this, because they may have been in the same shoe.

The main thing is. Our class started out as a good, friendly class, ready to take everybody into the so called circle. Everything went fine in the 1st year and then here comes the 2nd year ! When the teachers ask us how is our relationship/friendship like, we tell them it's good and that we're taking anybody in who wants to join the circle. It's actually true, but they don't know about the fact that behind this "we're-all-good-friends-here-and-we-love-each-other" mask is actually something darker.

• They tell them there are no small groups.
○ Yes, yes there are.
• They tell them they don't have problems with anybody.
○ Yes, yes they have.
• They tell them nobody is being treaten badly, and no rumours are being heard inside or outside of class.
○ It's all a lie.

I know they are lying because I was in a horrible class in Primary School for 8 years.

I was never respected for who I was. I was being hurt and harassed because I like anime, I express myself with drawing - or even if I don't draw for expressing myself, I just draw because it makes me feel better and I can hide in my own little world. For not following the new designs, for making friends with people who are the same as me and have good grades and actually help me in my studies (how they call them: nerds). They told me I could join the COOL ones if I don't make friends with them. But I always stood by their sides, and that's why they tried to embarass me, to get me into uncomfortable situations. It's actually a long story, I could talk about it all day, but I won't. It's just gonna give a base to what I want to say about my High School class.

So, it all went right for a year, then suddenly everything changed. People started to argue, to hurt each other with words and they even posted stuff on facebook. I almost even had to report two boys for it (and I'm really sad I didn't because my Mom didn't wanted to go to the police about stuff like this. I know I must sound like a bad person for now, but trust me. Jail would have been a good place for them since they are both assholes). It is an ugly situation.

A few weeks ago a rumour about a girl spread like wild fire and we parted because the one who she told to was me and she thought I was the one telling everyone about it!

Okay. I have to admit, I really told this to my best friend since I wanted to talk about that with her. Asking for her own opinion. I am responsible for that. However, there was this guy who I was with then and he heard it all! When we broke up (actually he was the one - along with his best friend - who I wanted to report) it wasn't in his head or anything, but for some reason he told it to his best friend and this guy fucked my friendship up with a really kind girl who didn't even deserve all the bad mouthing (although this wasn't a big topic for now, they just laughed at it and that was all)



WARNING; SUBJECT CONTAINS SEXUAL HARASSMENT!!


Today, this same guy started a rumour about me - or I don't know if he started it yet, but my cousin told me he asked her today if I liked being raped!!

I know what it is all about. For some reason he tries to destroy who I am. Actually. The guy who I was with forced me into things what I don't wanted to do, telling me he won't be able to meet me for a long time. When I told him I don't wanted to, he just forced me into things what I don't wanted to do (you can think what it was all about). I had to act happy. I had to act like if I was enjoying my time with him. I had to hide everything behind a mask because

I was too scared to break up with him for what he had done.

I was in the thought that he will tell everybody what he had done to me (in his version of course) and they would start teasing/mocking me for that and actually find me gross and stuff like that. My mother - who is actually sweet and easily understands things, always calm and collected, tries to help me with everything and in everything - noticed that something was wrong and she asked me about it, but I felt ashamed and I didn't tell her at first what my problem was. It kept going on like this for months. I know I should have just left him where he was by the time he did the first, but I thought it was so whatever for now. I was stupid. I shouldn't have done that... When we broke up it was good for a while. We even tried once again, it didn't work out so we parted. The thing was. After a while he started harassing me for everything I had said to him so far and this sent me to the edge. I cried every single day from then on after he posted a stuff on facebook about me (really childish that nobody can talk about it between themselves and they just embarass the other one in front of the whole internet) and this is when I broke and ran to my mother to tell them to stop. Since she couldn't call them on their phones or either their parents, she texted them there and she told them she would report them to the police if they didn't take it off. So they did...

But now again, they are starting this all again and I'm really confused on why can't they just leave me alone!!

The fact that this guy asked my cousin if I liked being raped was horrible and I just can't imagine what he had done to ashame me in front of the whole class while I was on my Volleyball match.

