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society and pressure (12)

1 Name: Amuna : 2014-12-08 02:33 ID:TJ67ez3h [Del]

Have you ever felt like you were tired of interacting with friends and entertaining them and just want to be alone and do whatever you want without feeling left out by your friend? You please them with acting the way they would find you to be fun with? Are you done with people judging you and complaining about you? Tell us your social problems and pressures and discuss and let go of it letting someone know in this thread.

2 Name: LittleRat : 2014-12-08 06:30 ID:9tStr1tx [Del]

In my case I got severe rejection with a loners mind. I got beated down rejected and excluded to the point I never actually made any real friends.

I had post-traumatic experiences related to it and I have seen death many times in the face. Sometimes I just wish I could find someone I could play with. But then again now I fear the crowds as ''ANY ONE'' Can up and just decides to stab one.

We never know what they are thinking and this conditioning made me the way I am today... Its like living expecting every thing I see to kill me one day, but there is no helping it. If I don't I am gone blank because moving is the only thing I know how to do...

3 Name: Rocket : 2014-12-08 07:54 ID:HcVPQJPC [Del]

I have anxiety, panic attacks, bad social skills and depression, so it is really difficult for me to talk to people, which is why i am spending most of my time online, where it's easier to talk to people.

It has always been difficult for me to start a conversation with someone, specially if it's face to face. There is like this "thing" inside my mind that keeps telling me that i'm not up to it and pushes me down. I have had some friends backstabbing me in the past, which made me even more careful with people, but i just wish i could be confident and just start a conversation.

Am always learning and trying to win this fear that has been with me for so many years, but sometimes it just feels like there is no point..

4 Name: LittleRat : 2014-12-08 08:31 ID:fgl1QvdJ (Image: 1920x1080 jpg, 440 kb) [Del]

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Hey Rocket! Guess what! There is always something new and interesting to see.

I am like you, but in a way I drew myself a path... IF I CAN'T LIVE IN SOCIETY I SHALL MASTER EVERY SKILL IN THE WORLD AND LIVE ALONE! Its completly insane and I help people a lot. But thats is one way to go about life.

Find the people whom are like you... There are endless combination and traits into humans. Also we are like 7 300 569 322 people in the world. There is bound to have someone similar to you! Just like I understand how you must feel... If you end up just dying then what would I look like? I live for these moments I find something fun!

5 Name: Rocket : 2014-12-08 11:21 ID:HcVPQJPC [Del]

Thanks LittleRat ^,^

I do have a couple of friends who have the same issues as i do and it does help to talk to someone who is going through the same stuff.
There is always something good in life that keeps us going <3

6 Name: Theodia !L24i8u/JWk : 2014-12-08 14:26 ID:R+EYnaC6 [Del]

I just need to get this out there...

I've had a lot of problems with social anxiety, 6 or 7 years ago I was pretty much paranoid of most people in my grade and absolutely did not want them to judge me at all so using stupid little kid logic I completely isolated myself, had no friends, etc... But now, even though I've completely gotten out of that, am average social (not a social butterfly but not a loner) and have a decent-sized, stable group of good friends, my mom especially continues to think that I don't have any friends or something. This is really annoying and she's constantly pressuring me to have them over, etc... I could go on, but this is the main problem on my mind right now.

7 Name: Amuna : 2014-12-08 21:03 ID:8svyY9ca [Del]

>>2>>3 All you need is one friend. One true friend. Who care's about having so many friends if they are not "true" friends who just use you for entertainment or anything. All you need is that one friend and you are all good. Take time, i've had friends for all my life but have i found that ONE friend? No, i haven't im surrounded by people who use you for entertainment and make you feel bad. Make you feeling lonely, left out, need to not be yourself. Wait for that day you find a genuine friend, who cares for you, won't make you feel left out.

8 Name: Dummy : 2014-12-08 21:52 ID:/VVddIH4 [Del]

>>3
Tell your demons to shut the fuck up by proving them wrong.
>>2
Pursue hobbies/interests/activities through which you can bond with others.
>>6
Your mother does sound annoying. Get her to catch you talking on the phone with one of your buddies, or have her pick you guys up from a movie or whatever.
>>7
>one good friend
truth. but what's just as important is to push your boundaries and change your scenery.

i.e., I was the most awkward kid I knew until I befriend my ttRPG's GM, a dude twice my age whose background, experiences, temperament, and outlook was nearly the exact opposite to mine. Many, many times the man has challenged/called me out on my behavior and thinking -- it came down to choosing to either adapt or (socially) die. I chose the former, 'cause it's better to try a new path than wearily trod down the same old one till the cows come home.

9 Name: Chi-chan : 2014-12-08 22:14 ID:AderR+RH [Del]

Why yes, I feel that way most of the times actually...being alone, in my opinion make me feel more peaceful for some reason. There must be a price to pay to form a bonds between peoples, whether it's sorrow, anguish, or anger. But depends on how we react, those bond will become out strength...but for me, I dunno, until now Chi-chan doesn't have any motivation or will on my own...some people said Chi-chan is a person without emotion.

You see, every time people betray me or make me sad my reaction was just like, "I knew it". It seems like betrayal or broken friendship doesn't scared me anymore, in fact I'm kinda scared of myself...I'm scared that I might lost my senses of those who I hold dear, because I stop believing anyone until now.

10 Name: Dummy : 2014-12-08 22:19 ID:/VVddIH4 [Del]

>>9
You win "Cynic of the Year Award", congrats.

Are you secretly a robot from Mars??

(jk)

11 Name: Chi-chan : 2014-12-09 03:14 ID:mSylv2JI [Del]

>>10
I must say Chi-chan is offended but no matter, Chi-chan just want to let off some steam~
I met someone who cause my trauma face to face today, and it trigger some bad memories. What a fucked up day...sorry for Chi-chan rude words :3

12 Name: Amuna : 2014-12-09 04:06 ID:TJ67ez3h [Del]

>>9 I Agree with you, it's more comfortable being alone and befriending someone needs you to pay a price. The worst is that you don't know you've been betrayed and it's after you've been betrayed you realised it's the worst of all feeling. >>11 lol in another post i was going to swear but I stopped and thought.. Is it allowed? So I used fricken instead of fuckin :D the first world problems