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Am I doing the right thing? (6)

1 Name: Tokachi : 2015-02-08 17:56 ID:NxQgqW5A [Del]

I don't like complaining but it's healthy to do it every once and awhile. So, for the last 4 years there has been this girl one class below me. I am a senior in high school this year and she an I are not on good terms, but please allow me to start from the beginning. Freshmen year I asked this girl out on Valentine's Day (Yes I know that was a mistake in itself) and we were that antisocial quiet couple for about 8 months. Then she broke up with me and needless to say I as not prepared. To be honest now that I look at it I have no idea what I was doing. It was my first relationship and I had no idea on how to be a boyfriend. Any way I skipped about 2 months worth of school because I was so depressed and that was the end for sophomore year. Junior year I was still depressed but was dealing with it and that girl came back into my daily life through another friend. We talked as if nothing happened but something was bothering us. We talked about it a bit and she said it was a mistake to break up with me. She had been in 5 other relationships by this time. She doesn't admit it but she broke up with me to go out with a douche bag that cheated on her anyway. Any way I fell for her again and same with her for me but this time there was another guy. She said she would think about who to be with and mentioned if I had asked she would marry me. I would have if not for the fact that we were in high school still. Anyway she later told me she wanted me to be there for her and protect her and her family but the next day chose him. Long story short, the dude was an alcoholic pot head at my age. My nerves almost killed me knowing what kind of guy this was. But in the end he left her for a bigger pair if you know what I mean. And I was there for her as a friend still upset with her relieved. I asked her out and it took a week and a half of me telling her to say no, and her answer was yes. I was overjoyed. being more mature I knew how to be a boyfriend and I was ready for this. but only 5 days later she was out with another guy while in a relationship with me... I don't mean they were just friends either... Anyway I had to skip school the next day in fear that I may hurt her. I was so angry and hurt I didn't know what I may have done. I asked her why she would fool around with another guy. Her only response was "I don't know" I didn't talk to her again but over the summer break she called me. I just let it ring, didn't listen to the message until a day later. She said she wanted to call more but was too busy with work and family. Now this year I haven't talked to her much but when I didn't I kept digging for an answer. I still have feelings for me and she promised not to be in a relationship until she graduates next year. I've been fighting my feelings for her for awhile with the anger I no longer felt. Quite recently she had told me that she didn't mean to hurt me and she felt bad about what happened. I gave her a note saying that I wanted to be friends with her again but I would expect answers from her eventually. That was last week Thursday. I'm following my heart on this but though I know I may just get hurt again I'm willing of it. But I don't know if this is right... To forgive her. To follow my instincts and my heart so blindly. I just want some advice...

2 Name: Tokachi : 2015-02-08 17:58 ID:NxQgqW5A [Del]

I will also answer any questions about what happened if I wasn't clear enough. Also sorry for making it so long I hadn't realized, I must have gotten carried away.

3 Name: Sanae : 2015-02-08 18:23 ID:exuiT2uo [Del]

Don't be plan B, if she doesn't take you seriously and respect you, just find someone else that you truly love, that loves you back.

4 Name: Ginger : 2015-02-08 18:24 ID:aS+2OQL6 [Del]

Its best to not be with her anymore, she seems to have you as a rebound whenever something doesn't go well with her relationships. Another good note is that when she said "IDK" she was lying, simply put she likes fooling around with other people while in another relationship. If you get back with her the result will be the same and it'll continue into an endless cycle. Best to just stop fantasizing a life with her, you're just being used in the end. If you like to then keep on going. Whatever you do with my advice is up to you, I'm just interested in how this ends.

5 Name: Tokachi : 2015-02-08 18:44 ID:NxQgqW5A [Del]

Thank you for your input. There is only about 4 months of school left so I'm gonna try to get answers from her and after that I will try to take the advice from both of you. Thank you again.

6 Name: Trixie : 2015-02-08 23:28 ID:sZma6sgN [Del]

I also felt the same way. The guy was the flirt in the relationship and it seems that I was a rebound whenever he broke up with other girls. In my opinion, don't be blind and stop hurting yourself over and over again. You still have a lot of time ahead and you will find a girl that is definitely much better than her. But still it's up to you