Hi, does anyone still remember Chi-chan? Hehehe~
I know the title doesn't sound very nice, well...I have a personal issue regarding my friend. Some of you might heard or read the previous thread I post about my girl friend who backstabbed me because she's jealous of my relationship with the person she likes...although our relationship are just like 'classmate with classmate' nothing special.

We reconcile but well the pain she left still there...she just said sorry, and she doesn't seems to feel guilty, instead she just smile and shrugged it off. I am practically BOILING inside and try to be as patience as possible. But then today she asked me to go with her to a theme park after national exams over. I told her that I'm alright with it, she also asked another friend of ours let's just say her name is Cassie with her boyfriend Will. The next day when I asked her the date, she said, "I don't feel like going now".

I almost tell at her but I manage to calm down due to my poker face. "And why's that?", I asked confused. "Because I don't like going with Cassie and Will, I don't like seeing those two couple doing lovey dovey stuff". But the fact is Cassie and Will didn't do things like that, Cassie is a good girl and Will is a polite young man. They never hugging and kissing each other in front of us or doing something 'dirty' like that.

"What? Why?", I asked sarcastically. "I just don't like them, I feel like I'm in their way", she answered like a kid. Seriously, she's the most selfish person I ever know...my family hate her for what she's done to me, although I already did forgive her but well...she just like badmouthed her own friend and I dislike that habits of her. Some of my friends she badmouthed notice it but they let her be because of pity...and I'm disappointed. She doesn't make any efforts to change and whatsoever. She even badmouthed someone she just met, "that guy is weird", "that guy is like a total freak".

What is your opinion fellow Dollars? Sorry for the long discussion, I'm just being too emotional

Correction 'yesterday' not 'today'

Well....there's one in every person's life. First off, tell her to stop being an ass over every single person, and then help her to change herself.

i just feel like want to punch your friend in the face. seriously what kind of friends is that.

im surprised you stayed as friends

I would cut ties with her if she's still doing things like that. if your friends aren't helping you, building you up, or respectful to you or nice then don't bother with those people. Chi~chan, you were right to make up for the past but don't forget. learn from what her true face is and then make a choice. trust me you'll feel better. if she gets angry and starts telling people smack about you because of it , then when people tell you tell them you've seen her true colors and don't like it.

Hey.. It's me! I've read somewhere that no matter how powerless you are, react when anyone steps on your core values. Say what you hate about her right to her face the next time she does something like that. It could bring up the past but just ignore it. You can't always be somewhere safe. You'll have to fight in life and learn to adapt to conflict. It's a valuable skill as you grow up. (Trust me on that)
Secondly, you won't find my friends anywhere like that because I wouldn't ever consider someone like that a friend. Still, you can try to change her. But people rarely change.
Don't worry about a single friend. There are lots more around the corner. (lol i've said that too many times to you now)

To be honest I also pitied her, that's why we still friends...although I rarely talk to her anymore because of her 'disgraceful habits'. She likes judging a person from the outside and badmouthed them... *sigh*
I wonder when she will change, I suppose even we're already seven years being a friend...she still badmouthed me *sweatdropped*

>>7
You're right, I have to cut ties with her. I want to but she keeps texting me and act like nothing happened. So I pretty much reply her, but no longer joking around like I used to be, but she's pretty dense so....

She doesn't realize my changing attitude and keep texting me. She's the most dense person I ever know -__-
When she make a person angry and I told her (when we're still best friend)
"Eh? Really? When? I never realize it teehee", she smiled cutely which is actually disgust me. It would be wrong if I ignore her text so err...I don't know what to do --"

>>9
Hahaha, you've been reading my post ever since. I really appreciate Kannon-san and Colorless-san too^^
It's just that I can't get angry in the reality, that's why when I'm angry, social media is the way I express my angriness.

Well I don't really consider her as 'friend' but she keep talking and come to my class sometimes and act like nothing happened. She doesn't looks like she regret for what she did...what an annoying brat --"

Err hahaha, well...I looked pretty powerless you may say because like what I said, I can't get angry due to my poker face, my friend never notice whether I'm angry or not (even my other best friend said I never get angry^^)

People like that are, to be honest, not very tolerable. And having put up with her for this long, even forgiving her for what she did to you, tells me you're a very forgiving and kind person. But unfortunately, I think you should stop being her friend. What she did to you and how she reacted to it is not... Appropriate? I suppose that's the right word. Try and gradually stop talking to her, if you think she is this annoying. Her backstabbing you only adds to the numerous amount of reasons as to why you should really stop being with her. Anyway, I hope you feel a little better after all this.

