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Love advice please help! (6)

1 Name: Julie : 2014-09-11 04:50 ID:LAR+/rA9 [Del]

Okay guys there is this boy I really like. When we talk he smiles and i find it cute.
When he walks in my friends are all like ôwô
And i think he knows ;~;

He is a loner and when we talk i ask questions. He doesnt like talking >~<
He sits alone in class in lunch breaks all alone...

How can I talk to him?

2 Name: Blinking!!VVr++Kk/ : 2014-09-11 04:56 ID:o3S/lMBA [Del]

Find out what he likes and talk about that. Even the quietest and most introverted people like talking about their interests.

3 Name: Kronos : 2014-09-11 14:38 ID:a/zRTAFZ [Del]

As you were already told, find out what he likes. Do some research on Facebook, ask people who know him better.

Don't be assertive though, he seems to be an introvert. And also, don't be around him too much. He wouldn't like it!

Be kind, ask him if he minds you talking to him /sitting with him, ask if you're a bother to him. Try to talk about stuff he likes.

Of course, if your personality is opposite from him, it will be difficult to get him to like you.

If he has Facebook or whatever, try to talk to him there. Many introverts are much more open and relaxed when talking online.

Good luck!

4 Name: Julie : 2014-09-12 07:56 ID:/X8k9WpR [Del]

>>2 & >>3
Thanks a lot!
Actually we are the same. We like the same stuff and he is kind of shy. My friend told me that he never smiles but when I talk to him he is always smiling. And people say he looks at me and all...
I like talking to him but you see im just so shy to go and talk to him...
>~<

5 Name: SmileyFaceShoes : 2014-09-12 13:33 ID:YlLV8HhS [Del]

You have to get him to open up to you. I had this problem with a girl once. And as Kronos said, ask if you're a bother to him. Try not to ask too many times though, that situation can get quite repetitive and boring. And definitely what Kronos said about the online talking. The thing is though that you shouldn't rely on it too much. If ya'll only talk online, in person may become harder, especially with 2 shy people. You may have to get over your shyness sometimes, and you may have to get him to get over his sometimes as well.

6 Name: Anonymous : 2014-09-13 14:18 ID:BtZJrj1u [Del]

>>4
Its nice, to be shy and all I mean, but thats probably just an awkward stage of his life (and probably yours too), if he gets bullied or ostracized (because hes a loner?) then I think you must either help him get over whatever pain he is feeling (he wouldnt be a loner if he was afraid of something) or simply spend as much time with him as possible without irritating his (probably already) painful life (being a loner sucks), by this I mean just hanging out with him whenever he's around and being assertive. Do not force it, because being shy is not a proper way to establish a relationship. Feel free to dismiss anything I said because I just watched "ao haru ride" which I think is similar to your situation