Hello guys, I just wanna share my story and all...you know, I have a friend. He is a guy and he had this strange hobby of ruining someone life, including my life and my friend life. We know each other since 7th grade, and we've been having a lots and lots of fight. Although this year, it looks like we manage to become Friends and talk to each other despite his sick hobby of manipulating others.

Then one day, I had this great idea of having vacation when the exams over, we're sort of excited but when I mention my guy friend name, they don't want to come. Because most of my friend despised him, because he always hurt me in the past...but I already forgive him, so what should I do now?

I think you should explain your other friends that you forgave him and that they should give him a chance,maybe he changed this time for the good.

Yeah, I guess you're right...but actually there's more than that. This guy...he still have the tendency to hurt others again. He almost make my friend suicide for goodness sakes! He used to blackmail me all the time...he loves manipulating people. I know that he's wrong. But for some reason I can't leave him...because I know he's just lonely...

And actually...we used to be 'couples', but we break up because he admit that he's actually only manipulating me...

And this year, he apologize to me...that's why we able to become friends...but it looks like my other friend still dislike him

You have to tell him to behave or not come because you want to have a good time with your friends and him. That he means a lot to you and you just don't feel right leaving him behind. He should try hurting someone else not ppl he care for the most that's still around him.

I have to add this in. If he's really sorry you should ask him what's wrong and why he does it. You are there for him and seem nice but be careful with manipulating guys, don't let him control you and be brave to take on risk don't let him fear you.

Thank you @Roxanne,
I appreciate your advice, he's been messing around with people for a long time. Although this year, he tried not to manipulate again, because he actually confess to me that manipulating others is fun for him, he is addicted to it. Because controlling people gives him satisfaction...but of course, there's a time he almost wanted to control people and I would be the one who remind him...he's still addicted to it

I believe you can help him, hang in there. He doesn't sound like a complete jerk around you so I understand.

Somehow, I'm the only one who already get used with his sly attitude...I wished the others understand too...

Funny thing, he is still using you but you just don't notice it. Someone who likes to manipulate people is someone who feels powerless to a great extent and tries to erase that powerlessness by controlling others. In a certain that's impressive to see that he actually noticed that he will end up alone if he keeps doing that (that fear of being alone creates another feeling of powerlessness). To erase that other feeling, he had to admit to someone what he is doing in order to have someone to stay with him. He is simply using you to erase his fear of being alone in the end.

I know the risk of being a backstabber friend. I know that he will keep doing those horrible manipulating things to others if I didn't remind him, and there might be a chance that he only use me as his shield. But it doesn't really matter to me. But I know how it feels to be lonely and pathetic, that's why I decide to stay with him even though he's wrong.

And if he end up astray again, I will be the one who fix those manipulative attitude of his~

People using each other is a common phenomenon I suppose. A shy person would befriend with a loud and lousy person to gain protection, while the loud and lousy person befriend with a shy person to show others that he/she strong enough to defend her/himself.

It's an unending cycle of humans nature~
I know the risk of befriend with a backstabber, but humans being humans...they couldn't live without interacting with each other, that's why I help him out as a friend. Although the chance he could change into better might be small, I tried to believe that 1% of his

Well at least you are aware, so you won't be surprised if he ever was to backstab you.
But you are a good friend, he should consider himself lucky.

Thank you^^
Actually most of my friend said that I was being too kind...even my parents said that too...I don't really get it. What am I doing wrong...? Isn't it good to forgive people and become friends again?

Well it's true that you are being too kind, but there's nothing wrong with that. You are doing nothing wrong and it is a gift to be able to forgive people and become friends again. However, you view things from a different point of view than your friends and parents. While you decided to not care about suffering and instead care about your manipulative friend, your parents and your friends do not care about your manipulative friend, but instead care about you and don't want you to get hurt because of him. It's all a matter of who you put your attention on \(^~^)/

I see...I guess you're right about that :)