Hi, I did another thread a while ago about how I was in love with another guy, even though I'm a dude. But long story short me and the guy ,who turned out to be in the closet, hooked up and dated for a while in secret. But he not to long ago rejected me because he was ashamed. Because he has a big brother that's a total dick and a dad that REALLY are not to fond of the man on man crowd. His bro and dad still say fag, who says fag in 2014! His brother who is smarter than you think he'd be (The big bro wasted his college fund on a fucking car!) apparently figured out that the guy and me had a more than a friendship going on. Luckily the bro suspects that, he doesn't know that. But the guy was worried that he'd be outed, and broke up with me. I see him in the hallway everyday and every time I see him it's like I'm getting kick in the balls while being stabbed in the face. When I try to talk to him but he ignores me and walks away. I've never love a boy in my life, up til last year I've always dated girls but now I'm confused and lonely. Theirs one other guy that makes it hurt a little less, but I'm pretty sure that he's not gay, so I'm not gonna make a move. I need immediate help.

It's 2014 and people are still calling others niggers, the hate never stops my friend. Anyway that tragic to hear (im straight and kinda homophobic, but im going to help you the best I can). There's no fucking reason to end your relationship because for a fucked-up brother. Let your ex know that and try to get back together, be forward toward him and you can still keep the relationship a secret from his parent's, just kind of act more "bro-ish" together so they don't suspect anything. It's not easy living with secrets but if you do manege long enough you can get a place for yourselves and continue with no interruptions, you just run the risk of them finding out and then all hell breaks loose for the two of you, but love isn't ever easy. That's about all I have, hope I helped somehow.

You can't help who you fall in love with but i knda went through the same things with a girl an her parents found out we were having sex we were both young i was 13 an so was she an she just turn her back on me at her house ween i was talking to her she just walked up the steps my heart sunk i felt betrayed my grandfather asked me if i was ok with it an if i was serious about her i didn't understand what he ment at that time i was only 13 an i had adhd ween i was a kid i wished i would have ran up those steps after her then now looking back now but i was just to young to understand im 21 now i've been in alot of relationships since then but no relationship has scared me more because i really loved her

take a chance just don't blame me if it doesn't work out doing nothing just leaves a bigger scare an leads to regret are you serious about this person if you do take chance an it doesn't work well you gave it a try at least you tried an if it does well i wish you a happy life an i hope all your days are beautiful & bright happy thanks given bud i hope it all works out

I know this might be much, but I wanna describe him. He's a guy of Italian descent, so he has a olive tone that makes it look like he just had a tan. He's as tall as me (not a lot of people are as tall as me). He's kinda muscular, but not really, it's mostly flab, but he works out enough that it's not an issue. But the cute but funny thing about him is that he has a childish innocent nature. That kind of nature that says "I know that I'm growing up and I need to get with the program but, I'll be young forever" that's what I love about him.

To get rid of the confusion before it starts, the guy who broke up with me let's call him G-man and the other guy who I mentioned who I know isn't gay, R-man. R-man is a guy who I think is half black and half white, I'm not totally sure. Has black hair, weirdly soft hands. But the really weird thing is that he's pretty skinny but very strong. He has vibe around him that says he's everyone's best friend.

For me, my life as a male teenager are really confusing. I can't describe it as it's rather complicated. Briefly, I had a crush on few girls but my recent crush also had a crush on me. I kinda have a weird feeling and started to lose feeling on her... I feel shes rather creepy, follow me everywhere, trying to touch me... LOL. In the end I lose interest on her but I found I'm into shounen ai anime. I'm not a homophobic. So... confused.

I'm not quite sure, I've never dealt with a situation like this. I know confront your ex-boyfriend's brother and father, if they can't accept him and you for who you are than call me! I'll knock their blocks off! My number is(724) 415-8333, like before I'll always help my friends

Thanks Aichi Niomi, I really am grateful but if anyone's gonna fight it'll be me.

I have good news and bad news, mostly bad. G-Man's talking to me again. He came to my house yesterday to chat with me and watch some movies. It kinda threw me off because he hasn't talked to me in so long then he all of a sudden he what's to hang with me. But it felt good to be with him again even though we're not back together. But the house visit went south. He told me that he was gonna come out to his brother and dad. It was at that moment that I knew that he must have lost his fuckin' mind. I wasn't joking when I said that his bro and pa aren't okay with the man on man crowd. I know for sure that the very worst is probably gonna happen. So I told him that he was crazy but I regretted it right after, because as soon as I said it he broke down. When I say broke down I mean he started crying to the point I had to hold him. After he calmed down he told me he was sorry for turning me down and that he loved me but wasn't ready to date me again. But our relationship isn't really what I'm worried about, I'm worried about what'll happen after he comes out.

Need help.

