You said your mom wanted you to pass the sacrament, but is that something you want to do? If not, then don't, it really is your choice. Even if it comes down to you being forced to do that, it's better to lie to them rather than to accept punishment. After all they aren't saints either. They've lied, they've had sex also. How can they judge you for the same "sins" they've also committed? In short, you have three options. Lie and avoid the consequences of the truth, Tell the truth and face what happens head on, or just don't do the interview.
That really doesn't sound like a healthy way for a church to operate. God is the only who decides who is worthy and he's already forgiven you or is at least prepared to!
I'd say either don't lie but stand up for yourself for which you will probably catch a huge amount of flak and trouble, or don't do the interview. I suspect the interview isn't done in a loving way, but I hope I'm wrong.
i suppose it depends on how understanding the people in your church are. when i went through confirmation (which was a class to prepare for first communion) our pastor told us several times "if your parents are making you do this, if you really don't believe, then don't do it." i mean, of course he WANTS us to, but i think he was trying to say it's not good to lie about what we think, either.
Mathwyn is right: pray about it. if you think there's anyone connected to your church that would understand your position, talk with them. and see what they have to say.
Um, please don't read this post in a reprimanding manner, 'cause I really care about your welfare okay?
You see, for now, you can tell your mother that maybe you can't. For starters, you should recognize your own mistakes, okay? Pray in faith to receive the Lord's forgiveness, and also to soften the heart of your mother for her to be able to accept what you've done, because it will still come down to that.
People make mistakes, I know that, but God forgives, but we have to do our part as well. Your mother is probably concerned and wants what's good for you, but you will have to tell her what you've done.
I must've been talking in circles. Hey, I really want to help you, and I hope I could talk to you a bit privately, but that's impossible right?
You know what, my best advice for you: You can talk to your bishop, (I hope I'm assuming your religion right, I think I am, but I'm unsure) but I know that's going to take a lot of courage.
When it comes to organized, it's best to take everything with a grain of salt. Don't worry about what your mom or pastor thinks, like >>3 said, what's most important is your relationship with your God.
If I was in your shoes, I'd refuse to pass the sacrament. No matter how many times they claim, "This is totally an undisclosed interview that we won't share with anyone!" they'll definitely tell your mom one way or another if you say you're not a virgin.
Better to face the wrath of your mom for not wanting to join religious services than to face the constant ridicule that may come with her knowing you're not virgin.