If he thinks I'm lying just to clear myself, IT'S NOT TRUE. I guess males think women use this as an excuse to get them into trouble. Just to clear this:

• Rape is any form of unwanted sexual behaviour that is imposed on someone.
• Our definition of rape is broader than most conventional or legal definitions. We place rape within a continuum of sexual violence that can take many different forms, including sexual harassment, verbal abuse, leering, threats, exposure, being forced to watch pornography, unwanted touching, incest, penetration, mutilation, and ritual abuse.

Now again. If you read it, it's clear for you that ANY form of unwanted sexual behaviour counts as rape. So what it is when a girl says no for the 10th time already? It IS rape.

When a boy pressures a girl into sex it's counted as rape, so he can't tell me I'm lying... And now I know he will be on this subject tomorrow. I'm too afraid to face them. I was never a popular girl in school, nobody really understood me - except my cousin and a friend from an Online game.

I just need your opinion/advice. I'm too afraid to enjoy my life like this, I'm too afraid to do anything because I don't want to make mistakes what might get me into an uncomfortable situation. Also. I feel so down I would love to just go away somewhere and never be heard of. I feel ashamed, I'm embarassed, I don't feel as cheerful as before...

If somebody took the time to read it and help me out, it would be the best. I really need to talk to someone right now...

After reading all of this I really don't know what to say. We all had our fair share of experiences that we wished that we could have done differently, but I can't say that I've ever had anything as serious as this.
My opinion might not be something of your liking, but I'm going to give it to you anyway:

- Tell other people about what happend. Even if they don't believe you right away, they might see the truth later.
Lets say this guy actually does this again to someone else. You having told the truth makes it so that the next person have something to back them up. This way you'll be saving them from your situation.

- If the Harassment continues, contact the authorities. They have no right to do this to you and you have the right to report them. Do it.

Not sure if I'm that much of any help, but I wish you the best of luck. Just remember, as we say, the world isn't as awful as you think it is. You might be in a real shitty part of your life right now, but don't lose hope about your future.

I think you have to call the police...

I read through your advice/opinion. First, thank you for taking your time and writing to me! It really gives me a lot of comfort to know people are kind and helpful even at times like this. Also. Yes, it's actually really much of a help!

• Telling the truth might be sure helpful for people, but I'm afraid some of them would try to twist it and I would come out of it really badly. Usually I'm really shy and I can't handle sudden situations well. It would be bad if I got too much of the spotlight.

• If it continues sure I would, but like I said, my mother told me it was okay to report them, but I would have to face the consiquences such as:

1. Getting everybody to know how it all was so even if not a lot of people knows about it, now everybody will.
2. Going to the "Court" would take 2 or even 3 years to decide who has a better withness.
3. It would change both our and their lives.

If they start harassing me I probably wouldn't say anything thought I would really love to from the inside, knowing that my ex is now together with his best friend's ex-girlfriend... I could really say something offensive but I'm not like that. I don't like getting into too much trouble and it would be oil on the fire anyways. I guess he would just throw the words around and I would get really hurt.

I think it's just best if I totally ignore the laughing and offensive words and asks, but I'm not too sure if I could take it without an inner pain. There was also a girl who had to move from the school because her classmates harassed her until she couldn't take it. I don't really want to be like that since this is the only good High School in the city and other Schools from another City costs a lot, or if not, I wouldn't be able to go there. ;w;

For the last part, about Life/World things: Thank you for wishing me luck! I REALLY DO hope everything would turn out well after this. I would grab onto something what gives me some strenght to live trough this until then.

I also wish you the best of luck for everything!!~
Thank you again!!~

Almost the same thing happened to me when I was in high school, and I remember crying whole nights everyday because I just felt alone amd was afraid that people would harass me as well, but every morning I had to realise that things are not that bad because they actually could only talk about me behind my back. Be strong, because they may laugh at you, but would never say it to your face. Basically you shouldn't even know about what they said. Try to act normal and be honest when it comes to a real talk. Good luck!

Clear it up and change schools, trust me when i say this, it will be WAAAAY easier, people will still talk if you stay

The only problem is that you can only find two good schools in our town, and her ex-boyfriend is a student of the other, while we're studying at the " best school ". Going to another town wouldn't be a good idea since this part of our country is dangerous and I fucking won't let my sissy get hurt.