Well it sounds like G-man got some balls, I can appreciate his bravery. Though I can't imagine what its like to keep that fear of his bottled up for so long, I mean he can't keep it a secret forever right? You say things will go south so when they do you should already know that G-man is probably going to go to you fore comfort. It's going to be up to you if you want to take on that responsibility or not, just be ready for it. I hope for the best of you, im sorry to say there is little you can do to stop him it seams.

If you already know that G-man's father and brother are going to cause trouble if he comes out, I don't think he should tell them. Remember, he has to live under the same roof with these people. If they are as homophobic as you say they are they will either treat him like shit, causing him to fall into a full-blown depression (which is dangerous) or they could kick him out and he'd have nowhere to go. One he has moved out and has his own life, he can tell them if he feels he has to. If you two want to date, I'd suggest you do so secretly.
Good luck.

And if things "go south" and out of hand, contact these people:

http://bacaworld.org/

(If you are in the USA.)

Thanks seeneed

I can't influence G-Man's decision, for two reasons. One, he seems pretty freakin' resolved and I can't talk him out of it. Two, even if he waits til he moves out to come out to his dad and brother,they will still probably hate him and try to ruin his life. So I'll try to be there for him as much as I can.

G-Man did the craziest thing yesterday. He came out during thanksgiving. His whole family was there, even his mom who he rarely sees. I wasn't there but he told me about it, right after dinner they all went to the living room were he told them the big secret. He told me that after he told them they seemed pretty shocked. After everyone left his dad cussed him out like crazy. Now his dad won't even look at him. So he spent last night with me. He might stay with me for a while at least until his dad calms down.

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So much can happen from here on out it's unpredictable, your not going to like it but the only thing you can do now at this point is stay strong for the both of you and you'll have to wait to see how everything plays out.

Awwww this is a really sweet story =3. I'm so sorry this is happening to you Love99. But keep trying don't give up on love no matter what. I did that once and now my heart is locked i wish i could meet some one sweet and nice. You just need to keep going no matter how many times you get thrown down get back up and with more might and if you can't by yourself find some one who can help you up every time you fall!

Man I wish i could find a nice guy BTW Love99 G-man when you described him sounds like he looks and acts a little like me
0-0 except i'm not Italian i'm mexican and idk how tall you are. I hope you two can get back together.

Ness I'm 6 feet and 7 inches

well, I think it would be safe to make sure that people are leaning the same way you are. there is absolutely nothing wrong with being attracted to same sex. You shouldn't have to be confused because you are not alone, there are billions op people out there.

Before he came out he didn't like me telling this story. But now he doesn't mind. When we first meet, I had no idea he was gay. I just thought he was another wannabe jock. First when we were friends I was totally obsessed with him I didn't know why and I didn't even consider the idea I that I liked him. He seemed to be a pretty cool guy that I had gym with. But something that I noticed about him is that he seemed to hang out with guys more than girls. I understand enjoying the company of man but he seemed to enjoy it too much because whenever a cute sexy girl came on to him he turned them down. But the thing that was a dead giveaway was that he got boners in the locker room. I hung out with him in and out of school a lot. One day when we were at the YMCA together I noticed how beautiful he was and I told him I loved him. At first he was playing "straight" but with time he admitted he was gay then we started dating.

Love99 Your taller than me I like tall guys. 0-0 Man you guys sound like something out of a romance story. I ship you guys but still you two should be together. Maybe if you just give it time or talk to him he'll understand how your feeling
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P.S If it sounds like i'm hitting on you I'm not I'm just trying to make conversation. Yesterday on the chat some one was giving me crap about that. But i really do care and feel sympathy compassion and affection towards this. I feel like same sex couples get treated like dirt and it's not fair.

I've been talking a lot about G-Man, so let's talk about me. It's just my granddad and me. I have a older sister who's 5 years older that me who moved out a while ago. I've with my granddad because my dad and mom died couple of years ago. My granddad doesn't care if I'm gay or not, just as long as I move out as soon as I'm done with school. I rarely see my sister but I hear she's doing good.

So how old are you now Love99

No offense but I don't like telling my age but I'm old enough to be in high school.

There's no reason not to tell my age I'm 17, ness

Cool your a year older than me!

The craziest thing happened today. G-Man's brother came by today. I was out picking up some stuff for my granddad. So I came home and I saw someone's car in the driveway. So I had to park across the street. So I go inside and I felt like I walked into a standoff. G-Man and his big bro where sitting in the living room having a major argument and they looking at each other like they were about to have a shoot out. I was half tempted to run out of my own house. So I figured that it was best to ask the bro to leave. Then he turned around and looked at me like he was about to hit me. Then he got up and walked out. As he walked out he said fag under his breath. His G-Man's brother may be short but that fuckers more intimidating than I thought. But I know this for sure if he ever tries to hit me I'm gonna kick his short ass. But I asked G-Man about what his dick head brother wanted. He told me that their dad was considering the idea of sending him to live with his mom! I understand that their dad isn't happy about G-Man but the fact that he's considering that shows that he doesn't have that much love for his son in my opinion.

