So I came on here for some help. You see I seem to lack the ability to make friends. In school I spend my free time by myself, I don't have friends to hang out with nor am I a school person. And at times I feel lonely yet I don't. I don't know how to explain it but I find it forming relationships to much trouble. But when I do talk to people I feel kinda like an outcast. I just end of scaring them off. I guess I just don't know how to socialize. And thus I could be deemed the loner. Is it wrong to be like this? What am I lacking to be social like the rest? I would be most grateful for any help of any kind. *bows* thank you

Find something to talk about. If their talking about something, try and join in on the conversation and say whtever comes up in your mind. Ask questions, lots of them. Keep the conversation spicy. If you wanna talk to a girl tho, start with hi, I've seen you around and u seem nice, Whts up? And then in the middle say a cheesy pick up line, and then go on from there. If it's a guy, you can talk about dicks or something idk, anything will fly. NEVER SPREAD RUMORS. And if you get into a conversation with people who r talking shit about someone else, leave. Their not good people. Hope this helps!! :)

>>2 Its like you're asking the OP to turn her personality 180 degrees. Too hard!

>>1 You don't have to transform into a social butterfly, finding two or three can be enough. You just want someone to talk to right?

Just walk around the school and spot if there are people with similar personality like you and be nice to each other(don't be overly nice till you get misused. Eg. don't help other do their HW! It's their own duty to do their own HW or you can give tips in subjects you are good in).

You don't have to do a lot of big things to attract others. It's the small little things that attracts people who will stay with you(these are people you need to cherish not those party guys).

if you're not great at starting or keeping up conversations you can just start talking to someone who is very chatty. if you're just nice to people in general they'll be pretty open to a conversation. if they keep pushing you out they're probably not worth it in any case.

There's nothing wrong with how you are. I had and still do have similar issues. I'm rather socially awkward and find it difficult to be with people.

The best advice I can give is to find common ground to use as a pretext for meeting and being with people. If your school has any hobby groups or clubs, join one that appeals to you and see if you can get along with the people there. I've also found that sometimes being silent and listening is the best course of action. I used to try to constantly talk and fill every silence to hold a conversation, but that just isn't me and I found it rather uncomfortable.

Good luck and best wishes

>>3 lol my bad, I didn't even notice it. But yeah basically find people with the same interests as your own. There's alot of people out there thts the same as you. No ones truly original. Everyone is the combined effort of everyone they've ever known.