ok i moved out of my moms like atwo months ago but she keeps getting mad at me nothing but the fact i moved in with my real dad that doesnt meke me do everything or controle what i do and i just want to let her know that what i have done is for my own good not for my father or to make her look bad and she keeps trying to gilt me and i joined the military to also help me out in life but im stuck till i ship off

She is probably just upset/worried/hurt that you ran off to the military. I have a friend in a similar situation struggling through that with his mother. She basically kicked him out of the house while he was visiting and we hung out at the park at midnight (until the cop found us :P) Then he drove off to west va to be with the rest of his family until he got called back... The only think you can do is tell her you lover her and wait for her to accept it :/ I wish I could help more.

Sometimes you just need to ignore people and do whatever you want to do with your life. That being said, cutting off all ties with your mom and hardly ever speaking to her is a terrible idea. You just have to accept the fact that she probably won't be supportive of this for a while, but not let that stop you (it doesn't sound like you would let that stop you, anyway).