Right now I feel really selfish and sad, because I have this online friend who I love to talk with. I'd often stay up late just to chat with this person, because he would usually log on when I should be getting offline. He's told me he's been stressed by friends and family, and he'd give me little info, even though I try my best to help him. When I ask what's wrong and if he wanted to talk about it, he'd just reply with something like " Not really. Just want to play games. " And I feel hurt by that. I don't want to bug him, because I feel clingy and as if I'm easily annoying him. I always hate seeing him on and sending the first message, because once again, I feel clingy and like I'm annoying him. He often says things that slightly offend me, or hurt me, but I try to brush it off because that's how he is, and I don't think he knows that he offends me like that.

I'm somewhat shy towards him, meaning, once again, I'll send a message then quickly close the Skype chat, only hoping he replies with a " Hello " Or something similar. And, I can't just Skype call him with ease, I'd accidentally call him and he'd pick up and I'll freak out, not really wanting to call because I'm slightly awkward in calls with people I haven't known for a very very long time, like a few other friends I have, I'll be able to call them and be loud and happy, showing myself with camera on, but when I accidentally call him, once again, I nearly have a panic attack.

Any tips on how I can simply relax and be at ease when we talk, without being so tense? And no, I don't have a crush on him, in case you were wondering. Thanks.

( And BTW, I will not give out my Skype name, his real and Skype name, and other really personal info. )

I know some people are just brutally honest, but if he's offending you or being rude, you should let him know that. Doesn't matter what their like, if it's hurting your feelings, even a little then he shouldn't say those things.

It seems like he's going through some stuff and I think the best thing to do is just let him know that he can always talk to you about his problems, but not be intrusive. Not everyone is that open.

Just be calm and be yourself when you chat or skype. No need to get nervous. Imagine talking to one of your really close friends. It seems like you really like this guy? Just be considerate and make sure he's considerate too. Wouldn't be fair to you if he didn't treat you the same way you treat him.

I'm sorry if it wasn't much help, but it's the best I can do. Hope it helps.

Yeah, I guess I do like him? But not really in that type of way. And thank you. I'll try.

How well do you know this person? If you can't yet be yourself when talking to him, then you shouldn't expect him to open up to you. I imagine with the awkwardness your sending him, he is getting a wrong idea, or just doesn't feel like he knows you or can really talk to you, especially with as flighty as your being towards talking to him. Try to relax, and put yourself in his mindset when your getting ready to talk to him, that way you'll understand a bit more of what he might be expecting when he opens up to you, and you can try to be as supportive as you need to be.

Oh and before I forget, you really shouldn't be offended when he turns down your offer to talk about his problems, they might just not be as serious as you think, and even if it is, when it comes down to it it's not your business whether he talks to you about it or not, it's his issues and life not yours. I'm not saying that in a mean way or anything, but you should understand