Hello guys. I'm a newbie here.

So, this is my problem:
I am really tired of hearing the same sentences, the same words, the same yell. I can't help it. I really want it to end. I attempted suicide already and i still have the wound.

My mom and dad keeps on saying the same sentences and phrases to me, "Do your best in your subjects!" "Be the Valedictorian/Salutatorian!" "You must never have a low grade!" and everything related to that.

I'm the older sister, I get that. I must do my best but they would not listen to my reasons. I got a low grade in my math because I can't understand calculus! So what if I can't be in the top, that is what I can do, I gave my all!!!

I really need help and every night I cry myself to sleep. I need advice from you guys. Thank you

Don't worry to much. Actually you should try and decide how much work you do in it. They cannot do the work for you and its not cheering up its just down straight intimidating the pressure.

The pure pressure of performance drives literally hundreds of Korean each years to drop out or have psychological problems... But you don't need to be Korean to get the feeling something is not right... I am Canadian and even I get problems.

They want you to have a high grade to get ahead of life. But ask yourself how well they performed in school... Even If they did fine which would be impressive they can't expect perfection from you. We still have a long way to go until humanity reaches is ideal world.

On down time just try and read a book! I know the perspective showed in Suicide island always cheer me up...

I also have the same problem, but in my case they always compare my grades to my older brother and my little sister. I have high grades in my other subjects but all they see is my low grade in math. They always scold me about my grade in math saying how my brother never had a problem with it and how my sister's grade is so much better than what I did when I was her age, I know they're only concerned about my future and I'm trying to understand them, I just think of the sacrifices that my parents did and are currently doing just to give us a great life and put us in a good school, and trying to work hard in school is just a little thing to pay them back with and that's how I try to understand them.

Don't let the pressure get you, If you yourself know that you really gave your all and still didn't get the result that you or your parents wanted, at least you know that you did your best. If you really want them to stop, tell it to them, if you clearly said your point I'm sure they'll understand. I know that it seems scary and there might be consequences that wouldn't go as you planned but nothing will change if you don't make an action to change anything. Grades are only letters to show how much you can copy and paste the things that are written in the book.

When you find yourself giving up, don't try to commit suicide again. It would seem easy to just end it all and face death but are you really okay to die and be thought as a quitter and a person who never proved anything? You're living your own life, your parents are just there to support you but in the end your future lies within you, don't take the easy way in life because life isn't meant to be easy. Be positive! Because the things that we're facing may be hard but know that each of us are facing the same problem some even worse yet they never did give up. That's all I can say but I hope this helps!

Bro, I get you.
Here I go~
F#ck everyone. Really.
Do whatever you please to do. THAT will make you happy. Don't do sh#t for other people. Prove to everyone else that you can do whatever it is, to the highest degree. And over.

I know to everyone else this may sound like sh#tty advise, but trust me, it works (worked for me at least).

My parents call me names.

My mom does this f#cked up thing where when I feel at my best, she brings up all the imperfections. When I am at my worst, she brings up all my accomplishments. She keeps on changing her fucking opinion of me every time.
I...was sick of it all.

For example, when I tell her about wrestling and my physics class, she goes off on me how I keep on ignoring my studies and concentrating on unimportant sh#t.
So I work hard to bring all my grades past 100s. (Boo-yah!!!)
She then proceeds to call be crazy again when I stay in my room all day. To fix up the imperfections that SHE pointed out.
It was so bad that when she tells me that she "loves" me, I...I don't believe her. She is my f#cking MOTHER, why am I doughting what she says to me? She was the one who gave birth to me, but yet, I hesitate when I tell her that I love her too.

But damn all that "Love Sh#t", ANYWAY, it became really really bad especially when people (in normal conversation) ask how am I. And instead of my voice, its the voice of my mother going, "I'm f#cking crazy". I mean I don't say that, but thats the first thing I hear in my mind.

With my dad too. But I rather not type that sh#t out.

So, what I decided was that I would listen to what people say, then choose out the words that I think best suit me. I will base it off of other people and me. I will create a criteria and then critique myself.

SO, that being said: Really, f#ck what b#tches say, do your own thing.

Cause, really, aren't you your own person?

>>4
So radical, much rebel
LOL

While it's important to set your own priorities, it's also cool that you throw your folks a bone once and a while. Otherwise you'll never hear the end of it.

If there's no pleasing 'em, get a job and find some roommates to move into a place with.

OP, I used to be a math whiz too until I got to pre-calc. WTF is a number circle?? Logarithm -- is that some sort of arcane metre for lumberjack hip-hop?

So don't feel bad, get mad. At your parents, for not understanding that you've hit you're limit. Don't be disrespectful, however.

>>5 > I used to be a math whiz too until I got to pre-calc

Same here! I thought I was pretty good at math, until we stopped using numbers greater than 9.

OP, you won't be able to impress people who don't know what you can do, and are basing their expectation based on what they want you to do. This applies to family, too. Your parents will never be satisfied with that mindset, even if you try your hardest, so instead try your hardest to find what makes you happy and do it. It's not going to be easy, but it's the best thing to do.

Do what you can.
If your parents don't like it, Screw them. It's not your parents who decide your life ;)

Aye, what up Dummy mah man?!? XD
But yeah, everyone has a great point.

I wish to hear what Neko-Kun has to say now.

Your parents want you to do your best, and they "know" you can do it from their misplaced pride in you. If they make you think you should be doing it then it makes you think that you are behind, and watch to catch up and work harder, but it actually makes you feel shittier, don't believe that you NEED to be the best, nobody is the best at anything. Nobody will ever be perfect. Life is hard, nobody gets out of it alive. But that doesn't mean quit.

Remind yourself that your parents just want you to be happy and become a great person once you leave your home. They will make mistakes, they probably don't know that they are putting so much pressure on you. If you really feel this way, then you should really talk with you're parents, it will help you and them I'm sure. And always remember that if you give it your all, and you still aren't at the top of the class that it's okay, you cant be absolutely good at everything you try.

I'm literally at the same spot as you; I have the lowest grade in Calculus BC and my mom does nothing but tell me to do my best, as if I'm not doing it. You know your strength, you know your weaknesses and if they ignore it and expect you to be the highest in everything, ignore that (sometimes talking to them about the problem doesn't work, but you can try if you want). Don't try to reach the goals people set up for, reach those that you can do.

I know what your going through. You feel you have to be perfect to make everyone happy right? You don't have to be perfect, you don't need to impress your parents they say those things because they want you to do your best. If they want perfection they are asking for the impossible, and that's just not fair.
They seem to just want a perfect daughter right? I get that, but that may not be true. They may just want to see you shine the way they know you can and will. The road isn't easy I'm not going to lie, but I swear what is over this seemingly impossible mountain is greatness and beauty. It may be a annoying thing to have your parents on your ass 24/7 but its better than having no one care or try.
Death is never the answer. No matter what gets in your way.No matter how dark the world becomes, it will get better. Someday when you look back you will be thankful the attempt stayed an attempt.