If I was at your school. I would beat the living shit out of him since I have a knack of finding assholes cross me to many times. I've been in your shoes...I learned that people like that assholes exist and people need to put to understand it isn't right to force sex on anyone. I was scared just like you, I was fearful, paronoid,and alone but then I realized I'm not gonna let anyone run my life that way. It's hard. I was bullied but it didn't last long since I'm physically strong for someone my size and I'm a female so it caught people off guard. And you have to exposed the assholes whether people believe you or not. I know it's going to hurt but you're gonna have to. He might do that to someone else, that's what I thought when I beat the living shit out of him when and the police arrived. I kept all the evidence.

All I can really say for now is stay strong, and I mean real strength. Don't fake that your hurting, it will only hurt you even more. Let the emotions run out and find strength within yourself.It's gonna be a long road but it's worth it. Being alone is scary but in the end not everyone will be there for you, so it's best for you to find strength within yourself. Take care ok? Thank you for posting this. It takes alot to express yourself, you're already strong, you just have to acknowledge it. =) Take care.

Personally, if that happens at the school am at, i would find the scumbag, and beat the ever living fuck out of him, sadly that isnt the case.
All i can say is to find people who have your back and arent the betrayal kind, tell the adults who can help you, find people who support you, stand your ground and so on. The strength is within you to find and gather to do all this and the things the others have said, since its your life, its your decision, but remember sometimes it better to be safe than not.

Everyone has some grudge about another, wether it's big or small. You also can't stop yourself from making friends, it just happens. One friend introduces you to their friends those introduce their friends and so on until you know all these people and there's still a quiet circle with few people because they are afraid to expand their circle of friends. You shouldn't care that much if one group has more people or not, as long as they have someone there for them. But if you see someone all alone with no one to care for, introduce them to your circle and expand it a little.

I know that telling the teachers what happened can make it worse, but trust me, you need to. This is a serious offense and something needs to be done about it, and they are the ones with authority to do so. Once they know what a monster that kid is, they will do something about it. The popular kids may gossip about it and laugh at you, but it sounds like that's what they've always done, right? All that matters is that your friends are still by your side. It sounds like your record with teachers is pretty clean, so it should work. Also you have done absolutely nothing wrong. Good luck!

I'm not arrogant enough to give advice on something that I don't know about, but this sounds like a serious issue that you need to talk to someone about. If you keep this issue bottled up it will destroy you and possibly the other people involved. I wish you the best of luck, if this resolves itself in the future please tell us what happened.

Thank you lovely people for giving me these many- many advices! It really helped me a lot though I know it's still not over. The things have calmed down a little bit, but not enough for it to be stopped. I know they will still bring up the topic once they think I forgot about it. Many people from my class thinks they can play with people as they please and it gives the quiet ones so much terror. Me myself, I never liked getting involved to stuff like this, but somehow I did...

You all know I told you about the class, which isn't really a class anymore. Everyone betrays everyone and so on. I had a few friends from the "Cool" ones, but there was this one girl and for some reason after a while, everything what I told to her, she told it to the class with a different "background" to it and I always got out really really badly. Ever since I told my teacher she gets involved in EVERYTHING what's not her stuff, she stopped talking to me and I feel better. I don't hear any bad-mouthing about me. At least not from her. Maybe I'm being too cautious now with who I choose to be my friend, but I guess it's not a bad thing (???). However. This guy who started the gossip is still waiting, I can tell. He's always eyeing me along with 2 other of his friends and tries to find anything to laugh at me. These days I don't even dare to walk out of the classroom, I just sit at my desk and draw something or listen to music to get my mind off of if. I don't dare to make a mistake. I know they would tease me until I snap or something. I would happily move, but I can't I still have to wait 3 more years for that. At least Summer Break is coming slowly and I will be able to relax a bit... I hope this will end soon. It's a living nightmare to go to school every single day from Monday to Friday... Kids can be so cruel to each other even for a tiny reason.

A bit of an "Update" I guess.
So yeah. For now things are going fine, but it won't last long... Maybe 1 or 3 weeks more then they will start it again... Let's hope for the best...