Okay first, i want to ask you something, can i trust my mom with secrets involving my friends? Will she keep it to herself if i beg her and make her realize how important it is to not tell anyone?
Okay, now, onto the story. You see, i have 4 best friends, lets call them A, B, C and D. Recently, the four of them stared hanging out with people who drink and smoke. At first it was all okay but a few weeks ago i found that A is smoking and drinking a lot. And then when the 5 of us had a sleepover the other 3 tried it too and since then B, C and D smoke and drink occasionally but their parents dont know. Because im a person who is against lying and stuff like that i told my mom everything, or more like i added details to the story ive been telling her for years. Yeah i told my mom that my friends smoke and drink but i also BEGGED her not to tell their parents because these friends are REALLY important to me and even if they are like that we're really close and i dont want to lose them. My mom promised she wont tell anyone and i trusted her. When i told A, B and D that my mom knows they werent really angry but when today i told C about my mom she got REALLY angry and now she wont talk to me... and because of that im also thinking that i shouldnt trust my mom with these stuff even though i told her about the smoking a month ago and still no one knows

......dude get a hold of yourself! If you don't like what they are doing say it! And how can u not trust your own mother?! And also these people A,B,C,D are really idiotic! I'm sorry but if they are important to you and you care about them then why don't you tell them that?! They are damaging themselves and shortening their lives so tell them to stop to live and be happy! And why are they angry?! you car about them that's why u told your Mom...We have mothers for this kind of this type of
reason and if you can't even trust your own mother that's sad. But if your friends and aren't minors them it's okay and it's their life they can lead it however they want!

The thing is i DO trust my mom, they say i shouldnt because shes gonna tell their parents and i keep on telling them she wont unless i say its okay to do it. Im gonna talk to them about it the next time we get together but knowing how stubborn they are, its not gonna work, also since i mentioned smoking, anyone know a way to make my dad stop smoking ?

You wouldn't have a problem if you knew how information worked. The information you give out has consequences. If they drink and smoke whatever they like doing it then let them do it. The alcohol and cigarettes aren't going to kill them, do you believe everything you see on TV? They'll be fine if they're competent. C is angry that sucks but if your mom hasn't said anything then you can keep trusting her. Your situation is so trivial, it's not that big of a deal.

You know, your friend C is a dick but then she's a teenager and she may not know it but you were a very honest friend. If she can't see past that then she's not worth to keep, imo. Also, your mother didn't break your trust even if she ought to.

Please remember that even if alcohol and cigarettes won't kill you right away, they're gateway drugs. Now I don't want to sound like a prude but that's what statistics say. I would rather err in the side of caution. Keeping the smoking and drinking situation from parents is a normal teenager thing to do but you know, I'm not sure if that's more of a pro or a con.

Just my two cents.