Is it right or wrong to hold in these feelings?

Is it right or wrong to hate or dislike others for doing this to you when they are only trying to survive too?

Do you ever hold in your tears, or do you let them out?

Am i selfish to feel this way...?

I feel that way, but even if I try, my eyes won't water.

I'm going to fight this until it kills me... not because it is asked of me, but because it's the way i am -it is what i have become through all of this. I've always been different, i've always marched to my own beat, i've always had this inner flame about me.

Defiant until the end, and always pushing my own self-destruct so that others might be able to express themselves freely.

Some girls cry from accidentally tripping. I don't. I only cry with mental and emotional things. I've never cried when I tripped or got any injury.. I try not to cry in front of my friends and family but I want them to notice... I want them to know why I'm crying and make what's making me crying stop but I don't want their pity and condolences..??

Ego-laden OP aside, I'll give some input.

I don't get to choose whether or not I can hold my tears in. They just come, often at the weirdest times. The only specific triggers I know of are when I get caught up in memories, when I'm verbally reprimanded, and certain supernatural experiences. Sometimes it just happens tho. My eyes go "fuck you bambi" and do their thang. I can't stop it once it starts, and my crying is really childish sounding by nature, so people always think I'm faking it :T like fuck you, no, I'm not faking it, I just have the lungs of an infant. Jeeze.

I generally don't cry from injuries, though. The only time I've "cried" specifically from an injury was last year when I thought I broke my foot. It was so painful that I barely hobbled back inside with the dogs and just laid on the floor for a good half hour, tearing up here and there. [I have no idea how it hurt so bad when the docs said it wasn't broken, but whatever it was, it took a couple months to heal up.]

i don't cry....i don't smile...i show no emotion. i feel nothing and show nothing.

not often

immature people say they don't show emotion :p in my opinion, but I cry~

It's okay to cry. that is just how your body responds when there is not words to how you feel. some people may say that you only cry when you're sad or in pain, but it's people cry because they FEEL so much of that one emotion.

I think its fine to let the tears fall, I've been doing it my life, it helps with many things, it could make you feel better in the end.

Often I feel like crying because eventually everything will change. Sometimes you cant cry because you know its not the right time e.g. when on a bus. Or you might not want to be noticed or want certain people's comfort. It's nice to just find a nice secluded space and mull it over with yourself or cry to a close person. I thought that I'd be bothering them but they were honoured for me to come to them about it. If these things can work for me I'm sure anyone could do so too. It makes you fee better.

If I'm crying, i'm crying. If I'm not, then i'm not. It doesn't matter if you're selfish or not, since you took your time to think about these feelings. Tht's what I believe in.

I sometime wish I could cry... I still do, but I can only do it IN the mental breakdowns and life's gone to hell. Last time I cried was because people forgot about me in a parkour in trees and I turned out to be to small to properly continue. I ended up being stuck there for 4 hours.

Other then that, I saw people of my family die before me and I couldn't even cry. For some reason I just can't. I feel like dead people don't need tears and crying doesn't fix situations, but sometimes I just wish I could take the load off.

I used to be the type of girl who cried a lot - if she was happy or sad, doesn't matter, but now I just can't. I can't even feel sadness, but I miss it... So, crying is not a bad thing, I think.:)

You're not selfish for feeling mad at those you cause you pain, it's perfectly natural.
I only allow things like movies and games to make me cry. When it comes to personal or real life issues, I can't cry :/

Holding in feelings can lead to a mental collapse. Right or wrong is really decided by your personal feelings. Depending on the mood of others around me, my answer may be different. As I have stated with the whole feelings thing, I let them out to save myself the trouble. Being selfish is also conditioned by the ones around you.

>>17 I wish I knew that earlier

This is HeartbeatKnight(yes I know I can put my name up above)

In my childhood I remember the onset of my suffering. I was about three years old and it was around Christmas time that this happened.

I can't remember why, but my grandmother had yelled at me for some reason. I took it pretty hard but I never cried about it.

My point here is simple. My own suffering started when I stopped feeling that it was okay to cry.

I know tears carry stres hormones, so it would be wise to shed a few every now and then.

It doesn't make you seem strong at all if you just keep in your emotions. Laugh when you want to laugh, cry when you want to cry. I do get your point that it might seem selfish at times, but you're not doing your heart or head any favour if you don't cry.

Even if someone else is worse off than you and they don't cry it doesn't mean you hold in your tears, your own sadness. People aren't born emotionless, they're filled with it and they grow upon it.

A person who you might have never seen cry and you see how strong they are, just remember they had to let out their tears just as much to get to the point where they are now.

The point is, its not selfish to let your feelings like this flow from time to time!

I once remember my teacher saying "People are not selfish, they also care about other", and I've never believed that. I think everybody are selfish. When you do something for someone else, in the end you still think about yourself. That's ugly to say but it's how it is. Since I was young, I've tried my best to help other but in the end I always get disappointed, that's when I started thinking about myself. If other won't help you then there is no meaning in helping them. Really.. Who still believe in people helping other people in need ? It's just bullsh*t.

Even when I want to cry badly I can't cry. Tears won't fall, I don't even know why. It's like if my contempt towards other people was affecting me so much that I can't even feel sadness anymore. I would say that it's more like anger. Yeah it's anger. Sadness is when someone really hurt you until you cry but to me it's more like if I wanted to destroy everything around me, it's insane.. I've always been waiting for someone who will show me the matter of share, happiness, living.. But I've been tired of waiting,now my point of view won't change, everybody are selfish.

Being selfish is not a bad thing because everybody are. You know, we are so many in the whole world, your own existence won't mean anything, so being selfish is reasonable because in this world, what matter is not about living, it's about surviving. In a few years, everything is gonna be harder and you will be glad to be selfish.

>>20 Your right about that, I can't even remember the last time I cried, but I do remember when I did I promised myself that I would never do it again, because it's a sign of weakness. You should not feel ashamed to be week because we have all been there, but you must strive to become stronger or else you fall behind and become weaker and weaker and then your pathetic. Use your tears to make you stronger, turn poison into medicine.

>>21 Well im still pretty young so maybe I don't get it but im pretty sure that in the past 22 years I still have not given up on others to make a difference. Im an average bro with a normal life, so why can't anyone else have the same hope, tenacity and dreams as I do? You can give up on others but you can never give up on yourself.

Not really. Crying is the way humans express themselves, it's not that bad really~
Each person have their own right to dislike or hate other people. I completely agree with >>21. I've experience it a lot of times. People are selfish, that's just how they always act...
In order to survive, one person must stay strong to demolish the weak...some might say things like that. Finding a sincere person is very hard. Most people is selfish but...we can't hate or dislike them forever, they just want to survive.

To be honest I never expected much from someone or something...
Which makes me live without purpose and expectation in this world including hating people and all. My mind was always like, "I knew she will leave me sooner or later" or like "this won't do". Because of this I rarely feel sad or even crying.

>>21 we kind of share the same thing,sometimes i want to cry badly but teh tears don't fall,it is strange,in the past i was never a cry baby,but i had shed a tear time to time,but know i simply don't cry

I cry when I think about how awesome is my mother land and that I will never return to those times. I just had everything there