so i've been wanting to come out to a friend/crush but i have a very clumsy mind so i dont know when and what to say. also i dont know how the person will react i would hope its a yes but its no bl manga or anything lol. he has been showing me action that seem.. you know... not straight. but when you do something not straight back to him he kind of reacts homophobically... human minds are complex... (¯―¯٥) i wish i was izaya... then i would understand how to play the cards correctly. ahhhhh confused. any advice?

when the two of are alone tell him you love him, and if he says no just ... say you understand, BUT if he says yes, kiss him
you can do it !!!!

>>2 dude the order is wrong when he says yes, It should be push him, jump on him and kiss him. though i'm no homo, That still does the trick.

this was me like 3 years ago and it turned out pretty good but i was in love with my best friend and so one day i couldn't handle not telling her so i just went for it and i said that i loved her but i also said that she kinda saved me from myself and made me realize that being gay wasn't something i should be ashamed about and i understood if she was surprised or if she didn't have the same feelings but i wanted to thank her because i now know a part of me that i didn't before. and of course she told me she didn't like me but she said that she wanted to stay friends. thats just what i said. hope it goes well! and if it doesn't then he wasn't a good friend to begin with :) Good Luck!!!

if you really love him and you know that he doesn't feel the same way make him feel the same way but don't do anything creepy. If he likes or loves you too then be happy and do what you want but if you just like him then come out and say what you need to say and see how he reacts and if he feels the same way then there won't be a problem and if he doesn't who cares don't bother the guy. And now fuck all that here's what I really think you gay people are sick idiots

Im gonna be honest here, I was in your boots this September...what I did was, go to the dorm room of the girl...and said "we need to talk"...it took major balls of me...I know the whole "say what you need to say" thing doesnt work for people that are shy...or unsure of the outcome and are afraid of it...for myself...I got pissed at how I felt...felt unable to speak...it sounded ridiculuous in my mind, so I just gathered my strengh....my advice to you would be...try telling him..."we need to talk"...do add a part of yourself in there...but what that line does...its easier to tell to the person...and it kinda makes you unable to not to tell the whole thing to the person...but looky, if you dont tell...nothing will happen...you will stay friends...your feelings will grow...and you might start hating yourself for not speaking at the right time...the right time is now...go, say a couple words...and if its destined...you will achieve your hapiness...if not...at least your struggle against yourself will stop...Take care, I hope it turns out for the best to you

I don't know if this is too late or not, but...
You mentioned he kinda acts a bit like perhaps he's not fully straight, but whe you act like that to him he goes kinda distant, huh? Maybe he's reluctant? It also depends on how close the both of you are, like if he's a really close friend or not.

I can't say what's easier, though(if he's really close or not). Anyhow, I would study his behaviour a bit, see how he reacts to the things you normally do, his expression and such..

If you wanna come out/confess to him, then just observe a bit.. then perhaps ask; "Hey, so umm... what's your x-uality?(Too direct..?)" or maybe umm.. //im also a shy human bear with me ahaha
Maybe ask how he sees you?
"So, how do you see me as a friend?" or something, then maybe ask- to be sure- "I can tell you things, right? Even if it's 'weird'?" (Don't get me wrong I really support things like this but to another person it might be..)

Or ask, "Can I tell you something? You won't freak out?"
And then after a bit of observation, find a good time, like maybe;
If you're going round each other's house, then ask maybe when it's almost time to leave, in case there's an awkward silence?

Or maybe ask him anytime he's round/you're round? I think it works best if you're both alone, but in a casual place like your house/bedroom/his house/bedroom?

Something like, 'I've been meaning to tell you this /but I was worried of the outcome/ but, I like you..' maybe?
If he's surprised, or you feel he's taking it negatively(like you're worried it's turning out badly?) Then tell him 'but it's okay if you don't feel the same or you're shocked! If we can still be friends then I'm happy.. I just wanted to let you know.'

If it turns out well, then yay! If not then, it'll be okay. You'll be okay.

You can wait it out if you're still afraid so don't push yourself to tell him.

Tl;dr
・Be alone in a comfy casual place like your house. Ask he if wants a drink or snack?~ It might help lift the mood.
・Ask him how he sees you as a friend.
・Ask him if you can tell him something, "Please don't freak out, okay?"
・Let him know you've been wondering about how to do this and let him know you're worried.
・"But it's okay if we can just stay friends, I just wanted to tell you."
・Observe how he is when he's around you, first.
・Be prepared?

// Aaaah this turned out to be a long reply.. sorry. (´；ω；｀)
Anyhow, you can do it! I'm cheering for you!<3 ( ´ ▽ `)9