>>11 Fazeon definitely has the right idea. What I'm getting from it is the more you talk to her normally, the more she thinks what she's doing is okay because you're listening to her.

But I guess it is hard to completely ignore her or say anything harsh if everyone pities her.

>>11, >>12
I already try to at least give her some sign that I'm gradually 'changing' and become less responding...but she still come after me...so I don't know how to make her give me some space. But the annoying brat still dense as ever (*_*)
And earlier I met her and Cassie at break time and umm...I don't really know what to say...she badmouthed Cassie the previous day but they seems okay I guess? It's kinda awkward that I know the whole thing and Cassie not...they're being nice to each other and that scene is kinda...disgust me.

>>13 ohhh the awks.

IDEA. Strange to say, but pretend she's your boyfriend and you're tryna break up (told you it's strange). If you don't have any experience in love, ask Cassie. 'How would you tell your boyfriend (so and so and so)?'

I think this makes the problem a bit more simpler to see. Won't make it any easier though. Remember, NEVER ACT AS THE PEOPLE PERSON.

'To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing' - Albert Hubbard

You'll know what this means ( •̀ω•́ )σ ^

I've an idea. What if she "accidentaly" sees this post? I don't know how you could do that, since it all depends on how your offline social circle.

look i have a question and a solution.
my question is if u two end up fighting with one another every time u talk to each other. cause if u both just end up fighting with each other then the solution is simple. i don't care if u want to stay friends or anything, but if u can't grow up, put the past behind u and move on and not fight, do NOT socialize with each other in any form or fashion. it's better for both of u and everyone around u that it's effecting

I suppose that's for the best..thank you for the advices. I have to do something at least rather than complaining...how weak of me^^
Of course not all people are nice, even if they're my friends...I just have to accepts the fact that she betrayed me...

>>15
Nah, she's too lazy to check this kind of community. Beside she's bad at English, she probably doesn't understand the meaning of my post anyway~

What up Chi-Chan my homegirl?
Great advise everyone! Damn, the f#ck would we do without you guys....

Chi-Chan, with all due respect. I wanna f#cking Hadouken that b#tch in the face. She is not your friend. She is now an enemy. I hesitate to say that because even most enemies are responsible and accept the sh#t they do and say.
She is worthless.
Chi-Chan, she's dense cause she doesn't want to accept the fact that she is losing a great person to call a friend to.
Drop that girl. Now. Please.
Sir her @$$ down in a place were there is no interruptions. And tell her straight up.
And if she acts dumb again, CALMLY (no problem for you) say the same thing again and tell her you are cutting ties with her.

She is probably gonna do two things.
1) Still act dumb. You just leave that amazing poker face on and rebute whatever comes out of her mouth.
2) She is gonna snap. When she does this sh#t, you first make sure she's not gonna hit you. She is gonna snap. When she is doing this, you just sit there not saying anything. Don't look at her in the eye. She's gonna go more bay sh#t crazy and yell how you did wrong.
At this point you make the move. You snap and jump up and in that petty b#tch's face "Why would I stay with you? You go crazy!" And go on to say "Who's ever gonna have a "friend" like you can't control sh#t?"

And then.....you win.

She can't say sh#t cause you have a point there. Who is gonna listen to a totally unreasonable girl who yells? And she can't deny sh#t. The evidence is in front if you guys with how she was acting.

You Win.

>>18
Wow...Seoshi-san you look irritated (⌒-⌒; )
It's strange that some of the people who commented in my post disturbed by her and yet I still manage to keep my patience...
I've been trying to avoid her secretly so I won't cause anymore conflicts, but she always come to me when she spot me...and the others too...

For me, she's no longer a best friend, but 'a stranger'...in fact earlier when she gossiping around with the others (including Cassie), I just stayed quiet and only reply if she ask me something. The view is disgusting to me...how she manage to stay friendly and open minded but she actually badmouthed each of them...

I can't get mad in real world and I am...I dunno what to say...a dandere perhaps? (An expressionless person) It would be nice if I can be like you Seoshi-san...
I'm glad that The Dollars help me when I have no one to tell my problems...
I hope I can mock and insult her though...I never do that kind of things...it kinda news to me...

Anyways thank you for the advice!~