I know this may seem stupid to you but it's really important to me, how do you find a boyfriend if you're not populat or really beautiful?

You talk to people and find who you like and who likes you. You don't get an extra bonus motivator if you aren't amazingly good looking, but it's not as if it's impossible. I'm sure there are guys that are pretty much in the exact same situation.

>>2 then how would i know if this person likes me or not? should i ask directly? wouldn't it seem awkward? and what if im this awkward person who cant think of an interesting topic to keep the conversation going and keep him interested in me? well?

>>5 exactly what i was thinking!!!

>>5 You should spend enough time with them to know that you like them, not just at a first glance. There's no magic way to know, you have to ask them. Why on Earth does it matter if it's "awkward"? If they don't like you, you aren't going to be spending a lot more time with them, are you? It would seem counterproductive. That being said, you should spend a good deal of time with them first, so that you can both get a feeling for each other. Conversation comes naturally at that point, to start off you just have to do the basic "What do you do, where do you come from, what are your likes and dislikes", etc. You don't usually start off with a super interesting conversation, I have yet to meet someone in that circumstance.

Also remember, everyone you talk to is wondering the exact same thing as you are right now. They are, more often than not, in your boat as well. Keep this in mind.

I'm not an expert by any means, but this is what I've learned.

Doesn't matter, find someone with the same interests and a good personality. Then get to know them, ta-da.

If you're having trouble finding a topic to talk about with another person the best way to find one is to talk about something you find interesting. If the other person doesn't respond too well like just continuously saying "yea" "ok" "cool" then the person isn't interested in talking. Another thing to keep in mind, leave all that bullshit of being "popular" or "beautiful" things like that show that you as a person have no confidence, low self esteem and simply put you're boring. Looks don't matter as much as you think it does. If you're as boring as you seem in this thread as you are in reality, thats the reason why you're having a hard time being in a relationship. If I'm coming off as harsh and you feel offended, congrats to you, I simply do not care. Hopefully you'll take my advice if not either way I'd like to see the outcome.

be a otsku

First, fall in love with yourself.
Lets cut the crap, looks do matter, you don't have to be the most beautiful girl alive, but learning how to dress properly and look good it's kind of mandatory.

"But personality is what matters most..."

What kind of personality does a person, who can't give a rats ass to his self image, have?

Dressing properly, doing sports and taking care of your body, is more then a sexist view of the world, it is taking care of your health, both mental and physical.

Hobbies, find things you like to do, soon enough you will find people who like to do the same things. Get to know them and good luck, because anything can happen.

>>11
This
so hard

if you start the day off with a smile be cind no moping around and act like you you may find others respond well to a smile and talk to people often the worst that could happen is they dont talk to you but if they do thay may be your friends if you have friends you have fun and look happy that gets us to notice you evin more so have fun we have experasion dates

Just in general be yourself, because you cant force love. It just comes whenever.

A friend told me something while i was feeling alone and just thought that i wanted to be in a relationship. this is what he said: "Don't think about being with someone if you can't take being alone." basically, you need to accept yourself for who you are before you begin looking for someone to compliment you. The sooner that you can continue to be yourself around everyone, the more positively people will look at you. eventually love will just happen.

just remember, love is like a fart; if you have to force it, it's probably crap.

well just act what you normally act like. Be honest to yourself and to others. No False personality, that will always lead to bad things. So straighten up, do what you always do, and loosen up a bit. not that my suggestion helps, just saying that you should do what you always do when there are other people.