so, i started my first year in highschool. So far, i thought it was a really nice place. but ive started to doubt that.

For a long time now, ive been extremly scared of making friends, for many of them betray me. I want to make friends, but im scared. I dont want anyone to betray me, ever. I hate getting stabbed in the back. Worse, i cant stop trusting, but i dont want to trust.

I already started getting backstabbed, and it hasnt even been long. So members of Dollars, please tell me. What should I do if I dont want to get hurt.

you shouldn t not tell secrets to anyone , the only ones that can keep secrets is the dead people , to callp a friend to somebody is complicated because you should not considered very people you're freind, just try not to tell anything that could result in betrayl , if you want to talk to somebody , talk to you're mother,father or brothers beacause they are teh only people you can trust , i know ir is sad but that is life

Haruka I can relate. I have been stabbed in the back by many people that I have trusted, it all started from when i was in 3rd grade. I helped someone who i thought was getting bullied, that trust have lasted for 3 years, for those 3 years i am being stabbed in the back. you can't trust someone but can't stop trusting them? then be a 2 faced person. one your good side, one your evil side. if you truly want to trust some people that you don't think they're gonna stab you in the back, then that is the time that you remove your 2 faced mask, if you really can't trust them, just pretend and ride the waves, even if they stab you in the back, you just get along with it that they don't notice that they are getting stabbed in the back instead.

I honestly can relate with this, all throughout high school I had a lot of issues with people betraying me in various ways. I still do.
I'm sorry to break it to you, but unfortunately this is just a part of life. Some people are going to hurt you.
It's OK to be scared of making friends and being hurt, BUT, if you don't let yourself trust enough to make friends, you might miss out on some really wonderful opportunities!
Getting hurt is OK too, so long as you learn from it. Use it as a way to be able to tell when someone is going to do the same thing again. It will help you very much in the future.
I saw someone mention secrets? I believe very much in 'honesty is the best policy'. Why? Because if you're honest and upfront about things, no one can use it as ammunition against you.
And when it comes down to things like people you like... just don't tell anyone... cause shhhh... that's a big secret ;)

Just try to have a fun time and don't tell your secrets to anyone. If your current friends are backstabbing you then they really aren't your friends, so try to make new ones if possible. If you don't want to get hurt, really just try not to tell your secrets, because people hold grudges and will use it against you.

That's not an issue with high school - that's an issue with your friend choices. Be more picky about who you hang out with. Don't play goody-friend-friend with people who don't seem trustworthy or are a bad influence. No, it won't make you popular, and it may sound like a mean thing to do, but it's the intelligent way to go about it.

And as the others have said, secrets are secrets for a reason. You don't tell "friends" your secrets unless you're okay with them being public, because that's what's going to happen soon enough. It's not private once you open your mouth about it.

If you don't want to be stabbed in the back by others then make yourself known as a threat. People will stab you in the back because they can and they want to and the consequences are insignificant. No one has tried to stab me in the back simply because I am a threat to them in someway. If you want friends learn what a real friend is. People are manipulative some better than others. I suggest you become one that's better than one.

Try to be caring; show that you're someone who can be relied w someone else's feelings, and you'll be trusted w those of others

If you dont want to get hurt I have the perfect advise, go deep deep into the forest and build a cottage, there you can live the rest of your life alone and free of any chance that someone will hurt you.

Alternatively you can take a scale and put the possibility of getting hurt on one side and all that you gain on the other.

People will hurt you, you will hurt others, sadly that is human nature, we are fragile and stupid.
Do you think you are alone with your fears? if so you would be suprised :)
Trust me as someone who has experience, you might feel abit safer if you avoid all contact but you will never be happy, put yourself out there and take it as it comes, if you get hurt you get hurt, bounce back and try again for the moments inbetween will be worth far more than what you save by hiding from the world!