Guys, only listen to the Love99 that has the ID:uyTT4Jm/ The other ones are fake. Just look at the ID of the one that posted the thread.

All of the post up here are by me, they only seem different because I've been resetting my device so the I.D changes.

Need advice.

Wow thats fucking insane! your right that guy must love his son if he's just sending him away like a bad christmas gift. What an asshole! LOve99 I know this may seem like bad advice but i don't think you can do anything unless you can move with G-man. G-man's dad doesn't seem to the type to listen to some one who is gay.

G-man's father is honestly just acting human, to be afraid of something he doesn't understand. It's not fair to disown your child like that or even reasonable but give him a month or several years his father might be able to make peace with him, I have some personal experience myself (though im not going to tell my story because this is about you). Now G-man can give his father the patience for this or just hate him; ether one is good but I like happy endings so I hope he can do that for his father, if not oh well G-man will be fine anyway. I think you two can get through this just fine at this point, somethings may change and he might have to live with his mother but on the bright side G-man will finally be free of keep his secret locked up after all these years. Of course this also means more hard times are going to follow; like maybe harassment at your school but I know you've got the strength to get though it. You'll be alright and the Dollars will always be here.

G-Man is in a bad place right now. (Not literally, he's in the shower right now as I post this.) What I mean by he's in a "bad place" is he's pretty depressed. For the past two days all he's doing is act like a zombie. By zombie I mean he's been doing nothing but laying around and eating. I can't blame him for being depressed, I mean most of his family turned their backs on him who wouldn't be depressed. Now I'm trying to help him as much as I can to keep him from doing the very worst. Good news though his mom seems more well adjusted to the gay thing.

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look im gay and i just had my heart broken and it was my first love and well shes like a drug i cant get enough but i know i shouldn't she says shes straight now but shes always been an in the closet bi and i think her family almost found out so but she was my first kiss to well i went to make a move and then found out she had a bf and has a crush on this guy in one of the classes we have together well every time i see her face i die on the inside a little more im becoming a hallow shell and i have depression problems having barely stopped my self her killing myself or even cutting im hanging my self by a thread barely holding on to my humanity and sanity even though i have little of it im in the same kind of boat

G-Man's gone and it hurts so much. I 've never felt this much pain before. G-Man's finally left to live with his mom. Like I said before his mom is more adjusted to the idea of him being gay. She's so okay with it that she doesn't mind if I stay in contact with him, she's even encouraging our relationship. But G-Man left three days ago. I wanna lie and say our goodbye was one of those emotional goodbyes like on t.v, but it wasn't like that. We hugged each other for like a second or two. Then I kinda ruined the moment. I tried to kiss him but he told me no. He wasn't really ready to do that again, plus he probably felt uncomfortable having his family watching him like a time bomb. But he promised that he'd stay in contact with me and when he's ready to be with me again he'll invite me to his mom's place for a while. But I'm not gonna expect him to be faithful to me, because by the time he's figured things out for himself he'll have probably have found someone else, plus I've tried long distance relationships and they don't work out. But as long as G-Man's happy I don't really care. I've practically already ruined his life so I owe him that.

Only one good thing come out of this whole thing. It brought me closer to R-Man. I mentioned him earlier. But R-Man is a friend of mine who I secretly have had a crush on. I know that he isn't gay but being around him has really helped me. Also it turns out that he isn't black or white, he's Moroccan. I've been keeping him in the loop about what's been happening. He was shocked as hell to know that I was gay. He doesn't have a problem with it, it's just that he didn't expect G-Man or me to be gay. He has a lot of sympathy towards G-Man and me. R-Man is a good guy and I just wanted to mention him, it's my way of saying to myself that no matter how bad things turn out one good thing happens.

I know that the whole ordeal is more or less over, but am I wrong for crushing on R-Man like a horny school girl (or school boy).

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i think you'd get better answers if you called the trevor project.my advice from personal experience-
give him some space, give yourself some time. and i dont mean rethink it, but get some time for yourself, pin it up on a stickynote or reminder, dont forget about it, but don't let it take over your whole life. you could be pan or bi, dont worry about it, /the sun is yellow- joeyblondewolf2/
you won't be alone forever, dont think life is over, he may be the one or he might not be.

For a man...you're a very expressive person...it's kind of the exact opposite of me and I'm surprised (￣▽￣)

In my opinion, you don't have to worry about it. I also had the same experience and stressed over it...but after thinking about it for a while, it doesn't really matter you know? If his presence only brings you down, why would you hold onto it? It is my logic btw. In the end, there always someone who will fated to be with you.
So no need to worry, although this is just my opinion (⌒-⌒; )